Aug. 25, 2022

The Trap Of Offense In Ministry

The Trap Of Offense In Ministry

There are many things that the devil uses to discourage and distract us from what God has called us to. One of the enemy's most effective tools is offense. If we harbor offense and bitterness it can be very destructive to us and to those we minister with as well as those we minister to. In this episode, we talk about the trap of offense, and how to deal with and avoid it.

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:05.120 Now, let's not forget Jesus Christ died for the Pharisees as well. Right, 2 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:09.919 so he didn't hold bitterness in his heart and withhold good, because that's 3 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:13.279 ultimately what happens. When you hold bitterness or offense in your heart. It 4 00:00:13.279 --> 00:00:16.719 becomes a reader bitterness. You end up with holding good from the people that 5 00:00:16.800 --> 00:00:20.039 you should do good to. We end up doing the very thing Jesus said 6 00:00:20.120 --> 00:00:22.960 not to do when we're offended and we have a root of bitterness. You 7 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:25.760 know how it says that we should do unto others as we would have them 8 00:00:25.800 --> 00:00:29.239 to do unto us. When we get bitterness and offense in our hearts, 9 00:00:29.280 --> 00:00:35.840 we oftentimes do the opposite. I Am Yours, I'm yours, I'm yours, 10 00:00:36.159 --> 00:00:42.240 and me Lord, I'm yours, I'm yours. I'm welcome to the 11 00:00:42.280 --> 00:00:48.200 Gospel centered pro life podcast, a podcast designed to equip, encourage and challenge 12 00:00:48.200 --> 00:00:51.759 you in pro life ministry, and always with a focus on the Gospel. 13 00:00:51.960 --> 00:01:06.879 Stay tuned. I felt your past touch your welcome back to the Gospel centered 14 00:01:06.879 --> 00:01:11.000 pro life podcast. Appreciate you guys joining us as always, and I am 15 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:18.319 here Daniel Parks, with Vicky Cassi Org doing I'm sure everybody's doing great because 16 00:01:18.319 --> 00:01:22.799 they get to hear from us again. Lucky them. There is no such 17 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:26.840 thing as luck. That's right. Just what would be the alternative? Then 18 00:01:27.079 --> 00:01:32.480 they are so blessed, blessed, they're blessed, they're blessed. Yes, 19 00:01:32.640 --> 00:01:38.640 Amen. Well, this topic hopefully will be a blessing. Hopefully by the 20 00:01:38.760 --> 00:01:44.959 end of this episode, you guys won't be offended and we talk about because 21 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:49.480 we're gonna be talking about offense. We're gonna be talking about how in ministry 22 00:01:49.599 --> 00:01:55.239 there is this trap of offense. Or actually had a conversation yesterday with one 23 00:01:55.239 --> 00:01:57.879 of the guys in the office that said I was saying it wrong. I 24 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:01.079 was saying offense. He saying that's what you do when you're playing football. 25 00:02:01.280 --> 00:02:07.280 Right, this is offense. So I'm trying not to be offended or offended 26 00:02:07.799 --> 00:02:10.520 by that and say it right. Um, I have a little fun with 27 00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:15.879 that, but this is a very, very serious subject, which it is. 28 00:02:16.280 --> 00:02:21.360 It is. This is a good portion of this is from the book 29 00:02:21.479 --> 00:02:27.080 the Bait of Satan and yes, excellent book, and he makes the point. 30 00:02:27.120 --> 00:02:31.520 The author John Vivie, or it could be bevier. You don't know. 31 00:02:32.039 --> 00:02:37.719 Okay, John vivie Um. He makes the point that the UM, 32 00:02:37.800 --> 00:02:42.479 the danger of the trap of offense is that it can become a route of 33 00:02:42.520 --> 00:02:46.439 bitterness and it just destroys not only ministries, which is where we're going to 34 00:02:46.520 --> 00:02:53.240 focus, but really human relationships, all human relationships and Um and I think 35 00:02:53.280 --> 00:02:57.039 that is very true. As I was reading that book, I definitely had 36 00:02:57.120 --> 00:03:00.599 quite a few ouch moments. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think personally, 37 00:03:01.120 --> 00:03:05.879 when you get born again and give your life to Jesus, you should 38 00:03:05.879 --> 00:03:08.400 get two things. You should get a Bible and you need to read that 39 00:03:08.599 --> 00:03:13.719 every day. You know, man don't live on bread alone, but everywhere 40 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:15.240 that comes from southing God give us this day or daily bread. You need 41 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:19.319 your daily bread and you should get a copy of the bit of saying wow, 42 00:03:19.479 --> 00:03:23.800 it's that. Critically, I'm not saying it's equal to the Bible by 43 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:29.919 the stretch of the imagination, but the trap of offense and what I've seen 44 00:03:30.039 --> 00:03:34.560 offense do in my own life and the lives of others and what offense has 45 00:03:34.639 --> 00:03:39.280 done to destroy ministries, to Split Churches, is so detrimental to the body 46 00:03:39.280 --> 00:03:45.479 of Christ it's so deeply routed in our hearts. We can so justify it 47 00:03:45.680 --> 00:03:49.520 and it's but it's so destructive that it needs to be dealt with. And 48 00:03:49.680 --> 00:03:52.759 you actually had all of my my whole family went through that book. We 49 00:03:53.280 --> 00:03:54.879 bought a copy for each of our kids. There's actually a version of and 50 00:03:54.879 --> 00:04:00.520 I'm not selling books here, I'm just saying this book is power and the 51 00:04:00.520 --> 00:04:03.039 truths that are in that book are so powerful everybody needs to take advantage of 52 00:04:03.039 --> 00:04:05.800 it. There's one Um version of that book. I think you can find 53 00:04:05.800 --> 00:04:11.039 it on Youtube, not on Youtube, on Amazon, and it's like a 54 00:04:11.080 --> 00:04:14.639 thirty day devotional version. So it as you read like a portion of the 55 00:04:14.719 --> 00:04:17.120 chapter and then you go into the back and answer questions based on that portion 56 00:04:17.160 --> 00:04:20.160 that you read. We actually had each of our kids read that portion, 57 00:04:20.240 --> 00:04:24.680 answer the questions and then we all talked about it as a family, because 58 00:04:24.720 --> 00:04:30.199 offense can be so rooted in in our identity. US holding offense against people. 59 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:32.720 People do that against their parents, they do that that against their teachers, 60 00:04:33.040 --> 00:04:36.160 they do that against their children, their GRANDPA, you know, all 61 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:42.120 all of the relationships that we have can have some point of offense that's connected 62 00:04:42.160 --> 00:04:46.399 to it and it can hold us back. It can one of the things 63 00:04:46.480 --> 00:04:51.040 that surprised me reading the book was how often Jesus talks about it. Yeah, 64 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:55.680 you know. The first we have an article, as we often do, 65 00:04:55.720 --> 00:05:00.439 that that Um goes along with this podcast, and the the right at 66 00:05:00.480 --> 00:05:05.720 the top of that article is uh luke seventeen one where Jesus said it is 67 00:05:05.759 --> 00:05:13.839 impossible that no offense should come and and there are many other the in the 68 00:05:13.839 --> 00:05:18.639 book he cites many, many Biblical, uh you know, scripture that that 69 00:05:18.720 --> 00:05:23.759 talks about the danger of offense. Yeah, if you want to know three 70 00:05:23.800 --> 00:05:28.399 things that will hold you back from doing what God has called you to it 71 00:05:28.439 --> 00:05:36.240 will be offense, bitterness and disillusionment. Offense, bitterness and disillusionment will hold 72 00:05:36.279 --> 00:05:40.680 you back from doing and being what God has called you to do. And 73 00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:46.079 they're so related. They're so related. I think offense probably comes first and 74 00:05:46.279 --> 00:05:49.240 then comes the disillusionment. And what was the third one? Bitterness, and 75 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:56.319 the rude of bitterness that comes from offense can be so, so painful. 76 00:05:56.560 --> 00:05:59.399 So, yeah, this reality that and this is why we're talking about this, 77 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:02.079 especially in the sidewalk ministry, but any area of ministry that you're involved 78 00:06:02.079 --> 00:06:06.040 in, there can be the potential for offense. You could be offended with 79 00:06:06.120 --> 00:06:10.439 the people you're ministering to. You can be offended with the people you're ministering 80 00:06:10.480 --> 00:06:13.120 with, you can be offended at the churches that are not coming out and 81 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:15.600 ministering or the ones that are, or whatever. There's all kinds of room 82 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:19.319 for offense. That's why Jesus says here that it's impossible that no offense should 83 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:23.360 come. Like, if you're gonna be a Christian, if you're gonna be 84 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:27.519 a human being in this world, in this fallen world full of fallen people, 85 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:31.000 you're going to have offenses. There's gonna be things that offend you, 86 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:34.560 things that happen in a way that you didn't want them to happen, and 87 00:06:35.279 --> 00:06:39.120 that's something you're gonna deal with. So we need to look at what the 88 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:42.959 word of God says. How do we deal with offenses biblically so that they 89 00:06:43.000 --> 00:06:46.839 don't become a root of bitterness that will defile us? And the Bible says 90 00:06:46.040 --> 00:06:50.040 that root of bitterness can defile many people around us can get defiled and then 91 00:06:50.079 --> 00:06:55.000 we become disillusioned ultimately with the body of Christ and with God. I mean 92 00:06:55.040 --> 00:07:00.800 I've seen offense go from being offended to a root of bitterness to being completely 93 00:07:00.839 --> 00:07:04.279 disillusioned with God. Where people, I mean we talk with pro boards on 94 00:07:04.279 --> 00:07:08.800 the sidewalk all the time who were raised in church, and that's the flow 95 00:07:08.839 --> 00:07:13.360 of things. They got offended by somebody, somebody said something to them or 96 00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:16.040 somebody didn't do something that they thought they should do. Um, they got 97 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:20.000 that root of bitterness. That root of bitterness grew up and just defiled them 98 00:07:20.040 --> 00:07:24.519 and defiled many and then they're just completely disillusioned with the church. They don't 99 00:07:24.519 --> 00:07:28.600 want to have anything to do with God. It really clouds reality because the 100 00:07:28.680 --> 00:07:32.800 reality is not what they've painted. When you become bitter, your reality is 101 00:07:32.839 --> 00:07:39.360 now skewed and and Um and and incorrect, so often incorrect. I love 102 00:07:39.399 --> 00:07:43.079 what John Beavier said. He said it is not a question of opportunity to 103 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:46.079 be offended, based on that luke seventeen passage. Um, you will be 104 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:49.879 offended. In other words, there will be opportunity to be offended. But 105 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:55.600 he said, but the question is what your response will be. So it's 106 00:07:55.600 --> 00:07:59.720 gonna come. How will we respond? Can we responded in a biblical manner? 107 00:07:59.759 --> 00:08:03.399 And it is really where we hope that this podcast will, will guide 108 00:08:03.680 --> 00:08:07.240 and encourage. So let's then just real quick. I think we've already done 109 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:13.240 it, but let's concisely define what we're talking about. What is offense? 110 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:16.759 Yeah, yeah, well, I'll take stab at it Um. Offense is 111 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:24.519 when something feels like an attack on either your person, your speech, your 112 00:08:24.680 --> 00:08:31.839 character, and you take it personally. Yeah, yeah, I would say 113 00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:37.840 it's something that someone does or someone fails to do that, like you said, 114 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:43.799 it seems like an attack and you as a person and it's a it's 115 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:46.279 an offense. All right, it feels like an offensive jab against you. 116 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:50.559 Now one thing. I think we'll get into this as we get into the 117 00:08:50.559 --> 00:08:52.360 meat of this podcast. We have to understand. This is something that really 118 00:08:52.399 --> 00:08:56.440 helped me, and I shared this before we started recording. It really helped 119 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:00.720 me to get over offense and to let things go. At the end of 120 00:09:00.759 --> 00:09:01.919 the day, it's what we need to we need to let stuff go. 121 00:09:03.879 --> 00:09:09.120 It's realizing and understanding I'm not that important. People aren't thinking of ways they 122 00:09:09.120 --> 00:09:13.639 can slide me. They aren't. They aren't thinking of how they can leave 123 00:09:13.679 --> 00:09:18.039 me out of stuff so that it will hurt me. People aren't thinking of 124 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:22.840 ways and things that they can say to offend me and to tear me down. 125 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:26.720 A lot of times it's negligence. A lot of times it can be 126 00:09:26.840 --> 00:09:30.840 US thinking more highly of ourselves than we ought to, and so people might 127 00:09:31.039 --> 00:09:35.519 say something to us that hits us the wrong way or whatever it might be. 128 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:41.039 Um, it's not personal. That's that's where we get into this trap 129 00:09:41.080 --> 00:09:46.879 of offense, is we take it personal, and so if we can keep 130 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:50.720 from taking it personal, then I think we could keep ourselves from the trap 131 00:09:50.759 --> 00:09:52.519 of offense, and we can. We can deal with it. You know, 132 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:56.279 if we need to address it on a personal level, we we do, 133 00:09:56.320 --> 00:10:00.279 but right. And there are two there are two kinds of offense the 134 00:10:00.320 --> 00:10:03.840 author brings out. One is purposeful, I mean there really is an attack 135 00:10:05.480 --> 00:10:09.399 that shouldn't have happened and you are actually justified in at least feeling you've been 136 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:13.039 attacked, Um, and then there's the ones that are along the lines of 137 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:16.159 what you were talking about. They really had nothing to do really with you. 138 00:10:16.440 --> 00:10:22.559 It was just maybe thoughtlessness on their part, but they really weren't focused 139 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:24.960 on you at all. They were focused on a, you know, whatever 140 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:28.960 their agenda was, and you just sort of gotten the way. Let me 141 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:33.159 give you just a short little example of how this might play out, and 142 00:10:33.159 --> 00:10:35.480 I've seen it play out on the sidewalk. This is just for sidewalk ministry. 143 00:10:35.759 --> 00:10:39.679 You're there on the sidewalk, you're calling out to someone across the parking 144 00:10:39.720 --> 00:10:45.360 lot. Your team member WHO's WHO's in ministry with you, is on the 145 00:10:45.360 --> 00:10:48.000 other side of the sidewalk, or maybe down fifty ft or so, and 146 00:10:48.039 --> 00:10:52.799 they start calling out over top of you. Immediately you're like, okay, 147 00:10:52.840 --> 00:10:56.519 why are they they don't think what I'm saying is valuable. You know, 148 00:10:56.840 --> 00:10:58.679 you go with this is where we get called in this trap of offense. 149 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:03.840 Our minds gravitate towards the worst possible scenario. They don't like what I'm saying. 150 00:11:03.919 --> 00:11:07.360 That's what they're calling out, assigning motives to them that you can't really 151 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:11.240 know until you've discussed it with them. Yeah, when you drill into it 152 00:11:11.279 --> 00:11:13.919 though, and this is where, in that scenario, how I would deal 153 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:16.879 with if someone's calling out over me and I had offense, I would walk 154 00:11:16.960 --> 00:11:20.639 over there and say, Hey, I noticed I was calling out earlier and 155 00:11:20.639 --> 00:11:22.399 you started calling over top of me. If there is there some reason why, 156 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:28.200 quite likely they didn't realize that you were calling out. Rather than attributing 157 00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:31.960 the worst possible motive. Maybe they just didn't see that you were calling out 158 00:11:33.320 --> 00:11:35.320 and in their zeal they started calling out. That's just a simple example. 159 00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:39.879 It could get a lot more complex than that. Yeah, yeah, but 160 00:11:39.039 --> 00:11:41.960 you know, that's an example I thought, just as it pertains to this 161 00:11:43.039 --> 00:11:46.440 ministry, that I would bring up. It's a good example because it also 162 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:52.080 shows that the it could have turned into, and often does turn into, 163 00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:56.600 just you harbor that as bitter resentment inside of you. You don't directly address 164 00:11:56.679 --> 00:12:01.879 it immediately. You assume that Wurst and all of a sudden you're giving your 165 00:12:01.919 --> 00:12:05.440 teammates the silent treatment or you're angry with them, and then you start to 166 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:11.200 snap at each other and whatever, and it could blow up into destroying the 167 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:16.399 cohesiveness of a sidewalk and it's such a little thing that never needed to become 168 00:12:16.399 --> 00:12:20.879 big. The Bible says it's the little foxes that spoil the vine. I 169 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:24.480 just read that and I never knew what that meant, but that's exactly that's 170 00:12:24.559 --> 00:12:28.200 perfect. That's a perfect verse for that. It's often the little things that 171 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:37.039 you never expect that that end up ripping apart an entire yeah, yeah, 172 00:12:37.200 --> 00:12:41.080 and you think about it in that scenario. If that happens multiple times, 173 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:45.480 someone calls out over you multiple times, that kind of can reinforce that whole 174 00:12:45.480 --> 00:12:48.039 idea that you have in your mind. That's why one of the ways to 175 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:52.639 guard against offense is what Jesus gives us a Matthew Chapter Eighteen. If you 176 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:56.080 have an offense with your brother, if you find fault with your brother, 177 00:12:56.519 --> 00:13:01.200 go and speak between you and them. Here's one of the things that we 178 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:05.200 do to spiritualize our offense, and I've seen this. Probably done this. 179 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:07.200 I can't remember an instance where I did, but I've seen it with others. 180 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:11.440 It's easier to see things in other people. Come I put the personal 181 00:13:11.480 --> 00:13:15.720 example. If you need yeah, Um, but you spiritualize your offense by 182 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:18.200 saying I want you to pray about this. You know it's rather than going 183 00:13:18.200 --> 00:13:20.399 to the person that you have the offense with and dealing with it between you 184 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:24.399 and them so they can be dealt with like it's supposed to be, you 185 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:26.679 go to somebody else. I want you to be praying about this. So 186 00:13:26.759 --> 00:13:30.759 and so keeps calling out over me, or so and so keeps, you 187 00:13:30.799 --> 00:13:35.320 know whatever, they keep doing whatever thing that's offended you. So I want 188 00:13:35.360 --> 00:13:37.840 you to be praying back. What are you doing in that? You're sharing 189 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:41.759 your offense with other people. It's failed gossip. Spiritually, I think about 190 00:13:41.759 --> 00:13:46.919 how that grieves the heart of God when you're using prayer, this powerful tool 191 00:13:46.960 --> 00:13:52.279 that he's given us, in order to to really perpetuate your offense when you 192 00:13:52.279 --> 00:13:56.080 should be dealing with it between the person that you're offended by. What you'll 193 00:13:56.120 --> 00:14:00.519 find is because the devil can do a really good job of being a case 194 00:14:00.559 --> 00:14:03.960 against people in your mind, in their absence. Right, what you'll find 195 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:07.919 is it's probably there's probably a lot less to it than you thought there was. 196 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:09.600 It's not, again, that they thought that you weren't good at what 197 00:14:09.639 --> 00:14:13.240 you're doing and you weren't saying the right things. Is You're calling out, 198 00:14:13.519 --> 00:14:16.399 but they didn't realize that you were calling out. Or maybe it is that 199 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:22.639 they don't think that the things that you're saying are are valuable and you should 200 00:14:22.639 --> 00:14:24.919 be called out over. That still needs to be talked about right. That 201 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.279 needs to be addressed between you and them. Relationships are hard, but as 202 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:33.799 a believer in Jesus, we have to do the hard work of building relationships 203 00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:37.480 with each other. Why? Because the heart of God is unity in the 204 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:41.440 body. So they're difficult conversations that need to be had sometimes, but oftentimes 205 00:14:41.480 --> 00:14:46.480 you'll find that the things that offends you are actually just lies from the enemy 206 00:14:46.519 --> 00:14:50.480 and from the flesh, that if you just bring it out in the open, 207 00:14:50.600 --> 00:14:52.120 like they say, sunlight is the best disinfect and if you bring it 208 00:14:52.159 --> 00:14:56.240 out in the open, out into the light, you'll find that there's really 209 00:14:56.240 --> 00:14:58.039 no substance to a lot of these things. Right. Yeah, I I 210 00:14:58.200 --> 00:15:03.519 agree with that. Agree with that totally. Um, so it's a trap, 211 00:15:03.039 --> 00:15:07.120 you know. Offense is a trap that that this Satan sets for all 212 00:15:07.159 --> 00:15:11.720 of us and we can either fall into that trap nurture that offense in our 213 00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:18.320 hearts at the point that it becomes deadly and dangerous. And one of the 214 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:22.240 things uh John Bevere pointed out that I thought was really interesting was what, 215 00:15:22.240 --> 00:15:26.799 what is the most likely source of offense, and it's usually those we love 216 00:15:26.840 --> 00:15:33.320 the most, those were the ones we expect the highest from, are the 217 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:37.240 ones that most easily offend us. So those would be members of our family. 218 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:41.600 They certainly could be members of our team, a boss that's supposed to 219 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:46.960 be looking out for you and you find out he really wasn't Um. Yeah, 220 00:15:48.039 --> 00:15:50.240 so a little quote. Not Tapped this into my phone a couple of 221 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:54.279 months ago, just I was thinking these things through, because this is something 222 00:15:54.320 --> 00:15:56.519 you're always going to deal with in ministry, is trying to disciple people and 223 00:15:56.600 --> 00:16:00.200 encourage people not to be offended with each other and also not to deal with 224 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:04.759 offense in your own heart. And essentially, here's the quote. The people 225 00:16:04.840 --> 00:16:08.519 closed to see you have the ability to hurt you the most with the least 226 00:16:08.519 --> 00:16:11.279 amount of effort. Yeah, and that's true. That's the reality. Well, 227 00:16:11.320 --> 00:16:14.600 they know you, they know you the best. So they know if, 228 00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:19.039 if the offense is purposeful, they know what it takes to they know 229 00:16:19.159 --> 00:16:23.360 the buttons. And if it's not, Um uh, you know something that 230 00:16:23.399 --> 00:16:29.840 they are intentionally doing. It hurts because you just expect them. You they 231 00:16:29.879 --> 00:16:36.919 should, they should be more careful. So so the the big danger, 232 00:16:37.440 --> 00:16:41.320 the biggest danger of dwelling an offense is that it moves into the next stage, 233 00:16:41.399 --> 00:16:47.960 which is that root of bitterness. And when you're when you're hurt, 234 00:16:48.080 --> 00:16:55.600 uh, what takes over is your own pride has been wounded and it quickly 235 00:16:55.679 --> 00:17:02.080 becomes the source of a hardened heart. And that hard it in heart then 236 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:10.160 is not willing to repent from that hardness of their own heart. They're not 237 00:17:10.200 --> 00:17:14.799 willing to forgive. First of all. They're not willing to repent of the 238 00:17:14.880 --> 00:17:18.640 need to forgive, and therefore they will not be healed from the offense. 239 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:25.200 And I thought that was interesting. To the offender, whether it was purposeful 240 00:17:25.319 --> 00:17:30.599 or not, is really not the one that is in the deeper sin, 241 00:17:30.720 --> 00:17:34.160 in a sense, because it's the one who has been offended who is now 242 00:17:34.240 --> 00:17:41.319 refusing forgiveness, when we have all been forgiven of so much, that is 243 00:17:41.400 --> 00:17:45.319 now causing it to turn into so much more than what it should have turned 244 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:49.599 into. Yeah, I mean, Jesus did say that if you don't forgive, 245 00:17:49.960 --> 00:17:53.319 then you will not be forgiven. We need to take that very seriously. 246 00:17:53.599 --> 00:18:00.680 There's something heavy and something really important about this forgiveness. The UM I'm 247 00:18:00.680 --> 00:18:03.240 gonna read the Scripture. This is in Hebrews, Chapter Twelve and uh be 248 00:18:03.559 --> 00:18:08.200 verse fifteen, where it talks about a root of bitterness. This is a 249 00:18:08.240 --> 00:18:14.119 new King James version. It says, looking carefully lest anyone falls short of 250 00:18:14.119 --> 00:18:18.559 the grace of God less any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and 251 00:18:18.599 --> 00:18:23.480 by this many become defiled. So this offense that can lead to a root 252 00:18:23.559 --> 00:18:29.960 of bitterness doesn't just hurt you, but it can hurt people around you. 253 00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:33.839 And this happens when you're offended by someone, then you do that spiritualized gossip 254 00:18:33.920 --> 00:18:40.359 and you kind of build your own team against that person and many become defiled. 255 00:18:40.400 --> 00:18:42.039 Some of the worst offense, if you think about it, that we 256 00:18:42.079 --> 00:18:45.720 can deal with, is offense that we take on behalf of other people. 257 00:18:45.200 --> 00:18:49.960 You know, if somebody hurts your husband or your kid, that's that's the 258 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:53.720 next level, as opposed to them hurting you. Right if they hurt you 259 00:18:55.240 --> 00:18:56.079 a lot of times, you know, you can deal with it, you 260 00:18:56.079 --> 00:19:00.279 can move on, but if they hurt someone else and you take off fense 261 00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:03.079 for that person, it's hard for you to let that go. So we 262 00:19:03.160 --> 00:19:07.200 have to guard our hearts against, if we get offended, sharing that offense 263 00:19:07.240 --> 00:19:11.839 with others, that that route of bitterness with other people, because even though 264 00:19:11.880 --> 00:19:15.240 we might end up releasing it and getting, you know, being giving forgiveness 265 00:19:15.279 --> 00:19:18.160 to the person that offended us, the people that we got around us, 266 00:19:18.200 --> 00:19:22.319 there's many that were defiled. They have a hard time getting over that. 267 00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:26.640 Exactly you've defiled others. So there's another verse that Um was in the book, 268 00:19:26.680 --> 00:19:30.880 Matthew, actually three verses. That's the same subject, the same Um. 269 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:36.039 Thing that you're trying to point out is that offense leads to terrible consequences 270 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:41.960 and another scripture that points that out. As Matthew Ten to thirteen. Do 271 00:19:41.000 --> 00:19:44.240 you have that there? Can You? Can you read that? Yeah, 272 00:19:44.240 --> 00:19:47.400 it says, and then many will be offended and we'll betray one another and 273 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:51.599 we'll hate one another. Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many 274 00:19:51.680 --> 00:19:53.960 and because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. But 275 00:19:55.039 --> 00:19:57.799 he who endures to the end shall be saved. So look at that progression. 276 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:03.920 To me this was just shows the seriousness of offense. It leads to 277 00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:15.359 betrayal, hatred, false profits, deception, lawlessness, love growing cold. 278 00:20:17.000 --> 00:20:22.880 All of that from an offense. And so it's not from the offense, 279 00:20:22.279 --> 00:20:30.160 it's from the one who has been offended. It wasn't the offense that set 280 00:20:30.200 --> 00:20:36.400 off this terrible series of sin, it was the one who was offended who 281 00:20:36.480 --> 00:20:42.119 didn't deal with it appropriately. So I think that shows how incredibly important it 282 00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:48.079 is to deal with offense. And something else that you had said is is, 283 00:20:48.119 --> 00:20:55.000 you know, you Uh spiritualized prayer, you can also spiritualized scripture. 284 00:20:55.240 --> 00:20:59.440 And what I mean is, well, it wasn't my idea, actually it 285 00:20:59.480 --> 00:21:03.759 was John Fears. Is Is that you can take scripture to support your position 286 00:21:03.839 --> 00:21:07.440 of why you're offended. There's all there probably is. If it's a legitimate 287 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:11.480 offense, you will be able to find scripture to support it. But without 288 00:21:11.559 --> 00:21:17.519 the love of God. To balance that, that scripture is being used as 289 00:21:17.519 --> 00:21:22.119 a weapon and to further your own offense, your own sense of being offended. 290 00:21:22.559 --> 00:21:29.559 Yeah, I will say this that you have to as a believer in 291 00:21:29.640 --> 00:21:34.000 Jesus, because we're primarily talking about Co believers in Jesus right, fellow believers 292 00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:37.839 in Jesus, and you're being offended by people on your team, your sidewalk 293 00:21:37.880 --> 00:21:44.279 team or whatever ministry you're involved in. Um, you have to believe the 294 00:21:44.319 --> 00:21:48.400 best about the people that you're in ministry with, unless you have a large 295 00:21:48.519 --> 00:21:52.720 body of evidence to the contrary. When Paul Talks about in First Corinthians, 296 00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:56.759 chapter thirteen, he talks about love and what love looks like, and one 297 00:21:56.799 --> 00:22:00.240 of the things he says is that love believe us all things that could be 298 00:22:00.279 --> 00:22:06.720 translated into love, believes the best. We have to believe the best about 299 00:22:06.720 --> 00:22:11.000 our fellow brothers and sisters in the Lord unless we're given a compelling reason to 300 00:22:11.039 --> 00:22:15.480 believe otherwise, and then, if we have a compelling reason to believe otherwise, 301 00:22:15.880 --> 00:22:21.200 we have to confront it. We have listen for for the love of 302 00:22:21.240 --> 00:22:25.799 our brothers and sisters in the Lord. If there's an egregious sin and if 303 00:22:25.799 --> 00:22:29.680 they're going around just offending everyone, right, because there are people like that 304 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:33.640 that just there there, brash, they're inconsiderate. There may be new believers 305 00:22:33.720 --> 00:22:38.119 in Jesus and their relationship skills aren't the best. There needs to be a 306 00:22:38.119 --> 00:22:42.359 confrontation rather than just that person offending this person that person and then just building 307 00:22:42.400 --> 00:22:47.640 this team of people against them. You've got to address it between you and 308 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:51.960 them, for their sake, but also for your sake, um, because 309 00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:55.079 again, the devil would do a great job of building a case against people 310 00:22:55.079 --> 00:22:57.839 in their absence. In your mind, and if you don't decide to believe 311 00:22:57.880 --> 00:23:02.400 the best about your brothers and sisters in the Lord, you're going to have 312 00:23:02.440 --> 00:23:06.599 this perfect case against this person without a really compelling evidence against him. It's 313 00:23:06.640 --> 00:23:08.759 just stuff in your mind they did this or did that, but it was 314 00:23:08.799 --> 00:23:12.559 really not a compelling case that that person is in sin or whatever. I 315 00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:17.200 honestly think that is one of the most important things that you have taught me, 316 00:23:17.279 --> 00:23:19.400 Daniel, because I know you've told you've said that to me before many 317 00:23:19.440 --> 00:23:23.799 times. Um to always believe the best in others, and I do think 318 00:23:23.839 --> 00:23:30.960 my natural tendency might not be and so because of that, I think I 319 00:23:30.039 --> 00:23:37.680 do tend to Um take offense more often than I should, and I do 320 00:23:37.799 --> 00:23:42.160 think that that's one of the antidotes to that is just assume the best in 321 00:23:42.160 --> 00:23:48.039 in that person until you find out otherwise. Now that in Sidewalk Ministry, 322 00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:53.200 I will tell you can can be a too hitch sword, because I tend 323 00:23:53.240 --> 00:24:03.440 to assume the best of the MOMS I'm counseling and often times they don't deserve 324 00:24:03.519 --> 00:24:11.640 that. Oftentimes they truly are lying or deceiving or even outright using me or 325 00:24:11.680 --> 00:24:15.160 our ministry for a purpose that is wrong. Well, that's one of the 326 00:24:15.200 --> 00:24:19.720 reasons why I qualified it. Yeah, and I said you have to for 327 00:24:19.799 --> 00:24:22.720 your brothers and sisters in the Lord. You have to believe the best. 328 00:24:22.839 --> 00:24:26.839 Remember, these are people that are enduelled by the same Holy Spirit that you're 329 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:30.440 endueled by. Right, they are believers, they are brothers and sisters in 330 00:24:30.480 --> 00:24:34.359 the Lord. You have to believe the best about them. Let me just 331 00:24:34.400 --> 00:24:38.240 say this. You don't have an option. You do not have an option 332 00:24:38.279 --> 00:24:41.359 as a believer in Jesus, you do not have the option to believe the 333 00:24:41.400 --> 00:24:45.920 worst about your fellow brothers and sisters in the Lord. If you're if you 334 00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:48.839 have that as a default, where you always believe the worst about people, 335 00:24:49.279 --> 00:24:52.759 that's a problem in your heart. You need to deal with it. It's 336 00:24:52.759 --> 00:24:55.839 probably because there's some things in your heart that have not been dealt with. 337 00:24:56.559 --> 00:24:59.000 Now, as it pertains to the to the men and women that we minister 338 00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:02.799 at the abortion say or who are not born again, we have to look 339 00:25:02.799 --> 00:25:06.039 at the scenario. The reality is they're they're going to take the life of 340 00:25:06.079 --> 00:25:08.599 their child. We have to look at our experiences that they consistently lie to 341 00:25:08.680 --> 00:25:14.039 us. that it doesn't mean that our position immediately is to believe the worst 342 00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:17.759 about them, but we've got to kind of come with neutral ground as far 343 00:25:17.799 --> 00:25:22.240 as that's concerned. Right, we gotta we gotta hear what they're saying through 344 00:25:22.279 --> 00:25:25.240 that filter that there are people at a place about to take the life of 345 00:25:25.279 --> 00:25:29.720 their baby and they could be lying to us Um and so there is a 346 00:25:29.759 --> 00:25:33.039 different approach that we have now, of course, the things that they're saying. 347 00:25:33.039 --> 00:25:37.200 Again, the people that are closest to us have the the ability to 348 00:25:37.240 --> 00:25:38.920 offend us the most with the least amount of effort. Those people at the 349 00:25:38.920 --> 00:25:41.440 abortion center, we don't know them, so they're not close to us. 350 00:25:41.799 --> 00:25:45.000 So even if they're lying to us or whatever, it doesn't really offend us. 351 00:25:45.039 --> 00:25:48.039 Is that we're not easily offended by them. Normally, were easily offended 352 00:25:48.039 --> 00:25:52.720 by the people are ministering with true and and the people that uh that we 353 00:25:52.799 --> 00:26:00.119 minister too. Oftentimes I don't take offense, even though I know I'm being 354 00:26:00.160 --> 00:26:04.400 lied to, because of my expectations. My expectations are different for them. 355 00:26:04.480 --> 00:26:07.920 I expect to be lied to. I do expect their women in crisis or 356 00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:12.240 people in crisis, and I know that people in crisis often act in ways 357 00:26:12.279 --> 00:26:17.759 that are are not great. So I'm more charitable, I think, towards 358 00:26:17.799 --> 00:26:21.160 them than I am exactly what you said towards loved ones. Are People that 359 00:26:21.240 --> 00:26:26.720 I expect more from. So we have a wonderful model for dealing with offense, 360 00:26:26.160 --> 00:26:30.480 right. I mean there's lots, there's lots of biblical models, but, 361 00:26:30.559 --> 00:26:34.640 as in so many times, the best model, and every time the 362 00:26:34.680 --> 00:26:41.240 best model, is Jesus and how dealt with offense, because he certainly had 363 00:26:41.319 --> 00:26:47.720 to face a lot of people offending in his ministry. Yeah, absolutely. 364 00:26:47.960 --> 00:26:52.680 I mean we're talking about the very son of God, the one who made 365 00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:56.319 all things, the one for whom all things were made, the Lord of 366 00:26:56.319 --> 00:27:00.839 Glory, the King of Majesty. If anyone could rightly take offense and be 367 00:27:00.920 --> 00:27:06.480 offended, it could be Jesus. Right. Oftentimes we're offended because we think 368 00:27:06.480 --> 00:27:10.480 more highly of ourselves than we ought to. Jesus couldn't think more highly of 369 00:27:10.519 --> 00:27:12.160 himself than you ought to, because he's the highest one of all right. 370 00:27:14.359 --> 00:27:19.039 And yet you see in Jesus Ministry now, he certainly confronts the Pharisees. 371 00:27:19.079 --> 00:27:23.319 They say offensive things about him and to him, but notice how he doesn't 372 00:27:23.359 --> 00:27:27.079 just talk about them behind their backs, but he confronts them to their faces. 373 00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:30.960 And when it happens it's immediate. Yeah, he deals with it. 374 00:27:30.039 --> 00:27:33.359 He doesn't foster like hatred in his heart or anything. He deals with it 375 00:27:33.359 --> 00:27:38.599 immediately. Now, let's not forget Jesus Christ died for the Pharisees as well. 376 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:44.359 Right, so he didn't hold bitterness in his heart and withhold good, 377 00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:48.119 because that's ultimately what happens when you hold bitterness or offense in your heart. 378 00:27:48.119 --> 00:27:51.480 It becomes a reader bitterness. You end up with holding good from the people 379 00:27:51.559 --> 00:27:53.720 that you should do good to. We end up doing the very thing Jesus 380 00:27:53.720 --> 00:27:56.640 said not to do when we're offended and we have a root of bitterness. 381 00:27:56.799 --> 00:28:00.559 You know how it says that we should do unto others as we would have 382 00:28:00.599 --> 00:28:03.079 them to do unto us. When we get bitterness and offense in our hearts, 383 00:28:03.160 --> 00:28:07.160 we oftentimes do the opposite. Right, we do we try to get 384 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:11.720 back at them, and often underhanded waste, often underhanded waste. They left 385 00:28:11.799 --> 00:28:15.799 us out of a conversation or whatever. I'M gonna leave them out of the 386 00:28:15.400 --> 00:28:18.599 passive aggressive, but we won't call it. Yeah, they called out over 387 00:28:18.640 --> 00:28:22.200 top of me at the Sidewalker, they handed out literature in front of me 388 00:28:22.680 --> 00:28:25.640 at the driveway, and so I'm gonna Start doing it in front of them. 389 00:28:25.759 --> 00:28:27.839 Um, you know, whatever it might be, it's the opposite of 390 00:28:27.880 --> 00:28:30.640 what Jesus called us to do, and it's the opposite of what Jesus did. 391 00:28:32.559 --> 00:28:37.000 He had all kinds of reasons and justifications to be offended, but ultimately, 392 00:28:37.000 --> 00:28:40.319 what does he do? He goes to a cross and he dies for 393 00:28:40.359 --> 00:28:45.680 those very people. Think about this. Okay, John Chapter Thirteen, when 394 00:28:45.759 --> 00:28:52.119 Jesus watches his washes his disciples feet. WHO's in that room? Judas, 395 00:28:52.200 --> 00:28:55.319 the very one that betrayed him, the very one. If, if Jesus 396 00:28:55.359 --> 00:28:59.400 wanted to be wanted to be offended and hold a root of bitterness against anyone 397 00:28:59.720 --> 00:29:03.000 and be perfectly justified in doing so in the eyes of the world, it 398 00:29:03.039 --> 00:29:06.279 would be Judas, the one who betrayed him. Jesus knew he was going 399 00:29:06.319 --> 00:29:10.359 to betray him. Jesus knew all the things that Judas was gonna do that 400 00:29:10.440 --> 00:29:12.240 will set in his heart to do right. There was already in motion that 401 00:29:12.279 --> 00:29:15.799 he was gonna be betrayed by Jesus. What does Jesus do? Washes the 402 00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:21.720 guy's feet. Right. And so if we're gonna come with the heart of 403 00:29:21.799 --> 00:29:25.039 Jesus and we're gonna live after the example of Jesus, we've got to be 404 00:29:25.039 --> 00:29:29.240 willing to wash the feet of people that offend us. We've got to be 405 00:29:29.240 --> 00:29:32.640 willing to do what Jesus did, and he says, even from the cross, 406 00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:34.839 what what's what's his word, father, a whole offense against them. 407 00:29:34.839 --> 00:29:40.119 So strike them all down dead. Surprisingly now he could have it. He 408 00:29:40.119 --> 00:29:44.240 would have been. What does he say from the Cross, father, forgive 409 00:29:44.319 --> 00:29:47.400 them for they don't know what they're doing. What does he decide to do? 410 00:29:47.519 --> 00:29:51.680 To believe the best about them? They're they're deceived, they don't know 411 00:29:51.720 --> 00:29:55.079 what they're doing. And so he what does he do? He puts it 412 00:29:55.119 --> 00:29:56.880 in the hands of God, and I think that will kind of wrap this 413 00:29:56.960 --> 00:30:02.319 thing up for us, as you and this are cool Um, talk about 414 00:30:02.440 --> 00:30:07.400 some things that we can do instead of having offense, and the first thing 415 00:30:07.720 --> 00:30:11.680 is to trust God to right the wrong. So important, absolutely. It 416 00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:15.119 just takes so much stress off of you. God sees it all, God 417 00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:18.880 knows it all, everything will be made right. We Are we are promised 418 00:30:18.920 --> 00:30:23.200 that. Yeah, yeah, leave it in the Lord's hands. Oftentimes we're 419 00:30:23.200 --> 00:30:27.079 offended when we get lift out of stuff or whatever, because we think that 420 00:30:27.119 --> 00:30:32.599 we deserve a certain position. Yeah, let God put you in that position. 421 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:36.680 Don't try to put yourself in that position. By holding offense and talking 422 00:30:36.720 --> 00:30:41.160 about people behind their backs, or leave it in the hands of the Lord. 423 00:30:41.359 --> 00:30:45.759 The Lord will lift you up. The Bible says that God will take 424 00:30:45.880 --> 00:30:48.240 the low places and lift them up in the high places and bring them low. 425 00:30:48.559 --> 00:30:52.920 Let God deal with that stuff and prayer, unlike the prayer you described 426 00:30:52.960 --> 00:30:56.640 where you the gossip prayer, prayer to God in the midst of your offense 427 00:30:56.759 --> 00:31:00.200 is perfectly appropriate to say help me, help me through this, help me 428 00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:06.279 to know what to do and and rely on him absolutely Um. So, 429 00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:12.640 continuing on this list, love others and forgive. Listen, forgiveness is not 430 00:31:12.839 --> 00:31:19.559 just a feeling. Okay, forgiveness is something you do cognitively. I'm going 431 00:31:19.599 --> 00:31:23.759 to decide, even though I'm offended at this person, I'm going to forgive 432 00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:30.440 them now. That forgiveness oftentimes is started. The beginning of that forgiveness is 433 00:31:30.480 --> 00:31:34.599 confronting the thing that offended you and dealing with it. Right, Um, 434 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:38.039 but you've got to decide to forgive. You don't have an option. That 435 00:31:38.200 --> 00:31:42.160 is that is a non negotiable. You have no option. God has given 436 00:31:42.160 --> 00:31:45.680 you no option if you're going to remain a Christian. God has given you 437 00:31:45.720 --> 00:31:49.799 no option to hold unforgiveness against people. That's it. That's right. And 438 00:31:49.960 --> 00:31:55.440 a whole different podcast is the difference between Um, the need for forgiveness, 439 00:31:55.440 --> 00:31:59.559 and the need to reconcile. You don't have to be reconciled necessarily in terms 440 00:31:59.640 --> 00:32:05.079 of Um, like an ongoing relationship. If if the offense is truly damaging, 441 00:32:05.319 --> 00:32:07.920 toxic, but you are required to forget, you have to forgive them 442 00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:13.799 in your heart. You have to Um, and then you can learn things 443 00:32:13.839 --> 00:32:16.799 from these trials that come. No doubt about it, God can use the 444 00:32:16.839 --> 00:32:22.079 offense, the root of bitterness, His grace, if you get over and 445 00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:25.839 release it to him. And forgiveness God can use is the help you grow. 446 00:32:25.440 --> 00:32:29.039 Right, you think about it, if anyone can be offended, it 447 00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:31.480 could be God offended at us because of our sin. But what does he 448 00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:36.240 do? He chooses to forgive. And so you can learn to be more 449 00:32:36.279 --> 00:32:40.319 like Jesus as you choose to forgive and and Jesus is the perfect example of 450 00:32:40.440 --> 00:32:45.839 learning obedience in a trial. I mean he went to the cross. He 451 00:32:45.880 --> 00:32:51.359 was completely obedient to the father's will in that and we know that it's not 452 00:32:51.400 --> 00:32:57.039 necessarily what he wanted to do. It said he sweated drops a blood, 453 00:32:57.319 --> 00:33:00.000 you know, in the garden the night before. So it was it was 454 00:33:00.039 --> 00:33:04.359 not a pleasant task in front of him, but he completely obeyed God. 455 00:33:04.599 --> 00:33:07.920 Yeah, yeah, yeah, and as an example to all of us, 456 00:33:07.680 --> 00:33:15.000 Jesus was a man full of forgiveness and ready to release any offense or bitterness. 457 00:33:15.079 --> 00:33:19.559 He didn't have a root of bitterness and uh, the the example of 458 00:33:19.640 --> 00:33:22.640 Jesus is the pinnacle of how we should live and how we should operate in 459 00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:25.599 ministry. There's a few other things on this list. I would encourage you 460 00:33:25.640 --> 00:33:29.519 guys to get a hold of this article. It'll be on the sidewalks for 461 00:33:29.559 --> 00:33:32.960 life website and equipping articles also. Can I encourage you guys again, I'm 462 00:33:34.000 --> 00:33:37.200 not trying to sell books or anything like that. You don't make any money 463 00:33:37.200 --> 00:33:39.880 off no commission of I don't even know John bravere although I'd love to meet 464 00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:44.799 the guy. Um, that book debate of Satan is so important. I 465 00:33:44.799 --> 00:33:46.920 would encourage all of you guys, with all of your teams, if you 466 00:33:46.960 --> 00:33:50.519 can do it, to go through that book with your teams, because not 467 00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:52.359 only does it talk about how to deal with offense that you might have in 468 00:33:52.400 --> 00:33:55.799 your heart currently, but it also talks about how to guard against it. 469 00:33:55.799 --> 00:34:00.599 It's not a super long book. Um. You know, there may be 470 00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:05.400 some things in there that offend you. He deals with stuff really forthrightly and 471 00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:07.239 you might get offended by some of the things that he says in the ways 472 00:34:07.280 --> 00:34:10.440 that he says them. But you need it. We need to we need 473 00:34:10.480 --> 00:34:14.440 to deal with the things that are in our hearts so that we can help 474 00:34:14.480 --> 00:34:16.119 others deal with things in their hearts. Right, can't give what you don't 475 00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:20.760 have. So if we're bound ourselves in bitterness and unforgiveness, how are we 476 00:34:20.760 --> 00:34:23.360 going to help these MOMS that a lot of times are bound in bitterness and 477 00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:28.599 unforgiveness? And how are we gonna help encourage each other? Right? So 478 00:34:28.599 --> 00:34:30.840 I encourage you, guys. Um, I appreciate you listen to this episode. 479 00:34:30.840 --> 00:34:35.000 Hopefully it was a blessing to you and I want to encourage you guys 480 00:34:35.039 --> 00:34:37.400 to share this episode with your team's share this episode with others who would be 481 00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:42.079 blessed by it. I think this is a vital subject and I think the 482 00:34:42.119 --> 00:34:45.679 devil will use offense to tear apart ministries. I've seen him do it. 483 00:34:45.840 --> 00:34:50.039 I've seen him tear apart whole churches because of offense, and so, inasmuch 484 00:34:50.079 --> 00:34:52.559 as it depends on us, let's let's forgive. Let us not walk in 485 00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:58.960 offense and bitterness and disillusionment and UH, please share this episode with others, 486 00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:01.559 as I said, and please leave us a review. We won't be offended 487 00:35:01.559 --> 00:35:06.199 if you don't, but we'd be blessed if you will reach out to me, 488 00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:08.559 Daniel a love life dot Org, if you have suggestions for future episodes 489 00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:12.880 or maybe comments about this particular episode. You reach out to Vicky, Vicky 490 00:35:12.880 --> 00:35:15.159 with a Y I, Love Life Dot Org. We'd love to hear from 491 00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:17.280 you, but until next time, God bless God, bless you all. 492 00:35:20.440 --> 00:35:32.519 Give me our love for love, give me our love for gratitude. I 493 00:35:32.639 --> 00:35:42.960 know it will cost me my life. Nothing's too precious. And some met you