July 2, 2020

When We Should Stay Silent

When We Should Stay Silent

We are called to speak out against abortion but there are times when the Bible tells us to stay silent. The book of Proverbs gives a lot of wisdom on when we should keep our mouths shut. Join Vicky and Daniel as they share some personal experience of...


We are called to speak out against abortion but there are times when the Bible tells us to stay silent. The book of Proverbs gives a lot of wisdom on when we should keep our mouths shut. Join Vicky and Daniel as they share some personal experience of when God has used silence to reach abortion-minded women.

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.879 So Jesus knew when to feed the mop, stir up the mob, leave 2 00:00:03.919 --> 00:00:08.189 the mob and stay silent before the mob. And my prayer is and hopefully 3 00:00:08.269 --> 00:00:12.150 this podcast you guys will be praying through like Lord, when do I keep 4 00:00:12.189 --> 00:00:18.149 my mouth shut? I Am Yours, I am yours, I am yours. 5 00:00:18.469 --> 00:00:21.940 Welcome to the Gospel Center pro life podcast. This episode we're going to 6 00:00:21.980 --> 00:00:25.780 talk about silence, when to stay silent, in the wisdom that God's work 7 00:00:25.859 --> 00:00:29.899 gives us of when to keep our mouth shut. So stay too. I 8 00:00:30.100 --> 00:00:39.490 am yours. Send Me Lord, Send Me Lord. I felt show passish, 9 00:00:40.570 --> 00:00:50.640 touch your heart. Use. Welcome to the Gospel centered pro life podcast. 10 00:00:50.920 --> 00:00:55.240 We appreciate you guys listening and hope that these podcasts are a blessing to 11 00:00:55.280 --> 00:01:00.840 you. This podcast is going to cover maybe something we've never covered before and 12 00:01:02.079 --> 00:01:06.950 something that we typically discourage people from. That's R actually unusual listening. It 13 00:01:07.189 --> 00:01:12.549 is because primarily we're pushing proverbs. Thirty one versus eight and nine right, 14 00:01:12.909 --> 00:01:17.150 open your mouth for the speechless. Open your mouth. Guess. Yes, 15 00:01:17.269 --> 00:01:19.019 he's got to open our mouth and speak on behalf of those I can't speak 16 00:01:19.019 --> 00:01:26.060 for themselves, but this podcast is going to be talking about silence. So 17 00:01:26.379 --> 00:01:32.969 for our silence podcast, let's have a moment of silence. Okay, that's 18 00:01:33.010 --> 00:01:36.409 a very hard to do really, you know what, being silent and some 19 00:01:36.890 --> 00:01:40.129 for some people, like for me, it's actually harder, yeah, than 20 00:01:40.329 --> 00:01:42.209 speaking. And I and so this, this is a good podcast for me, 21 00:01:42.290 --> 00:01:48.280 because there are times when we really need to be silent and we're not, 22 00:01:48.840 --> 00:01:52.519 and that can be destructive. Yeah, it can be destructive. It 23 00:01:52.640 --> 00:01:57.200 can be destructive to what our goal is, if our goal is to bring 24 00:01:57.280 --> 00:02:00.120 the Gospel and change hearts and minds about abortion, it can be destructive to 25 00:02:00.200 --> 00:02:02.989 that end, believe it or not, but also can be destructive for you. 26 00:02:04.750 --> 00:02:07.390 Well, I give you don't know when to keep your mouth shut, 27 00:02:07.310 --> 00:02:13.990 then it could cause you some even the potentially physical injury. Well, see, 28 00:02:14.110 --> 00:02:17.020 now that's the interesting thing is is this, this whole podcast, kind 29 00:02:17.060 --> 00:02:23.379 of developed because I have vocal cord to strain and I've had it for a 30 00:02:23.580 --> 00:02:28.780 long time and it's slowly, slowly getting better, but very slowly, and 31 00:02:28.979 --> 00:02:32.889 I have been forced to be silent and I've had to be very careful when 32 00:02:32.930 --> 00:02:37.530 I speak, who I speak to. I have to really be kind of 33 00:02:37.650 --> 00:02:42.969 stinchy with my words. And that is a brand new experience to me. 34 00:02:43.449 --> 00:02:47.919 Whether God brought this on or not, who knows. I'll find out when 35 00:02:47.919 --> 00:02:53.240 I get to heaven, but it has been a valuable experience in some ways. 36 00:02:53.280 --> 00:02:58.199 We can certainly teaching some stuff through the trials and tribulations of life. 37 00:02:58.280 --> 00:03:01.750 Life. Yeah, and you've learned, I've learned, actually, probably a 38 00:03:01.789 --> 00:03:06.949 few times from almost getting my lights punched out right, the keep my mouth 39 00:03:07.069 --> 00:03:12.229 shut. You know, there are some practical principles that have to do insidewalk 40 00:03:12.310 --> 00:03:16.180 counseling. Yeah, that that we can apply that God's word gives us. 41 00:03:16.939 --> 00:03:22.259 I mean, I tell people a proverb a day keeps the flesh at bay. 42 00:03:22.300 --> 00:03:25.780 Yeah, it is our past rise up. Yeah, and there are 43 00:03:25.900 --> 00:03:30.490 things I've been confronted with and some of those will share with you guys that 44 00:03:30.530 --> 00:03:35.009 are listening in the proverbs as I'm reading through their thirty one proverbs. So 45 00:03:35.129 --> 00:03:38.330 that gives you in a month with thirty one days, that gives you one 46 00:03:38.370 --> 00:03:40.560 to read, one chapter to read every day. Right, and those months 47 00:03:40.599 --> 00:03:45.199 where there's only thirty days or twenty eight days, maybe you could read two 48 00:03:45.199 --> 00:03:46.280 a day, you could read to a day, you could double up and 49 00:03:46.319 --> 00:03:53.759 it will be a blessing. So one of those proverbs is in line with 50 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:57.189 our first point here. We got we got six points, six times breaking 51 00:03:57.469 --> 00:04:00.310 times for basically when to be silent. Yeah, that's generally six times the 52 00:04:00.469 --> 00:04:03.990 period mouth shut. It's right, when silences is golden. So we're going 53 00:04:04.030 --> 00:04:09.469 to touch on those. But this first one is what's your first point there? 54 00:04:09.750 --> 00:04:14.819 Well, the first point is be silent to reduce conflict, to reduce 55 00:04:14.979 --> 00:04:19.620 conflict. Yeah, now, understand, guys. Obviously our default position out 56 00:04:19.620 --> 00:04:24.649 there on the on the sidewalk in front of an abortion clinic is to open 57 00:04:24.730 --> 00:04:30.329 our mouth for the speechless. Yeah, when in doubt, call out right. 58 00:04:30.449 --> 00:04:33.329 As a matter of fact, we are very, very stern and strict 59 00:04:33.610 --> 00:04:40.639 training new volunteers. Every woman going into that abortion clinic needs to be addressed, 60 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:45.000 and that's certainly biblical. Not only proverbs thirty one, eight through nine, 61 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:49.079 but Ezekiel three, eighteen to nineteen, which, in paraphrasing, just 62 00:04:49.160 --> 00:04:53.670 says if you're silent, if you don't warn someone of their sin, you 63 00:04:53.790 --> 00:04:59.269 are guilty, yeah, of their blood. Yeah, and and so we 64 00:04:59.790 --> 00:05:03.389 we were told throughout the Bible that we are to speak. So we're not 65 00:05:03.430 --> 00:05:08.579 saying disregard that right. Saying that there are times in your speaking that you 66 00:05:08.740 --> 00:05:11.899 really need to take a pause. Absolutely, and there are times when you 67 00:05:11.939 --> 00:05:15.779 need to keep your mouth shut in confrontation. Listen, sidewall counseling ministry, 68 00:05:15.660 --> 00:05:20.339 Ministry, even in a pregnancy center. This, this ministry, can be 69 00:05:20.529 --> 00:05:25.209 volatile. Yes, and no matter how nice and sweet you could be, 70 00:05:25.209 --> 00:05:29.250 a sweet little grandmall praying in front of the abortion clinic, your presence is 71 00:05:29.370 --> 00:05:31.170 confrontational. Yeah, there's going to be if you're going to commit to go 72 00:05:31.250 --> 00:05:33.850 out to an abortion clinic, just go ahead and commit that. There's going 73 00:05:33.889 --> 00:05:40.120 to be confrontation. If you're non confrontational person, then you're not. Unless 74 00:05:40.120 --> 00:05:43.000 you're willing to be crucified with Christ, and let that go to the wayside, 75 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:45.519 you're not going to do very well in front of abortion clinic. Right. 76 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:49.629 Doesn't mean you're willfully trying to calls conflict and and all these things, 77 00:05:49.790 --> 00:05:55.350 but it's confrontational. So it just as the right off the message is confronting. 78 00:05:55.389 --> 00:05:58.829 Yeah, said, and and just your presence there. That just if 79 00:05:58.910 --> 00:06:00.709 you just not saying that, you just stand there and pray. But even 80 00:06:00.750 --> 00:06:03.860 if you were just to stand there and pray, just you standing there and 81 00:06:03.939 --> 00:06:08.860 praying right tells that person going into the abortion clinic, that person out there, 82 00:06:08.899 --> 00:06:12.139 because really, ultimately they're dealing with the Lord in their hearts. That 83 00:06:12.259 --> 00:06:15.300 has nothing to do with you, but your God's representative, you represent the 84 00:06:15.379 --> 00:06:17.730 Lord who's bringing conviction in their heart for coming to that abortion clinic and they 85 00:06:17.769 --> 00:06:21.370 might vent on you. That's right. Yeah, we experience that a great 86 00:06:21.410 --> 00:06:26.649 deal. Today out on the side there was so much confrontation, so much 87 00:06:26.810 --> 00:06:30.089 anger. Even before we set a word, car pulled in and the woman 88 00:06:30.649 --> 00:06:35.720 came storming out of her car and said the Bible says Thou shall not judge. 89 00:06:35.800 --> 00:06:40.199 I was just furious with us and I think the only thing we had 90 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:43.879 said is, Hey, we have free literature and Resources for you. Yeah, 91 00:06:44.000 --> 00:06:46.800 how confrontational is that at at all? Not at all, but just 92 00:06:46.920 --> 00:06:49.470 our presence there. You know that lady actually shameless plug in, needs to 93 00:06:49.509 --> 00:06:53.910 listen to our podcast about judging. Yeah, that now. Well, we 94 00:06:54.269 --> 00:06:57.110 did give her a little bit of above them, gave her some punch with 95 00:06:57.189 --> 00:07:00.029 the Bible says right, but that's just actually again the shameless plug in for 96 00:07:00.069 --> 00:07:03.939 you guys to listen to that anyway. Ye, continue and on. There 97 00:07:04.060 --> 00:07:09.819 are times when we need to keep our mouth shut. Yeah, for example, 98 00:07:09.819 --> 00:07:14.740 I've had young men angry as can be. We've addressed his girlfriend and 99 00:07:14.819 --> 00:07:17.569 his wife going into the abortion clinic. He stomps over at me and he's 100 00:07:17.610 --> 00:07:21.649 going to set me straight. Yeah, and rather than me responding and trying 101 00:07:21.689 --> 00:07:25.610 to defend myself because you know, he's coming and spew you and all kind 102 00:07:25.689 --> 00:07:29.009 finds of anger and just bad you know, and he was want to let 103 00:07:29.089 --> 00:07:31.240 me have it, there have been times where I just keep my mouth shut. 104 00:07:31.319 --> 00:07:33.879 Yeah, well, I might responde. Those first weaves. Not, 105 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:38.120 but we're just about setting the stage. Great, okay, got it. 106 00:07:38.160 --> 00:07:42.240 Got It. And so as a man, yeah, I can address men, 107 00:07:42.319 --> 00:07:45.550 but also, I think, women. Yeah, a human propensity is 108 00:07:46.269 --> 00:07:48.430 we want to defend ourselves. Yeah, we want to stand our ground. 109 00:07:48.870 --> 00:07:51.829 We want to set that woman straight, let her know. Listen, you're 110 00:07:51.910 --> 00:07:55.310 wrong about me. Yeah, I don't know me, but you're saying all 111 00:07:55.310 --> 00:07:57.350 these things about me, but I need to set you straight. You're wrong 112 00:07:57.350 --> 00:08:00.379 about me. Especially for a man, we want to stand our ground. 113 00:08:00.620 --> 00:08:03.779 I don't want to have to keep my mouth shut and not respond to someone 114 00:08:03.819 --> 00:08:05.339 who's accused me of all kinds of things. Yeah, you know I'm the 115 00:08:05.420 --> 00:08:09.019 worst person that ever existed, even though, again, they don't know me. 116 00:08:09.139 --> 00:08:11.779 It's so unjust, it's so unfair. But we're they're in bad weather. 117 00:08:11.930 --> 00:08:16.930 Often times we're doing our best to offer help to these people, so 118 00:08:16.970 --> 00:08:22.410 much self sacrifice, and here they are being mean us. Yeah, and 119 00:08:22.610 --> 00:08:26.490 I want to defend myself and I want to set the record straight. And 120 00:08:26.649 --> 00:08:28.759 Listen, I'm not saying that they're in it. In the context for that, 121 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:33.480 there's sometimes he's a context for setting the record straight. But as men 122 00:08:35.159 --> 00:08:37.639 again we want to stand our ground, we want to set the record straight, 123 00:08:37.720 --> 00:08:39.919 to defend ourselves, and I was struck with this proverb. This is 124 00:08:41.000 --> 00:08:43.990 proverbs twenty verse three. Okay, a couple of years ago. In this 125 00:08:45.149 --> 00:08:48.950 context and thinking about sidewalk counting and thinking about some of the confrontations I've had, 126 00:08:48.990 --> 00:08:52.070 especially with young men who come over to set me straight right the Lord, 127 00:08:52.149 --> 00:08:56.419 really struck with this proverbs twenty verse three. It is honorable for a 128 00:08:56.500 --> 00:09:01.460 man to stop striving or fighting or quarreling, since any fool can start a 129 00:09:01.500 --> 00:09:03.620 quarrel. Any I that just is so amazing and that is so true. 130 00:09:03.659 --> 00:09:07.980 Any fool can start a quarrel, but but the wise man. Well, 131 00:09:09.019 --> 00:09:13.250 you know, let me bring them that kind of trained and I think, 132 00:09:13.330 --> 00:09:16.289 in one sense, rightly so. Right we want to be when we want 133 00:09:16.289 --> 00:09:18.970 to stand for what is right and what is good. We don't want to 134 00:09:20.049 --> 00:09:22.929 back away. MMMM it. We shouldn't cower down, right, we don't 135 00:09:22.929 --> 00:09:26.240 want to back away. I want to be intimidated. We don't want to 136 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:28.679 be intimidating, we don't want to compromise the truth. Right, but also 137 00:09:28.759 --> 00:09:31.960 we kind of take that to a level where it's really just selfdefense. It's 138 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:35.559 really more about us than it is about the truth. Yeah, and we 139 00:09:35.679 --> 00:09:37.870 think it's dishonorable if I back away from this fight, if this guy's spewing 140 00:09:37.909 --> 00:09:41.830 all this garbage on me and I don't I don't spew some stuff back or 141 00:09:41.909 --> 00:09:45.629 I don't give him a rebuttal, then it's not honorable for me, but 142 00:09:45.710 --> 00:09:48.909 the Bible says it is. Yeah, it is honorable for you to to 143 00:09:50.669 --> 00:09:52.019 say, listen, I'm not here to fight, man. Yeah, I'm 144 00:09:52.019 --> 00:09:56.259 not here to defend myself, I'm just here to help. That's a lot 145 00:09:56.340 --> 00:10:00.620 of times my response to things like that will be man, we're just here 146 00:10:00.659 --> 00:10:05.019 to help. Yeah, and then sometimes I've learned that it's not help for 147 00:10:05.259 --> 00:10:07.809 me to respond and try to defend my position and try to justify why I'm 148 00:10:07.809 --> 00:10:11.570 there. Sometimes just let them spew their stuff, maybe stinging with a little 149 00:10:11.570 --> 00:10:15.250 bit of truth, and then keep silent. Yeah, let God deal with 150 00:10:15.330 --> 00:10:18.570 them, because ultimately it's not you or me or any wisdom that we have 151 00:10:18.809 --> 00:10:24.519 that's going to change a heart. Right, it comes down to US trusting 152 00:10:24.639 --> 00:10:28.639 the Holy Spirit to do his work. Now, the Holy Spirit works through 153 00:10:28.679 --> 00:10:31.039 the word of God, primarily right. So we need to share the word 154 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:35.950 of God, but that doesn't mean we always need to feel the air with 155 00:10:35.470 --> 00:10:39.750 with speech. Sometimes we need to sting them with a little bit of truth 156 00:10:39.830 --> 00:10:43.389 from God's Word and let them think about it for a minute, let them 157 00:10:43.509 --> 00:10:46.429 process it. Yeah, now, I know in it for myself. When 158 00:10:46.429 --> 00:10:48.990 I'm in that sort of a confront of situation, it feels like when I'm 159 00:10:48.990 --> 00:10:56.019 silent I am agreeing with them and and that's why it's hard for me to 160 00:10:56.139 --> 00:11:00.500 remain silent. But that is not true. I'm not agreeing with them. 161 00:11:00.740 --> 00:11:05.169 So if they think it, so what, but it the the need to 162 00:11:07.250 --> 00:11:11.730 calm the storm sometimes. So that what we're primarily there for, which is 163 00:11:13.169 --> 00:11:18.250 to help tell the truth about those babies and help women to choose life is 164 00:11:18.330 --> 00:11:22.440 so much more important than me defending myself in a confrontationally. And of course, 165 00:11:22.840 --> 00:11:26.320 again we're supposed to share the truth, we're supposed to speak the truth, 166 00:11:26.399 --> 00:11:31.559 we're supposed to proclaim God's truth, but we don't need to get an 167 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:33.830 argument with somebody right. We don't need to set the record straight for our 168 00:11:33.870 --> 00:11:37.350 own sake. Yeah, we do need to stand for the truth, not 169 00:11:37.470 --> 00:11:41.669 back away from the truth. But again we've got to trust the Holy Spirit 170 00:11:41.750 --> 00:11:43.590 to do his work, because as much as we think we might be wise 171 00:11:43.789 --> 00:11:48.899 and we've read all the arguments about this particular subject, you can have it 172 00:11:48.940 --> 00:11:52.860 all figured out and whatever argument that someone wants to bring and get every every 173 00:11:54.620 --> 00:11:58.259 great answer to every question, and still it could get right over their head 174 00:11:58.340 --> 00:12:01.529 in one ear and now the other, if the Holy Spirit isn't at work. 175 00:12:01.090 --> 00:12:03.610 You know, there is a sense in which, you know, you 176 00:12:03.690 --> 00:12:07.129 mentioned I feel like if I stay silent, almost like there's this guilt associated 177 00:12:07.210 --> 00:12:09.450 right if I don't speak up, if someone comes over to me and they 178 00:12:09.490 --> 00:12:11.929 say this, this and this, if I don't set the record straight, 179 00:12:13.049 --> 00:12:15.759 somehow I'm missing the mark. I'm agreeing with that. In fact, you 180 00:12:15.840 --> 00:12:16.840 know, before you move on to what you were going to say, that's 181 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:22.120 one of the most famous quotes by Dietrich bonhoffer. Is Silence in the face 182 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:28.200 of evil is itself evil. God will not hold us guiltless. Not to 183 00:12:28.399 --> 00:12:31.950 speak is to speak, not to act is to act, and I think 184 00:12:31.950 --> 00:12:35.309 that's that tension that you're talking about, that there's this guilt. If your 185 00:12:35.429 --> 00:12:41.269 silent, are you a part of the problem? Are you actually agreeing with 186 00:12:41.750 --> 00:12:45.700 the evil? And Yeah, not always, but sometimes you are. But 187 00:12:46.419 --> 00:12:50.779 you know, as a society, especially as the church. Yeah, and 188 00:12:52.259 --> 00:12:56.700 so many times we have remained silent. We sadly, as the church, 189 00:12:56.820 --> 00:13:00.409 have kept our mouths close about the issue of abortion. Yeah, that's the 190 00:13:00.490 --> 00:13:05.169 context of that stalk exactly. And so I think you guys here, we're 191 00:13:05.210 --> 00:13:07.169 not saying in front of an abortion clinic to keep your mouth shut, right, 192 00:13:07.450 --> 00:13:09.769 we're saying to open your mouth, but we are saying that there are 193 00:13:09.850 --> 00:13:13.240 times when you need to remain silent, there are times you don't need to 194 00:13:13.399 --> 00:13:18.440 rebut everything that comes at you. Yeah, and it's wisdom often times to 195 00:13:18.559 --> 00:13:20.799 not answer. You know, the Bible tells us we shouldn't answer a full 196 00:13:20.840 --> 00:13:24.480 of court. To his folly. It goes on to say that we should 197 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:26.429 answer a full porting. So it tends. I guess it depends on this. 198 00:13:26.590 --> 00:13:30.470 Well, you, hey, you know exactly. You. I was 199 00:13:30.549 --> 00:13:31.590 talking to a brother the other day. I mentioned this quote to you. 200 00:13:31.750 --> 00:13:33.909 This kind of came in my in my mind the other day as I was 201 00:13:33.950 --> 00:13:37.549 talking to a brother who was talking about all of the the riots and stuff 202 00:13:37.590 --> 00:13:41.149 that's going on, and he was talking like I want to go and I 203 00:13:41.230 --> 00:13:43.460 want to share the Gospel with those people. They need Jesus and they certainly 204 00:13:43.539 --> 00:13:48.100 do, right, and I certainly would not fault a person for going into 205 00:13:48.100 --> 00:13:50.899 the midst of that mob and preaching Jesus. A matter of fact, people 206 00:13:50.980 --> 00:13:56.129 have, in God's done an amazing work through it and some people have and 207 00:13:56.250 --> 00:14:01.009 they regretted it. Right. And so I said this just in thinking through 208 00:14:01.009 --> 00:14:03.250 the Gospels and thinking through Jesus, because Jesus is our example. Right, 209 00:14:03.529 --> 00:14:07.730 I'm not your example, guys Vicki's not your example. I mean there's some 210 00:14:07.809 --> 00:14:11.320 stuff you can clean from us. We've have some experiences and we can share 211 00:14:11.360 --> 00:14:13.960 that stuff with you, but ultimately Jesus is the example. And so I 212 00:14:15.039 --> 00:14:18.000 said this to this brother. I said, Jesus knew when to feed the 213 00:14:18.159 --> 00:14:20.200 mob. Right, he knew when to sit down, feed and teach them. 214 00:14:22.279 --> 00:14:24.590 He knew when to stir up the mob. There were times of the 215 00:14:24.669 --> 00:14:28.149 mob was angry at Jesus, right, and he shared the truth. You 216 00:14:28.230 --> 00:14:30.549 think of it. Was it John Chapter six, when he says, unless 217 00:14:30.549 --> 00:14:31.509 you eat my flesh and drink my blood? They were stirred up, they 218 00:14:31.549 --> 00:14:35.470 were angry at Jesus and ultimately the mob left. He knew when to leave 219 00:14:35.509 --> 00:14:39.539 the mob. At one point they wanted to to get him and throw him 220 00:14:39.539 --> 00:14:41.899 off the cliff and he slips out, the Bible says. So he knows 221 00:14:41.940 --> 00:14:45.340 where to escape the mob. And he knew when to stay silent before the 222 00:14:45.419 --> 00:14:48.820 mob. Yeah, in His crucifixion, right, the mob was there crucify 223 00:14:48.940 --> 00:14:52.860 him. He stayed silent. So Jesus knew when to feed the mob, 224 00:14:52.570 --> 00:14:56.409 stir up the mob, leave the mob and stay silent before the mob. 225 00:14:56.649 --> 00:15:01.690 Yeah, and my prayer is and hopefully this podcast you guys will be praying 226 00:15:01.730 --> 00:15:03.649 through like Lord. When do I keep my mouth shut? Give us to 227 00:15:03.769 --> 00:15:07.090 when do I when I came on my we know when to open our mouth 228 00:15:07.480 --> 00:15:11.639 when injustice there's are taken place, we must open our mouth, we must 229 00:15:11.679 --> 00:15:15.279 speak out. But in the midst of that speaking out, there are sometimes 230 00:15:15.320 --> 00:15:16.960 it people are going to vent on you and they're going to just spe all 231 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:20.789 kinds of garbage and you don't need to defend yourself. Right, sometimes you 232 00:15:20.870 --> 00:15:24.309 need to sting with a little bit of truth and then let God deal with 233 00:15:24.470 --> 00:15:30.230 them, because you are not being you're not consenting to evil when you've already 234 00:15:30.269 --> 00:15:35.220 spoken against that evil. You're not consenting to evil to to not defend yourself 235 00:15:35.419 --> 00:15:37.700 in light of what you just said. Of that, there's a point at 236 00:15:37.740 --> 00:15:43.500 which the anger can become so great that they no longer hear you anyway. 237 00:15:43.740 --> 00:15:46.820 And Yeah, at that's that's a point. That's kind of a maybe a 238 00:15:46.860 --> 00:15:50.889 guide, if their anger is just so strong that they're just shouting over you. 239 00:15:52.610 --> 00:15:56.529 Yeah, there's there's no reason to give there's there's no reason. Yeah, 240 00:15:56.129 --> 00:16:00.690 and proverbs twenty nine, verse eleven, proverbs is full of things. 241 00:16:00.730 --> 00:16:03.600 If you got a tongue issue, if you got an issue with your tongue, 242 00:16:03.639 --> 00:16:07.279 yeah, read through proverbs and God will help you with it. It 243 00:16:07.360 --> 00:16:11.200 says proverbs twenty twenty nine, verse eleven. A fool vince all his feelings, 244 00:16:12.759 --> 00:16:17.879 but a wise man holds them back. Yeah, you know, we're 245 00:16:17.879 --> 00:16:19.789 kind of taught of you heard some people teach this in like Christian sir coals. 246 00:16:21.110 --> 00:16:22.269 We get so much bottled up in this. We need to go invent 247 00:16:22.429 --> 00:16:25.269 that. So we need to go break something. We need you go on 248 00:16:25.309 --> 00:16:27.190 the side of a mountain and Yell Really Loud Hey, you know what? 249 00:16:27.470 --> 00:16:33.220 That might be helpful, and maybe in a psychological context that is, but 250 00:16:33.500 --> 00:16:36.100 cording to the scripture, that's actually a what a fool does. Yeah, 251 00:16:36.139 --> 00:16:37.460 we don't need to vent all of our feelings, right. We see it 252 00:16:37.539 --> 00:16:41.500 on her facebook all the time. If you ask, you see people event 253 00:16:41.580 --> 00:16:44.740 in there. Don't? That is an example I think of people just get 254 00:16:44.940 --> 00:16:48.889 just given you way too much information, way too much venting, to the 255 00:16:48.009 --> 00:16:52.610 degree where it's very uncomfortable and it's foolish. Yeah, and it will come 256 00:16:52.649 --> 00:16:56.090 back to bite them. Absolutely. Yeah, but a wise man holds them 257 00:16:56.129 --> 00:17:00.169 back. We can, by God's grace, hold back our feelings when somebody 258 00:17:00.210 --> 00:17:03.000 has charged at us and they just let us have it, whether it be 259 00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:07.400 at an abortion clinic, whether it be, I don't know what context it 260 00:17:07.440 --> 00:17:10.039 might be in. Yeah, we can hold back our feels. We don't 261 00:17:10.039 --> 00:17:11.079 need to respond. So, you know, let's going to our next points. 262 00:17:11.119 --> 00:17:15.359 We didn't see Labor. This is but that is a really important it 263 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:21.430 is as conflict happened so often. But be silent in order to carefully listen. 264 00:17:21.950 --> 00:17:23.269 And if I had to pick one that I am most guilty of, 265 00:17:23.549 --> 00:17:29.029 this is for me, right when I'm most guilty of but you, you 266 00:17:29.230 --> 00:17:34.619 certainly cannot help someone if you don't understand their issues. Yeah, and this 267 00:17:34.819 --> 00:17:40.339 is important. Guys, as you're listening through this podcast, you think about 268 00:17:40.339 --> 00:17:44.220 these these different silence things and times to be silent. This is not just 269 00:17:44.369 --> 00:17:48.170 time to be silent to diffuse a situation, right, this is time to 270 00:17:48.210 --> 00:17:51.930 be silent to actually list and to the issue, because when a woman comes 271 00:17:51.970 --> 00:17:56.369 to an abortion clinic, when a guy's there with his girlfriend at the abortion 272 00:17:56.410 --> 00:17:59.640 clinic, when a friend is come with her friend, there's things going on 273 00:17:59.680 --> 00:18:03.039 in her life. They're never a justification for abortion, right. So of 274 00:18:03.160 --> 00:18:04.799 course we don't say, Oh, yeah, you were right, you convince 275 00:18:04.880 --> 00:18:08.279 me abortions. Okay, goodhead. No, but we do need to listen. 276 00:18:08.359 --> 00:18:11.480 These are real issues they're dealing with. They're real things going on in 277 00:18:11.559 --> 00:18:15.549 their lives that we need to take time to listen to so that we can 278 00:18:15.789 --> 00:18:21.630 help bring some clarity, help bring God into the equation. Right. You 279 00:18:21.750 --> 00:18:25.109 know, with our trust podcast we talked about helping women trust the Lord. 280 00:18:25.470 --> 00:18:27.660 We need to bring God into the equations so they can see this situation is 281 00:18:27.740 --> 00:18:32.180 not too hard for God. But you can't, you can't know how to 282 00:18:32.259 --> 00:18:37.180 answer properly unless you first listen. Yeah, so slow, not even even 283 00:18:37.220 --> 00:18:40.380 if they're angry, even if they've come come over to you and they're just 284 00:18:40.500 --> 00:18:44.609 spewing all this stuff. Sometimes just have a listening ear, just hear what 285 00:18:44.730 --> 00:18:48.329 they're saying. There's some pain there. Yeah, there's some anger there because 286 00:18:48.329 --> 00:18:52.569 there's pain there, and just listening. Maybe this person is never had someone 287 00:18:52.650 --> 00:18:55.960 that actually listened. Yeah, you know, because you imagine the scenario is 288 00:18:56.039 --> 00:18:57.759 a woman comes over, she's abortion minded, but she's angry with you for 289 00:18:57.920 --> 00:19:00.319 telling her, because you've called out to her. Hey, we have help 290 00:19:00.400 --> 00:19:03.799 available, don't take the life of your baby. She stormed over to you 291 00:19:03.160 --> 00:19:04.960 and she's saying, you don't know what's going on in my life, and 292 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:10.390 then she shares it. Yeah, stop and listen. Don't just take it 293 00:19:10.470 --> 00:19:15.190 as an attack against you. Here's what proverbs what is it? Eighteen thirteen, 294 00:19:15.269 --> 00:19:18.950 verse thirteen. He who answers a matter before he hear's it, it 295 00:19:19.150 --> 00:19:23.299 is folly and shame to him. Hey, that's a great verse two to 296 00:19:23.500 --> 00:19:27.180 express that. Yeah, absolutely. So someone has come over to you and 297 00:19:27.259 --> 00:19:30.740 they've got issues going on. Yeah, you can't give a good answer until 298 00:19:30.779 --> 00:19:36.980 you've actually heard what's going on. And, as angry as they might be, 299 00:19:37.059 --> 00:19:38.529 at least they've come over and shared it, because, let's face at 300 00:19:38.569 --> 00:19:42.930 the majority of the women going into the abortion clinic don't even don't even acknowledge 301 00:19:42.970 --> 00:19:45.930 you. They go in stone face and go into the abortion clinic. So 302 00:19:47.170 --> 00:19:48.690 at least they've come over and they share with you, even as angry as 303 00:19:48.690 --> 00:19:53.400 they might be. So take time to listen. Yeah, answering with compassion 304 00:19:53.759 --> 00:19:57.920 is very important. Let's say they're involved in a situation where they're a victim 305 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:02.000 of rape and they're angry because you're telling them not to have an abortion. 306 00:20:02.519 --> 00:20:04.640 You don't know the situation, you just know the baby situation. They're there 307 00:20:04.680 --> 00:20:07.309 to kill their child. Yeah, rape is not a justification for that. 308 00:20:07.589 --> 00:20:11.549 Yeah, but if that's been they've been subjected to that. It's important that 309 00:20:11.589 --> 00:20:15.950 we listen to what they're saying and we slow down for a second and we 310 00:20:15.069 --> 00:20:18.509 answer with compassion, I'm sorry that happened to you, and then we can 311 00:20:18.589 --> 00:20:22.619 get into some of the after effects of abortion. How abortion is not going 312 00:20:22.660 --> 00:20:26.099 to be helpful. But if you're not willing to listen to them, it's 313 00:20:26.140 --> 00:20:30.019 unlikely that they're going to be willing to listen to you. That's for sure 314 00:20:30.140 --> 00:20:33.259 one of the best questions I think that we can ask and then be silentist. 315 00:20:33.380 --> 00:20:37.329 Hey, what's going on? And then be silent. Yeah, you 316 00:20:37.410 --> 00:20:40.009 know, and he and here, what's what's going on? We had a 317 00:20:40.089 --> 00:20:45.650 rape victim out at the sidewalk today and she was livid that. She said, 318 00:20:45.690 --> 00:20:51.559 we don't know your situation and and I said, you're right, we 319 00:20:52.119 --> 00:20:55.799 don't. What is your situation? Whatever your situation is, we can help 320 00:20:55.839 --> 00:21:00.880 you. And then she she told about the rape. Yeah, yeah, 321 00:21:00.079 --> 00:21:04.589 it was still an angry exchange and there came a point at which I had 322 00:21:04.670 --> 00:21:08.670 to be silent. I didn't feel like my words were going to be useful 323 00:21:08.710 --> 00:21:15.029 anymore. Yeah, but but carefully. Listening is one of the most important 324 00:21:15.029 --> 00:21:18.420 counseling techniques a good counselors taught. Yeah, absolutely, to be able to 325 00:21:18.500 --> 00:21:23.980 listen, to be able to know what what to ask and and to know 326 00:21:25.099 --> 00:21:26.940 how to best help. If you don't know the issues, you can't help. 327 00:21:26.980 --> 00:21:30.380 Yeah, yeah, one of the things that, of course, we 328 00:21:30.539 --> 00:21:33.049 train our folks to do. One of the things that we do is, 329 00:21:33.130 --> 00:21:37.009 yes, we want to we want to deliver information to them. We want 330 00:21:37.049 --> 00:21:42.009 to tell them about their babies development, God's resources for them, God's love 331 00:21:42.049 --> 00:21:47.089 for them, for their baby. We want to warn them about justice that 332 00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:49.319 God brings to those that have abortion. So we share the Gospel and all 333 00:21:49.400 --> 00:21:52.400 that. But one of the places I want to get to, if I'm 334 00:21:52.480 --> 00:21:56.039 talking to a woman one on one, is I want to get to why 335 00:21:56.119 --> 00:21:59.440 are you here? I want them to talk. So matter of fact. 336 00:21:59.480 --> 00:22:02.390 I'll get to that as quick as I can. Right. I will get 337 00:22:02.390 --> 00:22:04.869 the literature in their hands. I will talk with them about while we're standing 338 00:22:04.910 --> 00:22:07.430 out there. You know we're here because we care about you. We care 339 00:22:07.430 --> 00:22:11.029 about your baby. What brought you here, right? What makes you feel 340 00:22:11.029 --> 00:22:14.589 like abortion is something you need to do? I'll get to that pretty quick. 341 00:22:14.630 --> 00:22:17.220 And why am I getting to that? Because I want to engage them 342 00:22:17.259 --> 00:22:23.339 in conversation, with with them. Yeah, con is with versation is verstating, 343 00:22:25.339 --> 00:22:27.339 throwing verses back and forth, I mean beach. Yeah, seriously, 344 00:22:27.420 --> 00:22:32.089 it's with speech, with talk. So I want to talk with them. 345 00:22:32.170 --> 00:22:33.569 I don't want to just monolog on them. Yeah, now, there are 346 00:22:33.569 --> 00:22:37.170 at times, of course, you and I both know, where they'll stop 347 00:22:37.329 --> 00:22:41.650 their vehicle, pull over to the side of the road to converse air quotes 348 00:22:41.690 --> 00:22:44.640 and they're not talking at all. So I will monolog on them. Yeah, 349 00:22:44.640 --> 00:22:47.680 I'll just give them all the stuff and talk to him. But all 350 00:22:47.720 --> 00:22:49.880 along I'm trying to get them to converse with me. I'm trying to get 351 00:22:49.960 --> 00:22:52.960 them to share why they're they're right. I mean you want to get in 352 00:22:53.039 --> 00:22:57.829 that conversation with them and when they open up and which, strangely enough, 353 00:23:00.150 --> 00:23:03.789 I've had some ladies tell me some pretty candid stuff about, you know, 354 00:23:03.829 --> 00:23:07.710 their sexual relationships and they're even health issues or likes. Too much information, 355 00:23:07.910 --> 00:23:12.180 but you're listening and it. But I'm listening most people. I mean I'll 356 00:23:12.220 --> 00:23:15.380 just share, I'll just take it in, I'll just listen. I mean 357 00:23:15.539 --> 00:23:18.619 listen my wife's you know, we've had eight children. We've been through a 358 00:23:18.619 --> 00:23:19.859 lot. I've seen a lot of babies born, I've seen in her. 359 00:23:19.980 --> 00:23:23.059 My wife is a nurse, a lot of pretty nasty things with none of 360 00:23:23.099 --> 00:23:26.940 it, none of it scares me away. Yeah, but I'll list I'll 361 00:23:26.940 --> 00:23:29.690 just let if they'll talk, I'll let them talk as long as I can. 362 00:23:29.690 --> 00:23:32.970 Let them talk and share, and even with tears in their eyes. 363 00:23:33.049 --> 00:23:34.930 Of course, you've seen that a lot, where they just start tearing up 364 00:23:34.970 --> 00:23:38.130 when they're sharing, even from their own perspective, and you haven't really said 365 00:23:38.130 --> 00:23:44.279 much and they're just kind of just they're not venting, they're kind of unloading 366 00:23:44.720 --> 00:23:47.599 in a good way. Yeah, so that you again. You're like, 367 00:23:47.759 --> 00:23:51.400 they're just kind of like putting all this mess out there and then at some 368 00:23:51.519 --> 00:23:53.279 point, of course, you come in and you sort through the mess and 369 00:23:53.359 --> 00:23:56.549 you shall show them how God can fix the chaos that you just shared with 370 00:23:56.670 --> 00:24:00.470 me. If you have listened, I had a again, you listen. 371 00:24:00.630 --> 00:24:03.910 If you've listened, I had a great story that that relates to this from 372 00:24:03.950 --> 00:24:07.990 yesterday when I was counseling a woman over the phone and in the middle of 373 00:24:07.069 --> 00:24:12.099 our discussion, she has a young child in her home and she paused just 374 00:24:12.259 --> 00:24:15.460 she didn't tell me, hey, just give me a second. She just 375 00:24:15.539 --> 00:24:19.140 started dealing with this young child's misbehavior, the childhood lied or something. And 376 00:24:21.460 --> 00:24:25.730 she did. She did such a great job in how she dealt with this 377 00:24:25.890 --> 00:24:32.410 child and I'm carefully listening and and she in listening to how she dealt with 378 00:24:32.569 --> 00:24:37.490 that child and his lie and the consequent and everything was a picture in my 379 00:24:37.640 --> 00:24:45.119 mind, is building of what God does as a good parent when we sin 380 00:24:45.279 --> 00:24:48.079 against him. And this is a woman who believed in God, it's a 381 00:24:48.119 --> 00:24:52.559 higher power, but did not believe in Jesus. But her interaction with the 382 00:24:52.680 --> 00:24:57.509 child was perfect for me to introduce the Gospel. That wouldn't have happened if 383 00:24:57.549 --> 00:25:03.789 I hadn't been listening and taking in what was happening between her and that child, 384 00:25:03.829 --> 00:25:07.299 and it really was a great segue, yeah, for me. Yeah, 385 00:25:07.740 --> 00:25:11.259 so absolutely listening, carefully listening. We should be silent in order to 386 00:25:11.339 --> 00:25:14.099 listen. Is An important point. How about our number three one, let's 387 00:25:14.140 --> 00:25:18.380 go for it. Beside is lent in order to control one's speech. Okay, 388 00:25:18.819 --> 00:25:23.250 so sometimes our speech is arrogant. It can be selfrighteous. I mean, 389 00:25:23.369 --> 00:25:26.329 Mon's never arrogant because I'm the most humble person. Yeah, we know, 390 00:25:26.529 --> 00:25:30.170 but some people have to deal with that. I deal with extreme humility. 391 00:25:30.289 --> 00:25:33.569 Other people do with arrogance, all right, but for the rest of 392 00:25:33.609 --> 00:25:41.480 us, condescending. We're certain we're right everyone else's wrong, and there's no 393 00:25:41.599 --> 00:25:45.400 doubt abortion is wrong. Yeah, absolutely, so we know that, but 394 00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:53.789 sometimes the way that we speak with others is off putting. Yeah, absolutely, 395 00:25:55.349 --> 00:26:00.869 and our silence can help us to really thoughtfully consider our words. Yeah, 396 00:26:00.109 --> 00:26:03.029 so are their versus that like? Well, Ive got one here when 397 00:26:03.029 --> 00:26:07.420 right there? Yeah, believe it or not, proverbs twenty one, twenty 398 00:26:07.500 --> 00:26:12.500 three. Okay, whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles. 399 00:26:12.579 --> 00:26:15.900 Oh and, man, I've my tongue has gotten me in a lot 400 00:26:15.940 --> 00:26:18.529 of trouble. Mind, I don't know about yeah, yeah, and just 401 00:26:18.690 --> 00:26:22.049 in this context, but you know, family context of my wife. It's 402 00:26:22.049 --> 00:26:25.490 a matter of fact. I'll give you guys a word of wisdom. Me 403 00:26:25.569 --> 00:26:30.490 and my wife asked her grandmother couple of years ago, her and her her 404 00:26:30.569 --> 00:26:34.119 grandfather, I think they had there was a sixty anniversary or something. It's 405 00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:40.319 pretty amazing. Yeah, and we ask them what's the secret, like how 406 00:26:40.400 --> 00:26:42.680 do you guys stay together and have a good marriage for sixty years? Because 407 00:26:42.680 --> 00:26:45.960 they had a good marriage, like model marriage. You know, and her 408 00:26:47.000 --> 00:26:49.190 grandma said, you got to learn when to keep your mouth shut. Yeah, 409 00:26:49.430 --> 00:26:52.789 that was her. That was her key to sixty years of marriage. 410 00:26:53.390 --> 00:26:56.910 And I was like, well, that seems very much in line with proverbs, 411 00:26:57.150 --> 00:27:00.509 that we need to learn to keep our mouth shut. A lot of 412 00:27:00.630 --> 00:27:03.579 times we think I need to learn what to say when. Um, you 413 00:27:03.700 --> 00:27:07.380 need to learn when to keep your mouth shut. Yes, what to say 414 00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:11.019 when, but understanding that you got to keep your mouth shut first and listen. 415 00:27:11.259 --> 00:27:15.890 Yeah, to know how to respond properly and and to be thinking through, 416 00:27:15.930 --> 00:27:22.289 thinking carefully about when I do speak, how should I speak? Yeah, 417 00:27:22.529 --> 00:27:25.890 so that's the you know, the in controlling one's speech that you don't 418 00:27:25.930 --> 00:27:30.559 just full out with words and hope that they're appropriate in the tones, appropriate 419 00:27:30.640 --> 00:27:34.839 whatever, but you have your silent to collect your thoughts and be able to 420 00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:40.559 then speak in a way that is edifying kind. Yeah. Absolutely. Well, 421 00:27:40.839 --> 00:27:44.119 you know, this speaks of in Verse Twenty Three here in Proverbs, 422 00:27:44.200 --> 00:27:48.029 twenty one, guarding your mouth and tongue. It speaks of control, it 423 00:27:48.150 --> 00:27:52.630 speaks of putting a shield over it speaks of, you know, keeping your 424 00:27:52.670 --> 00:27:55.829 mouth shut when you need to. Yeah, and again, this is not 425 00:27:56.029 --> 00:28:00.099 God being mean telling you can't talk. This is God trying to save you 426 00:28:00.299 --> 00:28:03.259 from troubles. This is God's word trying to save us from troubles, because 427 00:28:03.299 --> 00:28:07.339 our tongue causes a lot of troubles and once it's out there, you cannot 428 00:28:07.380 --> 00:28:11.779 take it back, so it can truly destroy and once you've said it, 429 00:28:12.890 --> 00:28:18.970 that destruction is hard to clean up. Yeah, it is absolutely so. 430 00:28:21.049 --> 00:28:25.009 So be careful to be silent, to control and speech. How about this 431 00:28:25.210 --> 00:28:30.440 one? Be Silent in the face of great suffering. Yeah, and the 432 00:28:30.599 --> 00:28:34.480 tendency and great suffering is to see what you can do to heal it, 433 00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:42.269 to just rush in and solve everything. And in the context of the pro 434 00:28:42.390 --> 00:28:48.710 life movement or a sidewalk counselor in front of an abortion center. Most of 435 00:28:48.789 --> 00:28:52.670 the women that come to US truly are in the midst of great suffering. 436 00:28:53.190 --> 00:28:57.819 Many of them impoverished, many of them have broken families, many of them 437 00:28:57.940 --> 00:29:07.099 have had abusive or violent relationships, are currently even do and their stories are 438 00:29:07.220 --> 00:29:11.609 just really tragic. Very often that doesn't mean it justifies the abortion, but 439 00:29:11.769 --> 00:29:19.089 they are suffering. Yeah, and sometimes just silence to acknowledge that. You 440 00:29:19.250 --> 00:29:23.599 know, this is hard. Yeah, what you're going through really is hard. 441 00:29:23.640 --> 00:29:29.279 Yeah, I don't want to mention, especially as a man. Yeah, 442 00:29:29.319 --> 00:29:32.680 and as a guy who is I mean I'm a street preacher type. 443 00:29:33.160 --> 00:29:36.119 I'm a give them the truth and I don't care how it's received kind of 444 00:29:36.160 --> 00:29:38.509 guy. But I've learned over the years. Yeah, it's easy for me 445 00:29:38.710 --> 00:29:42.269 to hear about someone's great suffering and then just to respond with, well, 446 00:29:42.309 --> 00:29:47.349 that doesn't matter, your baby still doesn't deserve to die. Right, and 447 00:29:47.430 --> 00:29:48.910 I don't really mean as a Christian, it doesn't matter, but what I 448 00:29:48.950 --> 00:29:52.460 do mean to say is that doesn't justify you killing your child. Right. 449 00:29:52.700 --> 00:29:56.900 It doesn't, Boe, matter to the degree that it would make you kill 450 00:29:56.980 --> 00:30:00.619 a baby, but it does mat yeah, and so I've learned, because 451 00:30:00.619 --> 00:30:03.259 that would be my typical response. It doesn't matter, you're still your baby 452 00:30:03.299 --> 00:30:07.099 still doesn't deserve that. I've learned to stop for a second, yeah, 453 00:30:07.210 --> 00:30:10.609 to listen, to let them know that it does matter, and it's like 454 00:30:10.730 --> 00:30:14.250 unto you know earlier point. Yeah, where we need to with compassion, 455 00:30:14.289 --> 00:30:18.289 answer I'm sorry you're going through that, and we, as much as we 456 00:30:18.329 --> 00:30:22.559 can, need to identify with the suffering that's going on, not to minimize 457 00:30:22.559 --> 00:30:26.319 it, not to just brush it to the side, because I mean talk 458 00:30:26.359 --> 00:30:30.559 about off putting. That is really off putting when someone's dealing with some junk 459 00:30:30.039 --> 00:30:33.319 in their life and all your response is, well, you still don't need 460 00:30:33.319 --> 00:30:37.029 to kill your child, and just a snappy, right back response. And 461 00:30:37.150 --> 00:30:41.950 it might it might look cool to your street preacher buddies that you're able to 462 00:30:41.990 --> 00:30:45.950 answer that quickly, but sometimes you need to keep silent, listen and even 463 00:30:47.109 --> 00:30:52.299 like let the Lord speak, really the reality what's going on this person's life 464 00:30:52.380 --> 00:30:53.700 in your heart, you know what I mean, so that they can see 465 00:30:53.779 --> 00:30:57.259 on your face you actually care about them. Yeah, because you do. 466 00:30:57.579 --> 00:31:00.980 Right, if your believer, you care about the stuff they're going through. 467 00:31:00.980 --> 00:31:04.210 You Do, and sometimes the care is is in that I want to fix 468 00:31:04.289 --> 00:31:07.529 it, and that's what happens to me. I want to fix it, 469 00:31:07.609 --> 00:31:10.289 I've got to fix it and I've got to fix it now, and that 470 00:31:10.569 --> 00:31:12.849 is sometimes kind of productive. It can be. Yeah, yeah, they 471 00:31:12.930 --> 00:31:15.450 you need to. You want to just give them right back a resource that'll 472 00:31:15.490 --> 00:31:18.160 meet that. What's school? We can we these awesome resources. Great, 473 00:31:18.200 --> 00:31:21.400 but you want to snap back right away and say, Oh, you got 474 00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:23.680 this going on, here's a resource. And sometimes you need to remain silent 475 00:31:23.720 --> 00:31:30.160 because you're minimizing you're minimizing that suffering in the perfect example of that is the 476 00:31:30.279 --> 00:31:33.750 whole book of Job. Yeah, job, with just all the suffering. 477 00:31:33.869 --> 00:31:37.069 We won't go into all the details. You all probably know the basic story, 478 00:31:37.190 --> 00:31:41.309 but but with all that suffering in his three friends come and they don't 479 00:31:41.349 --> 00:31:47.460 just come and sit with him, they come and try to first of all 480 00:31:47.500 --> 00:31:51.779 accuse him. What did you do that was so awful that God has done 481 00:31:51.779 --> 00:31:53.980 all this terrible stuff to you? And then they try to fix it with 482 00:31:55.099 --> 00:31:57.980 all the things he needs to do to fix all this submarine and they were 483 00:31:59.059 --> 00:32:02.930 wrong first of all. But but job finally really just answers them saying just 484 00:32:04.250 --> 00:32:07.329 shut up. Yeah, well, job one thousand, three hundred and five, 485 00:32:07.369 --> 00:32:08.769 Huh, is one of the verses that we have in line with this. 486 00:32:08.970 --> 00:32:12.930 Again, this talking about the whole book age. It is yeah, 487 00:32:13.049 --> 00:32:15.839 but verse five maybe kind of sums it up. Oh, that you would 488 00:32:15.839 --> 00:32:22.559 be silent and it would be your wisdom. Silence is wisdom sometimes, old 489 00:32:22.799 --> 00:32:25.119 guys, that you would shut your mouth, and that's where your wisdoms in 490 00:32:25.160 --> 00:32:28.960 a come from. Keep your mouth shut, and that. How many times 491 00:32:29.000 --> 00:32:31.309 have we heard that? When, when you go to a funeral or when 492 00:32:31.430 --> 00:32:37.910 someone has experienced some horrible tragedy in your life and you want to fix it 493 00:32:37.029 --> 00:32:43.470 with your words, and so much of the vice from the experts and from 494 00:32:43.509 --> 00:32:47.980 people who have undergone great suffering is your words can't fix it. Yeah, 495 00:32:49.299 --> 00:32:58.259 your presence and your compassion and just your your gentle kind silence is is the 496 00:32:58.380 --> 00:33:00.170 best thing you can do. Yeah, in the face of awful suffering. 497 00:33:00.210 --> 00:33:05.769 Job, really. That's that's what he expresses. Yeah, so his wife 498 00:33:05.890 --> 00:33:08.329 tells them hers is the word example of what. Yet don't do, just 499 00:33:08.650 --> 00:33:13.480 curse God and die. Yes, she says, man, talk about a 500 00:33:13.519 --> 00:33:17.200 ball and change. Maybe I should have kept silent and not said that. 501 00:33:17.480 --> 00:33:21.119 Let's go into our next point, right, and our next point. This 502 00:33:21.279 --> 00:33:23.519 is our final point. Well, right, we have two more. Oh, 503 00:33:23.799 --> 00:33:29.029 very closely related. But be silent to let the words that have been 504 00:33:29.230 --> 00:33:34.150 spoken have time to sink. Okay, this is this is a good one. 505 00:33:34.269 --> 00:33:36.670 It is a and, but I've kind of already mentioned that. We've 506 00:33:36.710 --> 00:33:39.509 can already talked about that. But what you guys to process this is someone, 507 00:33:39.670 --> 00:33:44.220 this is something that we've kind of learned and you have a personal experience 508 00:33:44.259 --> 00:33:47.779 with this one, right, what's the scripture? There? The scriptures ECCLESIASTS, 509 00:33:47.980 --> 00:33:54.500 nine, seventeen. Okay, plesiast these nine and seventeen, and it 510 00:33:54.809 --> 00:34:04.049 says words of the wise spoken quietly should be heard rather than the shout of 511 00:34:04.170 --> 00:34:07.570 a ruler of fools. So it's not quite silence, it's quietly. Well, 512 00:34:07.610 --> 00:34:13.800 it's letting the words sink in right, and we have, as sidewalk 513 00:34:13.880 --> 00:34:20.559 counselors, very important things to say. And you know, there's a lot 514 00:34:20.599 --> 00:34:23.750 of things that we can say in that context to an abortion mighte. Mom 515 00:34:23.789 --> 00:34:28.030 while she's walking into the abortion clinic or even while we're talking one on one 516 00:34:28.110 --> 00:34:30.230 with her. There's a lot of stuff we can say. We can come 517 00:34:30.269 --> 00:34:31.949 ever enough time, never enough time. We can cover a lot of ground. 518 00:34:32.590 --> 00:34:39.619 Yeah, but I've learned saying some things, given some just really deep 519 00:34:39.820 --> 00:34:44.860 truths that speak into their situation, and then giving them time, because the 520 00:34:44.980 --> 00:34:46.460 tendency is we want to because there's a lot that can be said, we 521 00:34:46.619 --> 00:34:51.099 want to, fear, fill up the air with speech. Yeah, you 522 00:34:51.179 --> 00:34:53.929 know, I've seen that. I've done that even at the abortion clinic here 523 00:34:54.170 --> 00:35:00.809 as we set up the sound system and in time past, my method of 524 00:35:00.289 --> 00:35:04.530 using the sound system basically like preach the whole time. I'll be out there 525 00:35:04.570 --> 00:35:07.440 on the microphone. I'll be on there for twenty thirty minutes preaching. Yeah, 526 00:35:07.519 --> 00:35:10.599 good stuff, reaching the Gospel. Somebody else will hop on for another 527 00:35:10.599 --> 00:35:14.159 twenty thirty minute and they saying, you know, the whole space of that 528 00:35:14.280 --> 00:35:16.199 time has been filled up with preaching. And it's not bad. Right, 529 00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:21.829 preaching is good. But what I've discovered is, and we've really kind of 530 00:35:21.869 --> 00:35:24.230 strategically done this, is that there are certain times, yeah, we need 531 00:35:24.230 --> 00:35:29.389 to broadcast a message in the Gospel needs to be shared fifteen or twenty minutes 532 00:35:29.429 --> 00:35:31.510 and let them have time, those who are in the parking lot, those 533 00:35:31.550 --> 00:35:35.190 who are may be in the waiting room with the abortion clinic, what they've 534 00:35:35.230 --> 00:35:37.940 heard. Give them time to process it, give them time to think about 535 00:35:37.940 --> 00:35:42.980 it. Yeah, yeah, because that's kind of how we operate when you're 536 00:35:42.980 --> 00:35:45.139 listening to a message or you're reading a book. Least I do. If 537 00:35:45.179 --> 00:35:49.300 I'm reading the Scripture my time with the Lord in the morning, I'll read 538 00:35:49.340 --> 00:35:52.210 a passage and I'll contemplate it for a minute. If I just keep on 539 00:35:52.289 --> 00:35:54.050 reading, keep on reading, I don't get the depth that I would get 540 00:35:54.090 --> 00:35:58.570 if I processed. Yeah, you've lost those important little nuggets of truth. 541 00:35:58.610 --> 00:36:02.610 And and my story that directly relates to this is I was on the microphone 542 00:36:02.650 --> 00:36:07.920 and we were doing a sound check. You, you had told me specifically, 543 00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:10.239 I'm going to go up up in a back neighborhood or something to make 544 00:36:10.280 --> 00:36:14.159 sure that we're not being too loud. Yeah, you know, we didn't 545 00:36:14.159 --> 00:36:19.230 want to violate the noise ordinance. And so you told me talk for five 546 00:36:19.309 --> 00:36:22.190 minutes and then be quiet for three minutes, something like that. Yeah, 547 00:36:22.190 --> 00:36:25.190 it was a long time. It was an uncomfortable for me period of silence, 548 00:36:25.269 --> 00:36:28.349 but I was going to do it because you held me to it. 549 00:36:28.389 --> 00:36:31.710 Yeah, and I'm an obedient servant of the Lord. So so I would. 550 00:36:31.710 --> 00:36:38.739 I decided to read from our pamphlet about different methods of abortion and what 551 00:36:38.980 --> 00:36:45.059 happens in an abortion, because they were each the proper segment of time you 552 00:36:45.139 --> 00:36:47.730 want it, and then between each one of those segments I was just going 553 00:36:47.769 --> 00:36:52.090 to be silent for three minutes. Seem to work. So I did that. 554 00:36:52.369 --> 00:36:55.329 Yeah, and and I read it. And as I'm reading segment one, 555 00:36:55.570 --> 00:37:00.480 it's pretty horrific. What happens in every abortion, in every no matter 556 00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:07.199 how young, how early, that baby is. An abortion is barbaric and 557 00:37:07.639 --> 00:37:09.800 you don't even need to use that word. You just describe what happens and 558 00:37:10.159 --> 00:37:15.829 and the barbarism of it is evident. So I read my three, my 559 00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:20.630 five minutes, whatever, and then was silent and just silent, and then 560 00:37:20.750 --> 00:37:24.989 read the next more gruesome. The baby's older, the the techniques are more 561 00:37:25.030 --> 00:37:31.019 violent and more horrific, and then I was just silent and did that four 562 00:37:31.139 --> 00:37:35.539 times. I think we had four segments and by then you came back and 563 00:37:35.659 --> 00:37:39.099 I got off the MIC and a couple of the counselors, of my fellow 564 00:37:39.179 --> 00:37:44.489 sidewalk counselors who have read this and seen this many times, were crying. 565 00:37:44.530 --> 00:37:50.130 Yeah, and one of them said that was so moving. She said I 566 00:37:50.170 --> 00:37:59.000 I had never really thought about what happens so strongly. That was a really 567 00:37:59.079 --> 00:38:05.239 good technique and it was totally not purposeful and totally against my natural bend. 568 00:38:05.400 --> 00:38:09.159 Right, yeah, but very effective. In our natural band is to just 569 00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:14.590 broadcast the information, fill up the airways with as much information as possible. 570 00:38:15.429 --> 00:38:17.909 But you know, we live in a bullet pointed society. We do think 571 00:38:17.949 --> 00:38:22.829 about it. If you don't give people bullet points, they don't read anything. 572 00:38:22.869 --> 00:38:25.789 You look at social media. If you give someone two paragraphs of a 573 00:38:25.909 --> 00:38:29.659 social media post, they don't read it. Yeah, they miss it. 574 00:38:29.820 --> 00:38:32.460 So it's like the forest is lost for the trees. And so, yeah, 575 00:38:32.500 --> 00:38:37.900 given people bite size nuggets of information to process and given, I'm time 576 00:38:37.900 --> 00:38:40.179 to process, it can be very helpful, even in a one on one 577 00:38:40.260 --> 00:38:45.409 context, when you've shared some truth. You've shared the violent nature of abortion 578 00:38:45.449 --> 00:38:47.329 to an abortion amount of mom who's come over and talked with you and you 579 00:38:47.369 --> 00:38:50.809 said and I'll ask the questions. So what do you think about that? 580 00:38:51.329 --> 00:38:53.650 Yeah, you share the resources that are available, because they've just shared with 581 00:38:53.730 --> 00:38:57.159 you the needs that they have, and you share with them the housing, 582 00:38:57.199 --> 00:39:00.079 Menage, whatever it might be. What do you think about those? Those 583 00:39:00.320 --> 00:39:02.159 and you let them sort through it, you let them process it. Right, 584 00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:07.039 it is helpful and now they will often come to their own conclusion. 585 00:39:07.519 --> 00:39:12.789 Now the last one is very similar at but it is different in the in 586 00:39:12.869 --> 00:39:15.630 the fifth one, where being silent to let the words that have been spoken 587 00:39:15.630 --> 00:39:21.150 of time to sink in, to let them process the last major area, 588 00:39:21.670 --> 00:39:25.420 be silent, to let the Holy Spirit work. Yeah, so that's more 589 00:39:25.460 --> 00:39:32.739 than just processing. Now it goes from your action of processing to the holy 590 00:39:32.780 --> 00:39:39.329 spirits action within you, causing conviction and heart change. Yeah, absolutely, 591 00:39:39.409 --> 00:39:45.929 and you know the course any of this. When we're we've decided to speak 592 00:39:45.010 --> 00:39:50.329 some truth and then give those people who've heard that truth time to process it. 593 00:39:50.369 --> 00:39:53.559 It is a sense of US trusting the Lord. It is an understanding 594 00:39:53.760 --> 00:39:58.199 that doesn't matter how why is your words are, how loud they are, 595 00:39:58.320 --> 00:40:01.039 how many of there are. Ultimately it's going to fall to the ground if 596 00:40:01.079 --> 00:40:05.320 the Holy Spirit isn't moving on it. Now again, God's word doesn't return 597 00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:08.309 void in the Holy Spirit work through the word of God, but he works 598 00:40:08.349 --> 00:40:12.469 in the human heart, he works in the human mind and he brings conviction 599 00:40:13.110 --> 00:40:15.269 and you've got to give the Holy Spirit time. And me imagine the Holy 600 00:40:15.349 --> 00:40:21.659 Spirit is convicted someone about a particular subject that you just covered. Let's say 601 00:40:21.699 --> 00:40:24.219 you covered the subject of the sin of abortion and the reality of that, 602 00:40:24.619 --> 00:40:30.219 and then you move on to some other subject. You've basically taken their attention 603 00:40:30.380 --> 00:40:34.260 the contemplation in the conviction of the Holy Spirit and you've shifted it to another 604 00:40:34.260 --> 00:40:37.610 subject. Doesn't mean that God can't move them as but it seems his way 605 00:40:37.809 --> 00:40:42.210 is moving with the subject matter that's before their eyes, with the scriptures that 606 00:40:42.289 --> 00:40:45.610 have been shared with them and in letting them stew and that, letting them 607 00:40:45.610 --> 00:40:51.119 feel that conviction. Yeah, I have an example that shows you how much 608 00:40:51.119 --> 00:40:54.199 damage you can do with that silence, where I had a mom who I 609 00:40:54.440 --> 00:41:02.360 shared about abortion and why it was wrong and and and she had actually changed 610 00:41:02.559 --> 00:41:09.389 her heart, but I didn't know it and something that she said in response 611 00:41:09.429 --> 00:41:15.309 I misinterpreted. I was not silent, I wasn't listening carefully, I was 612 00:41:15.429 --> 00:41:19.460 I was doing all the wrong things that we have just outlined that I shouldn't 613 00:41:19.460 --> 00:41:25.420 have done. And she was furious and said I had decided not to abort 614 00:41:25.500 --> 00:41:32.849 my child and you just accused me of whatever it was, of still wanting 615 00:41:32.889 --> 00:41:37.090 to abort the child. And I think ultimately she did, and that was 616 00:41:37.329 --> 00:41:43.369 my fault in a sense. I mean I just I blew it because I 617 00:41:43.610 --> 00:41:46.440 didn't trust that God had worked in her heart when he had. But we 618 00:41:46.519 --> 00:41:52.719 have a couple of great verses. Sorry, sixty two, yeah, okay, 619 00:41:52.840 --> 00:41:55.320 some sixty two, five through six, and this is David the psalmist. 620 00:41:57.480 --> 00:42:01.989 He says, my soul wait silently for God alone, for my expectation 621 00:42:02.190 --> 00:42:07.510 is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, he is 622 00:42:07.590 --> 00:42:12.230 my defense. I shall not be moved. And this is again waiting on 623 00:42:12.309 --> 00:42:14.789 the Lord. Now, of course, this is from our part, in 624 00:42:14.869 --> 00:42:16.500 our hearts, waiting on the Lord. And why you're doing this? You 625 00:42:16.619 --> 00:42:22.260 know the I guess, practical context, as you've just shared some truth with 626 00:42:22.300 --> 00:42:24.739 an abortion outed mom or dad. It's there, yeah, and they're standing 627 00:42:24.739 --> 00:42:28.219 in front of you or they're in the parking lot, you're on a microphone 628 00:42:28.260 --> 00:42:31.690 or whatever. This is a time for you to let them process what you've 629 00:42:31.730 --> 00:42:36.010 just said and for you to pray. This is when you give it to 630 00:42:36.090 --> 00:42:39.090 the Lord, when you say Lord, and this is you praying between you 631 00:42:39.250 --> 00:42:44.320 and the Lord. Lord, please just take what I've just said and may 632 00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:45.760 it penetrate their heart. You know, God moves through his word, but 633 00:42:45.840 --> 00:42:50.480 he also answers the prayers of his people, and this is a time again 634 00:42:50.519 --> 00:42:52.719 for us to trust in the Holy Spirit to do his work, because you 635 00:42:53.159 --> 00:42:57.400 never know what God is doing. I mean, I've seen some of the 636 00:42:58.039 --> 00:43:00.789 outwardly just look like they're hardhearder, they're not listening to what I'm saying, 637 00:43:00.789 --> 00:43:04.869 standing out in the parking lot or whatever. Yeah, but then just try 638 00:43:04.989 --> 00:43:07.469 us in the Lord and I've Seen God just shift them and I thought they 639 00:43:07.510 --> 00:43:13.099 weren't listening, but in reality they were listening, so much so that they 640 00:43:13.179 --> 00:43:16.579 went in. Young men go in and get their girlfriends out and and choose 641 00:43:16.659 --> 00:43:21.300 life. And so it's the holy spirits job to bring conviction. It's your 642 00:43:21.300 --> 00:43:23.340 job to speak the truth, it's your job to know when to be silent 643 00:43:23.380 --> 00:43:28.650 after you've just spoken the truth, and it's the holy spirits job to bring 644 00:43:29.210 --> 00:43:34.889 conviction. That's right. Ultimately, you don't want them to hear your voice, 645 00:43:35.289 --> 00:43:38.929 you want them to hear God's voice, and that happens in their spirit, 646 00:43:40.010 --> 00:43:45.559 taking all this wonderful things that you have spoken and what you know and 647 00:43:45.639 --> 00:43:51.519 let it letting it percolate and letting the Holy Spirit then bring that in their 648 00:43:51.599 --> 00:43:55.110 heart. Yeah, so we hope that we haven't discourage you guys from opening 649 00:43:55.190 --> 00:43:59.710 your mouth. We hope that we didn't tell you, guys, or you 650 00:43:59.789 --> 00:44:01.909 didn't take from this podcast that you just need to be quiet. If that 651 00:44:02.070 --> 00:44:06.110 is he took that. If you took that from it, that's your fault, 652 00:44:06.190 --> 00:44:10.260 not as and we hope that you guys will those who are maybe contemplating 653 00:44:10.340 --> 00:44:14.659 going out to an abortion clinic and being involved in this ministry, that you'll 654 00:44:14.699 --> 00:44:19.059 take that step of faith that you'll get equipped. On our website, sidewalks, 655 00:44:19.099 --> 00:44:22.179 the number four lifecom, there's some stuff on there about what to say, 656 00:44:22.699 --> 00:44:27.010 even some stuff about being silent. We're going to put this out of 657 00:44:27.090 --> 00:44:29.849 the articles. It is already out on okay, so we already have this 658 00:44:29.969 --> 00:44:32.610 out as an article on the sidewalks for life in the equipping articles section. 659 00:44:32.690 --> 00:44:37.050 A lot of good articles there, most of them written by Vicki. The 660 00:44:37.170 --> 00:44:39.039 really good ones are written by me, humbly. I'm just kidding. She's 661 00:44:39.079 --> 00:44:43.400 great at writing these things. They're awesome and you know we're speaking from experience, 662 00:44:43.480 --> 00:44:45.360 right, let us mess up so you don't have to. Yeah, 663 00:44:45.679 --> 00:44:50.039 you know, a wise man it's not just someone that learns from their own 664 00:44:50.320 --> 00:44:53.590 experiences, and even wiser man is someone that learns from someone else's experience. 665 00:44:54.110 --> 00:44:57.789 And you know, we can all do something. As one preacher said, 666 00:44:58.110 --> 00:45:00.269 even the worst of us can serve as bad as bad. A show that 667 00:45:00.389 --> 00:45:02.989 we've shared some of that. Hope. It's been a blessing to you guys. 668 00:45:02.989 --> 00:45:07.460 Hope you will check out our website, www dot sidewalks and number four 669 00:45:07.579 --> 00:45:10.659 lifecom. You can reach out to me d parks at cities for lifecom. 670 00:45:12.219 --> 00:45:15.579 Her At v Costi Organ Cities for lifecom. But until next time, God 671 00:45:15.659 --> 00:45:32.769 bless o love for love. Give me our loft for gratitude. I know 672 00:45:34.090 --> 00:45:43.119 it will cost me my life. Nothing's too precious in some you