May 27, 2021

Dealing With Criticism

Dealing With Criticism

The enemy uses all kinds of things to get us discouraged and doubting our calling to be a voice for the voiceless. Criticism is one of the things that he uses. In this episode, we talk about how we deal with criticism and how we answer critics from a...


The enemy uses all kinds of things to get us discouraged and doubting our calling to be a voice for the voiceless. Criticism is one of the things that he uses. In this episode, we talk about how we deal with criticism and how we answer critics from a Biblical perspective.

https://sidewalks4life.com/how-to-deal-with-criticism/

Transcript
WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.560 --> 00:00:05.759 I Am Yours, I am yours, I am yours, and me, 2 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:11.470 Lord, I am yours. I welcome to the Gospel Center per life podcast. 3 00:00:11.630 --> 00:00:14.310 As you're out there on the sidewalk doing ministry, you're going to deal 4 00:00:14.349 --> 00:00:18.269 with criticism from all kinds of angles. We're going to talk today about how 5 00:00:18.269 --> 00:00:26.260 to deal with that criticism. Stay with us. I felt show passish, 6 00:00:27.260 --> 00:00:36.530 touch your heart. Use Me. Welcome to the Gospel Center per life podcast. 7 00:00:36.609 --> 00:00:39.810 Appreciate you, guys, joining us and we're going to try to get 8 00:00:39.810 --> 00:00:44.689 right into our subject, a subject that really sprung out of some conversations that 9 00:00:44.810 --> 00:00:47.850 you, Vicki, had with some of our local volunteers here, as a 10 00:00:48.090 --> 00:00:51.600 lot of these podcasts do, these are right situations that we face. People 11 00:00:51.759 --> 00:00:55.560 reach out to US v Email and stuff like that and put questions out there, 12 00:00:56.159 --> 00:01:00.679 but most of it's kind of like Daytoday, ministering and encouraging our local 13 00:01:00.679 --> 00:01:03.510 volunteers, seeing the stuff that they struggle with, especially the relational stuff, 14 00:01:03.549 --> 00:01:07.989 how to fight discouragement. We've done podcast about that, podcast about just other 15 00:01:08.069 --> 00:01:12.390 subjects along these lines, kind of relational stuff. Yeah, and this is 16 00:01:12.629 --> 00:01:15.230 is no different than one of those subjects. This is how to deal with 17 00:01:15.349 --> 00:01:21.579 criticism right and it's going to come, if it hasn't already come to you, 18 00:01:21.700 --> 00:01:23.900 guys that are listening, whether you again be local volunteers with us or 19 00:01:25.540 --> 00:01:29.659 missionaries around the country, around the world or just people get involved in sidewalk 20 00:01:29.739 --> 00:01:33.250 ministry, people are going to criticize what you do. Hey, there's a 21 00:01:33.290 --> 00:01:37.530 lot of context in which they might criticize you. There's a I mean we 22 00:01:37.609 --> 00:01:42.329 got social media, all kinds of social media platforms. We've got obviously personal 23 00:01:42.569 --> 00:01:46.049 relationships with people, or there's a context where they can criticize us, your 24 00:01:46.129 --> 00:01:49.959 relationship with people at Church. So people can criticize you. They got all 25 00:01:51.040 --> 00:01:57.239 kinds of methods to criticize you in this that's right, and criticism can can 26 00:01:57.319 --> 00:02:02.030 be certainly discouraging and I think it is one of the reasons why some folks 27 00:02:02.150 --> 00:02:07.629 stop coming to the sidewalk right and and it was two counselors in one week 28 00:02:07.909 --> 00:02:14.349 that came to me and said how are you out there for all these years, 29 00:02:14.629 --> 00:02:20.419 that many times a week and deal with the criticism? Specific question on 30 00:02:20.620 --> 00:02:23.219 how I dealt with that and I thought, you know, we discussed a 31 00:02:23.259 --> 00:02:30.729 little bit right before we started this that we don't really feel like we care 32 00:02:30.889 --> 00:02:34.330 much about criticism any more out on the sidewalk, but I think I did 33 00:02:34.569 --> 00:02:38.930 more when I was less secure that I knew what I was doing or that 34 00:02:39.050 --> 00:02:43.810 it was effective, and also just knew when I was new. Yeah, 35 00:02:43.969 --> 00:02:47.800 absolutely, and you know in our walk with the Lord, I mean there's 36 00:02:47.840 --> 00:02:53.840 criticisms that come down the pipeline. I am I'm a pentecostal believer. Yeah, 37 00:02:53.919 --> 00:02:57.800 might be surprised at that, but I believe in the gifts of the 38 00:02:57.840 --> 00:03:00.229 spear it. Yeah, now, now I'm not like in kind of the 39 00:03:00.349 --> 00:03:04.030 weird vein. Maybe I am probably to some of you people, to some 40 00:03:04.110 --> 00:03:06.189 people, you are saying that I'm going to cost. It was weird. 41 00:03:06.270 --> 00:03:10.750 But I've gotten criticism because I was saved in a Baptist Church and I love 42 00:03:12.150 --> 00:03:15.460 Baptist people. I was man up that one of my well, my accountability 43 00:03:16.139 --> 00:03:20.099 Guy, who I meet within a monthly basis, is a baptist preacher. 44 00:03:20.539 --> 00:03:23.699 Okay, awesome man of God, and so I don't have any problem with 45 00:03:23.780 --> 00:03:29.810 that. But I have gotten criticism from people in my past also criticism from 46 00:03:29.810 --> 00:03:32.930 people even now of my beliefs in the gifts of the spirit or things like 47 00:03:34.009 --> 00:03:37.729 that. Baptism, Holy Spirit. Hey, and so I think criticism, 48 00:03:38.530 --> 00:03:42.439 I say all that to say, is a common theme no matter what. 49 00:03:45.039 --> 00:03:49.960 Realm of Christian ministry walk with the Lord, whatever life. Yeah, I 50 00:03:50.039 --> 00:03:53.759 mean you, you are going to get criticized, whether you're in ministry or 51 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:58.909 not. In learning to deal well with criticism is important. And even as 52 00:03:58.949 --> 00:04:03.430 an unbeliever, MMM, criticism is a part of life dealing with people in 53 00:04:03.550 --> 00:04:06.870 a fallen world. You're a fallen person yourself. We see, as Paul 54 00:04:06.909 --> 00:04:12.379 says, we see in a glass dimly, like we don't see everything perfectly. 55 00:04:12.539 --> 00:04:15.339 And Hey, and unfortunately there are some people that think they do see 56 00:04:15.339 --> 00:04:18.939 everything perfectly, and those are a lot of times the people that are very 57 00:04:18.980 --> 00:04:25.290 critical. But also we have to acknowledge that criticism being a normal part of 58 00:04:25.490 --> 00:04:30.449 life. Sometimes criticism is necessary. Like we need what they might call constructive 59 00:04:30.529 --> 00:04:35.370 criticism. If we're never open to any kind of criticism at all, that 60 00:04:35.569 --> 00:04:39.959 speaks more about us and it does about the people that are critiquing us. 61 00:04:40.000 --> 00:04:43.720 Right. Yeah, we need to be open and at least here out, 62 00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:47.279 I think, if people criticize you for your ministry on the sidewalk, at 63 00:04:47.319 --> 00:04:51.519 least here it out. But I think we'll get into more this in depth 64 00:04:51.800 --> 00:04:57.589 criticism and people's opinion of you can't be what defined you. Right. Got 65 00:04:57.709 --> 00:05:00.189 To be defined by what God says. Yeah, and and, like you 66 00:05:00.230 --> 00:05:06.110 said, you're going to face criticism from all parts of life, not not 67 00:05:06.459 --> 00:05:12.500 just in ministry, but in in a this kind of ministry, and the 68 00:05:13.139 --> 00:05:18.139 very strong feelings of the opposition, the socalled pro choice people, versus the 69 00:05:18.500 --> 00:05:27.689 pro life people. The criticism is sometimes very, yeah, very significant. 70 00:05:27.730 --> 00:05:30.449 Yeah, absolutely harsh. Yeah, and I think you were the one that 71 00:05:30.569 --> 00:05:35.920 I first heard say this and I thought it was so true. That there's 72 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:43.240 IT. It starts off at really at an attempt to discourage. Yeah, 73 00:05:43.319 --> 00:05:47.160 and and you said, I. You said to someone when that is ineffective, 74 00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:54.509 when they're not able to discourage, then the criticism moves into intimidation, 75 00:05:54.589 --> 00:05:59.470 right, and that really stuck with me because that is true. Yeah, 76 00:06:00.269 --> 00:06:05.540 it can escalate and that definitely the criticism that has turned into intimidation is is 77 00:06:05.819 --> 00:06:10.300 much harder, yeah, to deal with out on the sidebox. Yeah. 78 00:06:10.420 --> 00:06:13.259 Yeah. So, yeah, and all of that's designed, especially, like 79 00:06:13.379 --> 00:06:15.860 you said, from the quote pro choice pact, which we know are pro 80 00:06:15.939 --> 00:06:19.410 abortion people. Right, all of that criticism and all of these really it's 81 00:06:19.410 --> 00:06:25.370 accusations that are thrown at us. Is designed to discourage us. Right. 82 00:06:25.410 --> 00:06:28.529 And if you talk about the word discouragement, like to explain it in the 83 00:06:28.610 --> 00:06:31.649 terms of courage. Right, that's that's the root word of discourage is courage, 84 00:06:32.079 --> 00:06:34.720 and to discourage someone is to knock the courage out of you. Right, 85 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:39.120 I have never thought of that. Never thought of that. Well, 86 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:42.360 that that is really good. They want it's discourage, they want to take 87 00:06:42.439 --> 00:06:46.230 the courage out of you. And the devil uses criticism to get the courage 88 00:06:46.269 --> 00:06:49.670 out of us. Right. And so, as kind of a side notes 89 00:06:49.870 --> 00:06:54.269 all of you guys that are involved in ministry, we've got to be intentional 90 00:06:54.470 --> 00:06:58.230 with each other, with people there were ministering alongside, to do the best 91 00:06:58.269 --> 00:07:01.459 we can to encourage right, because we get it from the pro abortion people, 92 00:07:01.540 --> 00:07:05.620 this discouragement, this criticism. You're this, you're that, you're not 93 00:07:05.819 --> 00:07:09.139 this, you're not that. Why don't you do this? Why don't you 94 00:07:09.180 --> 00:07:11.579 do that? You could do this better, you could do that better. 95 00:07:11.620 --> 00:07:15.850 We get all of that from the pro choice people. But, as you 96 00:07:16.089 --> 00:07:20.490 have in this article that were kind of using as our format here, the 97 00:07:20.649 --> 00:07:26.009 most difficult criticism to deal with is not from the pro choice people because we 98 00:07:26.050 --> 00:07:30.399 recognize the spirit that thereof. It's really from other Christians. Yeah, and 99 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:32.120 that's what happen. Yeah, you know, I talked a little bit about 100 00:07:32.120 --> 00:07:35.959 kind of my background and some of the criticism I've gotten in my walk with 101 00:07:36.120 --> 00:07:42.839 God and you know, the the the pentecostal angle. I guess that that, 102 00:07:42.959 --> 00:07:46.269 I feel like is in the word of God that I've gotten criticism for 103 00:07:46.350 --> 00:07:50.790 that and for alignment with the craziness of Pentecostals or whatever. Yeah, and 104 00:07:51.949 --> 00:07:56.550 that's been pretty discouraging from people because, you know, a lot of times 105 00:07:56.629 --> 00:08:01.339 criticism from other believers comes from from really just ignorance or heard from somebody, 106 00:08:01.379 --> 00:08:05.660 that heard from somebody. And, as it pertains to Sydebalg Ministry, a 107 00:08:05.740 --> 00:08:11.300 lot of the cris criticisms that I've heard from other believers really are most almost 108 00:08:11.420 --> 00:08:16.569 parenting. Like pro choice people. Sometimes they do ask the same things. 109 00:08:16.769 --> 00:08:22.009 They they why don't you feel that there's a better way to reach these women? 110 00:08:22.050 --> 00:08:26.649 I hear that all the time, don't you it? Shouldn't you be 111 00:08:26.560 --> 00:08:33.240 at pregnancy resource centers or or, you know, or showing with your life 112 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:37.399 as opposed to with your words? Yeah, what? What? And sometimes 113 00:08:37.440 --> 00:08:41.710 you like these people? Just talk to these pro boorts and get their criticisms 114 00:08:41.710 --> 00:08:45.870 and their ideas about criticism and how they could critique us from the pro abortion 115 00:08:45.909 --> 00:08:48.909 people. And you know, I don't want to, I don't want to 116 00:08:48.950 --> 00:08:54.789 put those people in the same camps together, but I do know that a 117 00:08:54.870 --> 00:09:00.620 lot of times the criticisms that come down the pipeline come from worldly sources and 118 00:09:00.740 --> 00:09:03.059 people heard it from somebody. You right, you're out there yelling at women 119 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:07.820 and right harassing and shaming people and all that. Yeah, and when I 120 00:09:07.860 --> 00:09:11.169 have a believer accused me of that, somebody that know that love Jesus, 121 00:09:11.850 --> 00:09:16.409 I'll ask them the question. Have you ever been out there on the sidewalk 122 00:09:16.649 --> 00:09:20.169 and in variously next to one of our counselors? Yeah, because if you 123 00:09:20.289 --> 00:09:24.440 have, promise you, all the stuff that you're saying is really as accusations 124 00:09:24.440 --> 00:09:28.080 as criticisms you're going to see or just just false. So come out. 125 00:09:28.120 --> 00:09:33.320 That's always my encouragement. Right, come out stand with one of our teams. 126 00:09:33.399 --> 00:09:35.240 Now it may be that they've been out to an abortion center, they've 127 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:39.870 seen, you know, other people doing it some way or whatever, but 128 00:09:39.950 --> 00:09:43.549 I promise you, if you'd come out and stand with some of our counselors 129 00:09:43.590 --> 00:09:48.029 out here. You're going to see a, I believe, consistent, Biblical 130 00:09:48.870 --> 00:09:54.700 Really Ministry on the sidewalk that's consistent with the scripture, not just harassing people 131 00:09:54.860 --> 00:09:58.340 or, you know whatever, condemning and all that other stuff. You're going 132 00:09:58.340 --> 00:10:03.899 to see a biblically consistent ministry and a lot of your criticisms are going to 133 00:10:03.940 --> 00:10:07.649 be shown as false actual. Yeah. Now, sometimes I have had people 134 00:10:07.769 --> 00:10:11.970 come down to to talk with me when they've been listening for a while. 135 00:10:13.049 --> 00:10:16.730 Yeah, and they come and say, I'm a Christian, I want to 136 00:10:16.809 --> 00:10:20.649 start with that. I I'm pro life and I'm a Christian, but this 137 00:10:20.970 --> 00:10:26.759 is I hate what you're doing. Yeah, and they start to quote or 138 00:10:26.840 --> 00:10:31.600 what they think are Biblical Commandments, which they're not. The people you mean 139 00:10:31.720 --> 00:10:35.070 people that are at the abortion are that may be brought a friend an abortion 140 00:10:35.309 --> 00:10:39.830 no, no, actually, I'm thinking of where this last happened, was 141 00:10:39.909 --> 00:10:45.990 at an abortion center off of wend over where there are clients from all other 142 00:10:46.110 --> 00:10:48.110 things. They're not just, therefore, to walk into the abortion side of 143 00:10:48.149 --> 00:10:52.019 there's other businesses there. Yeah, so they they have seen, they've observed 144 00:10:52.419 --> 00:10:58.299 and they they actually think they know what's going on there and and they accuse 145 00:10:58.779 --> 00:11:03.929 out of what they believe the Bible says. But when they enter into a 146 00:11:05.490 --> 00:11:09.889 discussion for any length of time about what the Bible really says, as we 147 00:11:11.009 --> 00:11:16.049 turn to scripture and use it as validation for what we're doing, they invariably 148 00:11:16.809 --> 00:11:22.600 tend to calm down and agree. So I think sometimes that criticism is coming. 149 00:11:22.840 --> 00:11:28.159 They have seen what happens at an abortion center and even with with what 150 00:11:28.320 --> 00:11:33.789 I believe our good ambassadors of the Lord if on the pro life side. 151 00:11:33.230 --> 00:11:39.590 But they they have not really examined what God has to say about speaking for 152 00:11:39.750 --> 00:11:45.470 the unborn or holding back those who are on a path of destruction. So 153 00:11:45.950 --> 00:11:48.299 yeah, I mean a lot of the criticisms that come from fellow believers come 154 00:11:48.419 --> 00:11:54.500 from a place of just really be and disciple by the world and the world's 155 00:11:54.539 --> 00:11:56.620 mentalities. Yeah, and I think that's where we need to listen to those 156 00:11:56.659 --> 00:12:01.529 criticisms and then come back with scripture graciously right and say well, actually, 157 00:12:01.730 --> 00:12:05.649 kind of like the thou shalt not judge, you know you're out here judging 158 00:12:05.690 --> 00:12:07.610 people or whatever. Here it all the time and heard all the time. 159 00:12:07.929 --> 00:12:11.610 Obviously we hear it from people who professed to be Christians that are not. 160 00:12:11.769 --> 00:12:15.330 I mean, they're going in to kill their children, so obviously they're not 161 00:12:15.450 --> 00:12:18.240 Christians. Right, at least they're backslidden in their opinions. Don't really hold 162 00:12:18.279 --> 00:12:20.200 a lot of weight with me, to be honest with you. Yeah, 163 00:12:20.399 --> 00:12:24.799 but when there are genuine Christians that come and that say that thing, that 164 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:28.159 sort of thing, we shouldn't judge and that sort of thing, I'll ask 165 00:12:28.159 --> 00:12:33.750 a few questions about what Jesus said about judging and about what we as believers 166 00:12:33.830 --> 00:12:37.070 should we judge certain behavior, and then I kind of like to break down 167 00:12:37.110 --> 00:12:43.029 that kind of I guess I think it's a biblical dichotomy of judging, which 168 00:12:43.029 --> 00:12:46.340 we are called to do, Bible says the righteous man judges all things, 169 00:12:46.659 --> 00:12:50.379 and then being judgmental, which is what we're called not to be. Right, 170 00:12:50.419 --> 00:12:52.779 we're not called to be judgmental writing people off and saying that there's no 171 00:12:52.899 --> 00:12:56.379 hope for them because they're doing sins that we're not committing or whatever. We're 172 00:12:56.379 --> 00:13:01.450 also not supposed to be hypocritical right, judging people for doing things that we 173 00:13:01.490 --> 00:13:05.129 ourselves are doing. Yeah, but we all call to make judgments, and 174 00:13:05.210 --> 00:13:09.490 so I'll in those times where I'm being criticized for being judgmental or judging and 175 00:13:09.570 --> 00:13:15.039 all this other stuff, I'll take the time to disciple people and really what 176 00:13:15.120 --> 00:13:18.080 the Bible says, giving analogies and things like that. Like when you're driving 177 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:22.559 down the road someone slams on breaks, you make a judgment at that moment. 178 00:13:24.000 --> 00:13:26.480 Yeah, not just that person is an idiot. You might make that 179 00:13:26.519 --> 00:13:28.789 judgment too, but you make a judgment. They're slowing down at a pace 180 00:13:30.269 --> 00:13:33.830 that I can't handle unless I'll slow down as well. Right and judgments and 181 00:13:33.950 --> 00:13:39.870 making judgments is a everyday part of life. We assess behavior and we do 182 00:13:41.190 --> 00:13:45.779 things or we respond in appropriate manner. So when we assess the behavior of 183 00:13:45.860 --> 00:13:50.220 abortion killing children, then we have to in our lives, make adjustments that 184 00:13:50.419 --> 00:13:54.340 coincide with the reality of what's going on, and that's why I'm out here 185 00:13:54.620 --> 00:14:00.049 speaking against the murder of innocent children. Yeah, yeah, so it is. 186 00:14:00.929 --> 00:14:05.690 It's not pleasant. But when criticism is leveled at us, you've exed, 187 00:14:05.850 --> 00:14:11.720 you've told US rightfully, that we can use that as an opportunity to 188 00:14:11.840 --> 00:14:16.279 help lead others that claim to be believers to a closer relationship with God, 189 00:14:18.360 --> 00:14:24.870 or we can steer people who don't know the Lord into what is truth, 190 00:14:26.309 --> 00:14:33.110 Biblical truth. But but it is definitely not an easy issue. Yeah, 191 00:14:33.110 --> 00:14:37.899 I get it when these new counselors call me and say I just go home 192 00:14:39.220 --> 00:14:43.299 feeling battered. I do too sometimes. I mean we are, we're being 193 00:14:43.700 --> 00:14:50.940 battered, sometimes by by certainly by the opposition, and so we wanted to 194 00:14:50.980 --> 00:14:56.889 talk in this podcast about, well, are there strategies, things that we 195 00:14:58.009 --> 00:15:05.210 can do to not necessarily shield ourselves from criticism, because that's not going to 196 00:15:05.250 --> 00:15:11.559 happen right, but can we respond in ways that glorify God and help us 197 00:15:11.799 --> 00:15:18.200 to come unscathed off the sidewalk and not take it personally, not take it 198 00:15:18.399 --> 00:15:24.389 home and not make it become something that keeps us from returning? And one 199 00:15:24.429 --> 00:15:28.830 of the first things I know that I will tell new counselors when they say 200 00:15:28.830 --> 00:15:33.350 I just I just don't want to be go back, and I remind them, 201 00:15:33.389 --> 00:15:37.019 well, where, where is that spirit of criticism coming from? Is 202 00:15:37.220 --> 00:15:41.019 is that coming from God or is that coming from Satan? And if it's 203 00:15:41.139 --> 00:15:46.179 to discourage you from coming back and you don't come back, who did you 204 00:15:46.340 --> 00:15:50.570 just hand the victory to? Right, and I think that's important for all 205 00:15:50.610 --> 00:15:54.730 of us. That helps me to remember no matter what they throw at me, 206 00:15:56.370 --> 00:16:02.690 if I if they successfully discourage me to the point where I don't return, 207 00:16:03.409 --> 00:16:07.320 then I've just given Satan the victory, and I hate Satan yes, 208 00:16:07.480 --> 00:16:12.360 so much that I will do anything in my power to prevent giving him any 209 00:16:12.399 --> 00:16:15.639 kind of a victory. Yeah, I mean, I think one of the 210 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:23.110 most central principles here with criticism, accusations and things like that that we deal 211 00:16:23.149 --> 00:16:29.789 with is to not take it personal. Right, because when we begin to 212 00:16:29.830 --> 00:16:36.220 take it personal and we think this criticism is just about us personally, we 213 00:16:36.340 --> 00:16:41.740 internalize that and the devil can really have a heyday with our mind. And 214 00:16:41.779 --> 00:16:48.250 I think also understanding, like what what we're actually coming against, like really 215 00:16:48.730 --> 00:16:55.330 grappling with the reality that abortion is child killing. I get it's killing innocent 216 00:16:55.370 --> 00:17:00.330 children. That's what they're doing inside of that building and that we're responding in 217 00:17:00.769 --> 00:17:04.079 an appropriate manner and it doesn't matter. It it be like being in front 218 00:17:04.319 --> 00:17:10.519 of a daycare where MOMS are bringing in there two year olds and they're being 219 00:17:10.640 --> 00:17:14.519 slaughtered and their precious little bodies are being burned in in the cenerator. Yeah, 220 00:17:14.880 --> 00:17:18.029 and we know that and it's happening in our city and we're standing there 221 00:17:18.910 --> 00:17:22.710 and we're trying to respond appropriately, we're pleading with those moms not to do 222 00:17:22.910 --> 00:17:26.269 that, and someone comes along says she'd really be yelling at those people. 223 00:17:26.470 --> 00:17:29.430 She did. You would be raising your voice giving you don't know what's going 224 00:17:29.509 --> 00:17:33.700 on in that that woman's life. Yeah, and think about how ridiculous we 225 00:17:33.819 --> 00:17:37.819 would we would think that that kind of criticism is right, that's ridiculous. 226 00:17:37.900 --> 00:17:41.660 They're killing two year olds inside of that place. Well, if we really 227 00:17:41.700 --> 00:17:45.569 believe that abortion is murder, if we really believe that what they're doing inside 228 00:17:45.569 --> 00:17:48.569 of that building is actually killing human beings, and we really leave that a 229 00:17:48.650 --> 00:17:52.930 two year old in a two month old in the womb have the same value 230 00:17:52.009 --> 00:17:56.930 in the sight of God, then in the same way we can okay, 231 00:17:56.970 --> 00:17:59.400 people are going to have their criticism, they're going to have their opinions, 232 00:17:59.480 --> 00:18:03.279 but they're killing children in there. Yes, doing what I can. Yeah, 233 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:07.960 you're raising you're raising a really good point that at the basis of handling 234 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:14.109 any criticism, particularly in this kind of a ministry, is to make sure 235 00:18:14.230 --> 00:18:18.990 you are solid in your motivation and your purpose and your goal. Yeah, 236 00:18:18.069 --> 00:18:22.990 and why you're there and who has called you to be there, and that 237 00:18:22.029 --> 00:18:29.299 alone is a wonderful shield against against taking that personally. Yeah, I remembering 238 00:18:29.339 --> 00:18:34.220 the importance of what you are doing. Yeah, and I think keeping the 239 00:18:34.380 --> 00:18:38.059 main thing, the main thing, also keeps US focus. And what is 240 00:18:38.140 --> 00:18:41.609 the main thing you talked about? You you hate the devil. You should 241 00:18:41.650 --> 00:18:45.410 hate the devil. Yeah, right. We hate abortion, we hate plant 242 00:18:45.450 --> 00:18:48.289 parenthood. We don't hate the people. Right. We're supposed to love people. 243 00:18:48.289 --> 00:18:51.970 We supposed to love even our enemies. So we love the people, 244 00:18:51.970 --> 00:18:55.410 want them to come to the Lord. We hate these things that are wicked, 245 00:18:55.450 --> 00:18:57.599 that are evil, but that can't be our primary motivation, right. 246 00:18:59.079 --> 00:19:00.839 Our primary motivation has to be a love for God, and we keep that 247 00:19:02.039 --> 00:19:04.319 central, like we're out there because we love God. We're out there because 248 00:19:04.319 --> 00:19:10.029 we love God. He loves US and he loves these children and we minister 249 00:19:10.150 --> 00:19:14.309 out of that and it doesn't matter what comes along that tries to shake us 250 00:19:14.309 --> 00:19:17.910 out of that. If we're focused and centered in a love for God and 251 00:19:18.549 --> 00:19:22.309 out of that love a love for our neighbor, all these other criticisms can 252 00:19:22.390 --> 00:19:25.420 really fall to the ground because, after all, I appreciate your criticism, 253 00:19:25.779 --> 00:19:29.619 but I'm here because I love God. Yeah, and I want to serve 254 00:19:29.660 --> 00:19:33.539 him out of a love for him. I'm out here right right. Really 255 00:19:33.579 --> 00:19:41.250 good point. Today one of the pro choice people looked at me and said 256 00:19:41.849 --> 00:19:45.369 that outfit just doesn't work for you, because it's like I was like the 257 00:19:45.490 --> 00:19:51.450 first thing out of her mouth. And and I and I. It made 258 00:19:51.490 --> 00:20:00.000 me think of sometimes how petty the the criticisms are in comparison to why we're 259 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:06.079 there and who we're serving out there, and to have someone point out what 260 00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:14.269 I'm wearing as a something to worry at all about. So when one of 261 00:20:14.309 --> 00:20:18.430 the first points that when I was writing this article, that I thought were 262 00:20:18.670 --> 00:20:21.579 you've raised some really great points that I did not put in this article. 263 00:20:21.700 --> 00:20:22.980 So everybody, you're just going to have to remember them because they're not in 264 00:20:23.099 --> 00:20:26.539 the article. But one of the first things is that there are some things 265 00:20:26.579 --> 00:20:30.819 that are under our control and there's a lot of things that are not. 266 00:20:30.900 --> 00:20:37.049 Yeah, and how others are gonna Criticize, respond what they do and say, 267 00:20:37.730 --> 00:20:42.210 not under our control at all. Yeah. So our response to criticism 268 00:20:42.369 --> 00:20:48.130 is but but in terms of where that criticism is coming from, we can't 269 00:20:48.170 --> 00:20:52.640 control it. Just accept it. Yeah, one phrase that I live by, 270 00:20:52.079 --> 00:20:56.240 and it has to do with really criticism and every area of my walk 271 00:20:56.279 --> 00:21:00.759 with the Lord is simply you can't please everybody. Hi, may as well 272 00:21:00.799 --> 00:21:04.750 try to please the Lord. Right. Yes, I have been criticized as 273 00:21:04.829 --> 00:21:10.470 far as ministry on the sidewalk from every angle over the years I've had people 274 00:21:10.509 --> 00:21:14.950 that come along and say you're too soft, like you talk too much about 275 00:21:14.950 --> 00:21:18.980 the love of God, you talk too much, your tone is too soft. 276 00:21:18.980 --> 00:21:22.180 They're killing children. You should have a harsher tone, you should yell 277 00:21:22.299 --> 00:21:26.420 louder, whatever. I've had that criticism. I also have had the criticism 278 00:21:26.460 --> 00:21:33.049 of you're too harsh, right and and you speak, you call abortion murder. 279 00:21:33.289 --> 00:21:37.049 You really really shouldn't come across as being judgmental in all this. And 280 00:21:37.369 --> 00:21:41.250 these are this is from Christians, these are from people who think that they're 281 00:21:41.289 --> 00:21:45.690 trying to direct me in the way that I should go. And I appreciate 282 00:21:45.730 --> 00:21:49.599 it and listen. I never right off people's criticisms initially, like I want 283 00:21:49.640 --> 00:21:52.200 to hear what they have to say, I want to take it in, 284 00:21:52.279 --> 00:21:56.440 I want to process it based on what I see in the scripture. But 285 00:21:56.519 --> 00:21:59.880 if it doesn't line up with the word of God, I'm going to throw 286 00:21:59.920 --> 00:22:03.750 it out and if it doesn't line up with what God's called me to I'm 287 00:22:03.789 --> 00:22:06.190 going to throw it out. Yeah, I'm going to take it. I'm 288 00:22:06.190 --> 00:22:10.349 going to respond graciously. Again, from both angles. I've had, you 289 00:22:10.430 --> 00:22:11.829 know, people hit me from both angles. You're too harsh, you're too 290 00:22:11.910 --> 00:22:17.380 soft, and you know I appreciate it. I say that I appreciate your 291 00:22:17.420 --> 00:22:19.819 criticism. I'll think on it, I'll pray on it, but at the 292 00:22:19.859 --> 00:22:22.819 end of the day I've got to do what God has called me to do. 293 00:22:22.579 --> 00:22:27.819 And I will point to as I'm talking to someone about their criticisms of 294 00:22:27.940 --> 00:22:33.569 the ministry or whatever, I'll point to the fruit of the ministry and I'll 295 00:22:33.569 --> 00:22:36.210 say, you know, we've seen somebody baby saved. Now. Fruit is 296 00:22:36.289 --> 00:22:40.329 not always evidence of the fact that you're doing, you know, the right 297 00:22:40.450 --> 00:22:42.450 thing or whatever. Sometimes God will just gracious to give you fruit even though 298 00:22:42.569 --> 00:22:45.720 you're maybe not doing it the right way, and God's gracious and all that, 299 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:51.359 but it does point to a lot of times the fruit that we've borne 300 00:22:51.400 --> 00:22:56.799 points to that we're obeying God. You're reaping the benefits of applying God's word. 301 00:22:57.400 --> 00:23:00.430 So I won't point to the fruit of the ministry first. First I'll 302 00:23:00.470 --> 00:23:04.269 point to what the Bible says, like here's I'm doing this because here's what 303 00:23:04.390 --> 00:23:07.470 the scripture says. Yeah, but I think the fruit is just kind of 304 00:23:07.470 --> 00:23:11.829 like icing on the cake. So, yeah, yeah, and not to 305 00:23:11.950 --> 00:23:15.900 say you have to respond to all the criticism. It would not have been 306 00:23:15.940 --> 00:23:21.539 super fruitful for me to respond to her criticism that I was not wearing an 307 00:23:21.619 --> 00:23:27.490 outfit that she felt was flattering. So, but sometimes the criticism does have 308 00:23:29.170 --> 00:23:33.170 truth in it that can be used. And so so, you know, 309 00:23:33.250 --> 00:23:37.089 it's good to have an open mind that maybe someone's maybe that criticism can be 310 00:23:37.210 --> 00:23:41.039 used to help you. Yeah, but another thing, another point is I 311 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:48.160 was thinking through this was and encourage meant to me and facing criticism. There's 312 00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:55.160 not a single great Bible hero that didn't face significant criticism. Yeah, and 313 00:23:55.359 --> 00:23:57.950 struggle. Yeah, absolutely. So, you know, I thought we've listed 314 00:23:59.109 --> 00:24:03.630 some of them, but Jesus comes right to mind. Absolutely. I mean 315 00:24:03.710 --> 00:24:07.309 this is the eternal son of God who is perfect in every way and he 316 00:24:07.430 --> 00:24:11.420 faced probably more criticism than anybody that we see in the scripture. Ultimately, 317 00:24:12.259 --> 00:24:17.900 he was he was criticized unto death, right. Yeah, yeah, and 318 00:24:18.059 --> 00:24:22.140 we see the mean the life of David, David being criticized from all kinds 319 00:24:22.180 --> 00:24:26.329 of angles and being. He's criticized by even his own wife. Yeah, 320 00:24:26.329 --> 00:24:32.130 at one point. Yeah, Hum, I mean Moses. Yeah, think 321 00:24:32.130 --> 00:24:36.529 about Moses, criticized by his own brother and sister. His people grumbled and 322 00:24:37.089 --> 00:24:41.000 here he lives out of the leading out of the House of Bondage, out 323 00:24:41.039 --> 00:24:42.880 of slavery, led them out of slavery. And Yeah, seem like all 324 00:24:42.920 --> 00:24:48.319 they could do is criticize him. Yeah, and God. They criticized God. 325 00:24:48.480 --> 00:24:52.359 How Dare God bring his out into this wilderness not give us anything to 326 00:24:52.440 --> 00:24:55.029 eat? We'd be better off back in Egypt. You know so well. 327 00:24:55.190 --> 00:24:57.910 You know what this that raises a good point that I that I think a 328 00:24:57.950 --> 00:25:02.789 lot of times the criticism, particularly if it's coming from the opposition, but 329 00:25:02.910 --> 00:25:07.299 even sometimes from fellow believers, is a tactic as old as humanity itself. 330 00:25:07.339 --> 00:25:15.980 When they first faced Satan in the garden of Eden, what was his mode 331 00:25:15.579 --> 00:25:21.890 of of trying to get people to do what he wanted them to do? 332 00:25:22.450 --> 00:25:25.609 Yeah, I mean, in essence it was it was criticism of the word 333 00:25:25.650 --> 00:25:29.410 of God. They did God really say? Question Really, can you really 334 00:25:29.450 --> 00:25:32.730 trust God's word? It's almost like you know God. And again it's a 335 00:25:32.769 --> 00:25:34.720 critique against God. God's holding something back. He knows that in the day 336 00:25:34.759 --> 00:25:37.960 of you eat of this tree, when you eat of this tree, you'll 337 00:25:38.000 --> 00:25:42.759 be like him. Yeah, and it's criticize and critiquing God. In God's 338 00:25:44.000 --> 00:25:47.039 getting you to doubt God. And that, I think. As I was 339 00:25:47.119 --> 00:25:49.750 thinking about that, I was thinking so much of the criticism that we get 340 00:25:49.789 --> 00:25:56.109 out there on the sidewalk is really aimed at putting seeds of doubt. Seeds 341 00:25:56.190 --> 00:26:00.910 of doubt that we're actually doing what God would have us do. Yeah, 342 00:26:02.309 --> 00:26:07.700 seeds of doubt that what God has asked us to do is actually even worthwhile. 343 00:26:08.180 --> 00:26:11.779 Yeah, and and then seats of doubt in the methods that were using 344 00:26:12.220 --> 00:26:18.569 to to accomplish all that. But it really does boil down to did God 345 00:26:18.769 --> 00:26:22.450 really tell you to be out there right, and it God really tell you 346 00:26:22.569 --> 00:26:25.849 to harass women and scream at women this way? And it's the same thing, 347 00:26:25.970 --> 00:26:29.490 it's the same thing that happened in the garden of Edo. And so 348 00:26:29.569 --> 00:26:34.839 I think knowing that helps to disarm in your own heart the effects of that 349 00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:40.559 criticism against you. This is an old tactic of Satan. Yeah, and 350 00:26:40.680 --> 00:26:45.240 Satan doesn't attack those that doesn't need to attack. So he's only going to 351 00:26:45.319 --> 00:26:53.470 be criticizing and trying to discourage and intimidate those who are faithful and doing the 352 00:26:53.509 --> 00:26:57.950 work of God and are a threat to Satan. So again, I think 353 00:26:57.990 --> 00:27:03.019 keeping that in your heart helps help send how to handle that criticism. Yeah, 354 00:27:03.059 --> 00:27:08.059 you have here all the heroes of the Bible face criticism and then all 355 00:27:08.180 --> 00:27:12.940 those heroes turn to God and recognize their struggle is not against flesh and blood, 356 00:27:12.940 --> 00:27:15.809 right, yeah, recognizing we're in a spiritual battle. Yeah, and 357 00:27:15.970 --> 00:27:22.329 again the devil uses criticism to discourage, to bring draw the courage out of 358 00:27:22.410 --> 00:27:26.210 us, that we're deflated and recognizing that, knowing that, knowing that you're 359 00:27:26.250 --> 00:27:30.599 in a spiritual battle, knowing the fact that what we're dealing with at the 360 00:27:30.640 --> 00:27:33.960 abortion centers is the number one moral evil of our day, right, that 361 00:27:34.799 --> 00:27:38.319 child killing is happening in our cities. Yeah, and the Devil's going to 362 00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:41.839 use every angle he can. Now, I don't mean to say that if 363 00:27:41.880 --> 00:27:47.190 you're getting criticized by believers in the Lord that they have a demon or something 364 00:27:47.349 --> 00:27:49.670 like that. I don't mean to say that, but the devil does use 365 00:27:49.670 --> 00:27:55.150 all kinds of people he does. And even unwittingly, sometimes we can be 366 00:27:55.309 --> 00:27:59.019 used by the enemy to discourage and to bring disunity and things like that. 367 00:28:00.259 --> 00:28:06.740 So we have to be careful ourselves not to be unnecessarily critical, right, 368 00:28:07.220 --> 00:28:11.539 but just recognizing the plan of the enemy is helpful and seeing, okay, 369 00:28:11.539 --> 00:28:15.609 that's what this is. This is this criticism. You know, I think 370 00:28:15.849 --> 00:28:18.250 when a Chris criticism comes our way, I think I already said this, 371 00:28:18.410 --> 00:28:21.890 but I'll say it may be again in a different way, and criticism comes 372 00:28:21.930 --> 00:28:26.250 our way, we should immediately like process it, right. I don't think 373 00:28:26.250 --> 00:28:29.920 we should just have a wall up and take it personal and say, why 374 00:28:29.920 --> 00:28:30.960 are they even critiqueing me? I'm not going to listen to what you have 375 00:28:32.039 --> 00:28:33.920 to say. I think we do need to listen to that criticism, but 376 00:28:34.000 --> 00:28:37.440 then we need to process it through the word of God and then when we 377 00:28:37.519 --> 00:28:41.589 have assurance through the word of God that what we're doing is in line with 378 00:28:41.750 --> 00:28:45.990 his word, that it's in line with what he said, then we can 379 00:28:45.029 --> 00:28:48.509 take that criticism and we can we can cast it to the side and say, 380 00:28:48.549 --> 00:28:52.190 I thank you for your criticism, but as for me, in my 381 00:28:52.309 --> 00:28:56.579 house, will serve the Lord, will obey God. And since you're probably 382 00:28:56.980 --> 00:29:02.380 going to need to process that pretty quickly in a urgent situation like in front 383 00:29:02.380 --> 00:29:07.220 of an abortion center, part of the preparation of being on the sidewalk is 384 00:29:07.380 --> 00:29:10.690 know the word of God. You know so that you can bump it up 385 00:29:11.089 --> 00:29:15.809 pretty quickly against well, what does God say? Yeah, and and then 386 00:29:15.890 --> 00:29:22.450 you can either pretty quickly reject or accept and maybe even take in that criticism 387 00:29:22.529 --> 00:29:29.359 to grow. Yeah, but it is I think criticism is more difficult when 388 00:29:29.400 --> 00:29:32.240 you're in a situation where a life is on the line. Yeah, and 389 00:29:33.400 --> 00:29:38.309 and so part of I think, as I was processing through what to do 390 00:29:38.430 --> 00:29:44.230 with criticism again, looking at the how the heroes of the Bible dealt with 391 00:29:44.309 --> 00:29:47.750 it. Well, they they didn't give up, they didn't back down, 392 00:29:48.390 --> 00:29:55.500 they still pursued God's purpose as they and call in what they were called to 393 00:29:55.660 --> 00:30:02.259 do. And and so maybe you won't be able to thoroughly process the criticism 394 00:30:02.299 --> 00:30:04.339 in terms of is this valid? Is it not by valid? But you 395 00:30:04.779 --> 00:30:10.049 will. You should know what is God called me to do and no matter 396 00:30:10.210 --> 00:30:15.089 what's being flung at me, what arrows are being shot, am I still 397 00:30:15.130 --> 00:30:22.279 able to continue faithfully to do what I'm out here to do, and certainly 398 00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:27.160 the model for us throughout the Bible is don't back down. I'm thinking of 399 00:30:27.240 --> 00:30:32.000 because we're studying has a KIA, or just finished a study of Hese a 400 00:30:32.039 --> 00:30:38.069 Kiah in in church, and he was just the brunt of so much criticism. 401 00:30:38.109 --> 00:30:42.509 Yeah, and yet he kept building the wall. Yeah, he didn't 402 00:30:42.589 --> 00:30:48.950 back down until the wall was finished. mean the Amia, that is who 403 00:30:48.029 --> 00:30:52.740 I meant. Okay, just criticize you. Thank you. Yes, but 404 00:30:53.019 --> 00:30:59.420 notice I was able to quickly not take it personally, admit I was wrong 405 00:30:59.619 --> 00:31:02.539 and move into the correct see, I grew. I grew from that little 406 00:31:02.539 --> 00:31:06.809 bit of criticism. So that was a good process criticism. But you're exactly 407 00:31:06.890 --> 00:31:10.650 right. Yeah, yeah, so they so be like those heroes. And 408 00:31:10.809 --> 00:31:15.569 and one of the verses that that I actually use a lot. I think 409 00:31:15.609 --> 00:31:19.000 of this a lot. Submit that, therefore to God. Resist the devil 410 00:31:19.480 --> 00:31:23.720 and he will flee from you. Yeah, and that that's James for seven. 411 00:31:25.279 --> 00:31:30.000 Don't don't back down from what you know God has called you to do. 412 00:31:30.279 --> 00:31:36.069 Exist Satan, and and that's how you fight him. Yeah, yeah, 413 00:31:36.670 --> 00:31:38.390 I think one of the ways, and you don't have this in the 414 00:31:38.509 --> 00:31:42.190 article, but I know that personally, one of the ways that really the 415 00:31:42.309 --> 00:31:48.259 devil can deflate you and get you discourage through criticism is if your motivation is 416 00:31:48.339 --> 00:31:52.339 off. Right now, so I'll talked a little bit about our motivation has 417 00:31:52.380 --> 00:31:56.140 to be a love for God, and that's absolutely the case. That has 418 00:31:56.180 --> 00:32:00.660 to be our central motivation for everything we do in ministry, in our walk 419 00:32:00.819 --> 00:32:02.890 with God, is it flows out of a love for him. Right, 420 00:32:04.250 --> 00:32:07.650 and if you're motivated, I'll say one of the ways you can certainly get 421 00:32:08.329 --> 00:32:13.490 really discouraged is if your motivation is a political one. I know the people 422 00:32:13.529 --> 00:32:15.799 that are involved in pro life ministry, Pro Life Work, even on the 423 00:32:15.880 --> 00:32:21.640 sidewalk. Their primary motivation is really a political motivation. You're going to get 424 00:32:21.880 --> 00:32:24.440 deflated real quick. Criticism is going to get at you. You know, 425 00:32:24.519 --> 00:32:30.190 politics is the art of compromise. Politics and politicians want to please the world 426 00:32:30.349 --> 00:32:32.309 and want to look good in the eyes of the world. Listen, if 427 00:32:32.349 --> 00:32:36.710 you're going to serve God, if you're going to obey God, you're going 428 00:32:36.829 --> 00:32:38.549 to have to be settled in your mind that they're going to be times when 429 00:32:38.589 --> 00:32:43.869 people don't understand you. Yeah, and that's okay. Yeah, listen, 430 00:32:44.150 --> 00:32:49.019 Jesus was the most misunderstood person that ever lived on the face of the planet, 431 00:32:49.180 --> 00:32:52.539 but he was not deterred from his missions, not even single laser beam. 432 00:32:52.700 --> 00:32:55.819 Focus on his purpose. Yeah, it kind of goes along the lines 433 00:32:55.900 --> 00:33:00.569 with kind of your first point here. You can't control what other people think 434 00:33:00.730 --> 00:33:04.130 and right, can't control what other people do and all of that stuff. 435 00:33:04.490 --> 00:33:07.690 Yeah, you've got to be resolved in you got to have that resolve in 436 00:33:07.769 --> 00:33:12.569 your mind that you're out there to serve God, that you're not there to 437 00:33:12.650 --> 00:33:22.559 please people and you know you're you're focused on God and your purpose out there 438 00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:29.710 be in obedience to God. Your mission, if you're in abortion ministry on 439 00:33:29.829 --> 00:33:34.349 the sidewalk, you are mission is to of course, first serve and obey 440 00:33:34.430 --> 00:33:38.549 God, but to save unborn lives, those unborn lives at that last moment 441 00:33:38.869 --> 00:33:44.740 that they're alive. And yes, there are billions of other ministries you could 442 00:33:44.740 --> 00:33:47.259 be involved in then, many of them that might greet, you know, 443 00:33:47.819 --> 00:33:52.500 stop a mother at an earlier point, but that's not the mission you're on. 444 00:33:53.059 --> 00:33:58.690 And and so I get all the time, all the time I get 445 00:33:58.970 --> 00:34:02.289 offers to go do all these political things. All are good, you know, 446 00:34:02.730 --> 00:34:07.010 pro life things, rallies, whatever. Someone showed up today with with 447 00:34:07.170 --> 00:34:13.239 all kinds of information to pass out, and that's not my purpose. At 448 00:34:13.599 --> 00:34:17.440 my purpose is there's babies today, right now, that are going to die 449 00:34:17.800 --> 00:34:22.920 and I've been called by God right now to speak, not to hand out 450 00:34:22.079 --> 00:34:28.269 political tracks, not to show up at a rally. I'm here now and 451 00:34:28.469 --> 00:34:32.510 that's my calling. Yeah. So, so I think that helps with criticism 452 00:34:32.630 --> 00:34:37.630 too, because a lot of the criticism I get is I should be doing 453 00:34:37.829 --> 00:34:44.460 something else or I should be doing all those other things in addition to what 454 00:34:44.619 --> 00:34:47.219 I'm doing, and if I pay attention to those voices I will burn out 455 00:34:47.219 --> 00:34:51.539 in a day like I could not. I could not do what I did, 456 00:34:51.579 --> 00:34:54.369 and it really takes that laser focus. What does God call me to 457 00:34:54.409 --> 00:34:58.250 do? Right, let me focus on that. Yeah, all the other 458 00:34:58.369 --> 00:35:00.769 things that vy for my attention or that criticize, that try to get me 459 00:35:00.849 --> 00:35:05.889 off track. One of the things that we talked about in from the Amiyah, 460 00:35:06.130 --> 00:35:08.400 actually the book in the Amiyah, within the Ministry of Love Life, 461 00:35:09.039 --> 00:35:14.360 God really gave Justin this this model of rebuilding the wall from the AMIAH, 462 00:35:14.440 --> 00:35:16.360 right first couple of chapters. Yeah, and one of the things that Justin 463 00:35:16.400 --> 00:35:21.000 has been really saying recently is there's going to be things that come along that 464 00:35:21.119 --> 00:35:23.429 try to get you off the wall right here there building the wall. They're 465 00:35:23.429 --> 00:35:28.949 going to be things that try to discourage you, distract you whatever, to 466 00:35:29.030 --> 00:35:31.070 get you from being where God has called you to be, building the wall. 467 00:35:31.869 --> 00:35:37.860 You have to really wage a warfare against those things and criticism is one 468 00:35:37.860 --> 00:35:39.659 of those things that try to tries to get you down from the wall, 469 00:35:40.300 --> 00:35:45.099 get you worried about other people's opinions and really just derail you right I was 470 00:35:45.139 --> 00:35:50.530 called you to right. So there are practical things, as as one of 471 00:35:50.570 --> 00:35:55.489 the the people that contacted me a couple weeks ago. She said what specific 472 00:35:55.570 --> 00:36:00.449 what do you do? What do you do to fight this? And we've 473 00:36:00.530 --> 00:36:04.289 talked through kind of, I think, in a almost more philosophical way, 474 00:36:04.320 --> 00:36:08.119 on on some things that help to show us up against criticism. But there 475 00:36:08.119 --> 00:36:15.280 are some things that practical things that I that I do anyway to fight discouragement, 476 00:36:15.320 --> 00:36:17.949 and I know some of these we've said over and over and over again, 477 00:36:19.190 --> 00:36:22.309 but one of the first things that I think is critical is that you 478 00:36:22.550 --> 00:36:29.949 need to have some way where you are going to be able to reconnect with 479 00:36:30.230 --> 00:36:36.340 God kind of detox from. Yeah, what you have just phased. For 480 00:36:36.460 --> 00:36:39.940 me, that's kayaking or bicycling or going on a long walk and in nature 481 00:36:40.340 --> 00:36:45.739 and alone. Yeah, being alone in a beautiful, usually natural place with 482 00:36:45.900 --> 00:36:52.010 God. And I have found that that if I do that as many afternoons 483 00:36:52.050 --> 00:36:57.530 as I can after I leave the abortion center, that's where I process what 484 00:36:57.650 --> 00:37:05.039 has happened and kind of dust the all the terrible things that happened off off 485 00:37:05.079 --> 00:37:08.679 of my mind and me, you, yeah, and am able to refocus 486 00:37:08.840 --> 00:37:14.880 for the next day, and I think that is very important that everyone have 487 00:37:15.159 --> 00:37:19.909 something like that. Yeah, because, like I said, the criticisms that 488 00:37:19.989 --> 00:37:23.469 come, and they will come, are not what like other people's opinions are 489 00:37:23.550 --> 00:37:29.150 not what defines me. Right, what defines me is what God says. 490 00:37:29.550 --> 00:37:31.780 Yeah, what defines me is what he's called me to, not what other 491 00:37:31.820 --> 00:37:36.219 people feel like I'm called to. Yeah, what he's actually called me to. 492 00:37:36.380 --> 00:37:38.340 That's what defines me. Yeah, and so there are times where I 493 00:37:38.380 --> 00:37:42.380 need to get kind of, for lack of a better term, recentered, 494 00:37:42.860 --> 00:37:46.610 yeah, by spending some time with the Lord and allowing that fellowship with him 495 00:37:47.489 --> 00:37:53.130 to just remind me of my relationship with him and how my relationship with him 496 00:37:53.650 --> 00:37:57.929 defines me. I'm defined by the fact that I am a child of God, 497 00:37:58.010 --> 00:38:00.000 that I belong to the Living God. Yeah, I'm defined by the 498 00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:05.239 fact that he's called me to a particular ministry. I'm defined by those things, 499 00:38:05.320 --> 00:38:07.840 not by other people's opinions and criticisms. Right, it does take sometimes 500 00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:12.440 just getting along with God to for him to remind you of that. It 501 00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:15.949 does. And kind of similar to this, but different is that all of 502 00:38:16.150 --> 00:38:20.389 us that are on a team together, all of us that are in that 503 00:38:20.510 --> 00:38:27.380 ministry together, can recognize how sometimes that criticism does start to seep into our 504 00:38:27.500 --> 00:38:35.820 identity. Yeah, and to encourage each other by countering that negative and false 505 00:38:35.980 --> 00:38:38.300 narrative of who we are. And I love how we have one of our 506 00:38:38.380 --> 00:38:44.369 coworkers, Sarah, whenever she sees me, particularly back when. Right now 507 00:38:44.449 --> 00:38:47.090 the criticism and the pro abortion crowd is not quite as rough, but there 508 00:38:47.210 --> 00:38:53.250 was a time when I was being mercilessly name called and just and one of 509 00:38:53.289 --> 00:38:57.400 the things they would call me a key vicky over and over again and be 510 00:38:58.079 --> 00:39:01.039 just slamming every part of me, and whenever I would walk in the office, 511 00:39:01.079 --> 00:39:06.880 Sarah would say it's vicky wonderful, radiant, kind, compassionate, and 512 00:39:06.960 --> 00:39:10.070 she would just list I can't remember exactly what she would say, but she 513 00:39:10.150 --> 00:39:17.389 would counter all of those criticisms with a positive image, and I it really 514 00:39:17.949 --> 00:39:22.829 helped. Yeah, it really knows. That's really the opposite of discouragement. 515 00:39:22.989 --> 00:39:25.699 Your discouragement is to get the courage out of you. Yeah, encouragement is 516 00:39:25.780 --> 00:39:30.539 to put courage in you. Right, and we do that edify one another. 517 00:39:30.579 --> 00:39:32.900 Yeah, typically the best way to edify somebody is to speak well of 518 00:39:32.980 --> 00:39:37.340 them. That's right, to talk them up, to encourage them, but 519 00:39:37.500 --> 00:39:38.929 courage in them. You're a child of God, you belong to the Lord. 520 00:39:38.929 --> 00:39:43.250 That's where we need to be, as I said earlier, intentional about 521 00:39:43.530 --> 00:39:46.929 encouraging each other. Encouraging each other, yeah, locally with our local volunteers, 522 00:39:47.369 --> 00:39:52.289 but also even nationally, like if somebody puts out a post on facebook 523 00:39:52.289 --> 00:39:57.400 or something where they're out there on the sidewalk and God has done something amazing, 524 00:39:58.039 --> 00:40:00.159 then glory, and that the Bible says we should rejoice with those who 525 00:40:00.199 --> 00:40:05.039 rejoice. Rejoice with them, even if they're maybe not a part of love 526 00:40:05.199 --> 00:40:08.150 life. For whatever minister, you're part of a still will encourage people. 527 00:40:08.269 --> 00:40:13.630 Still give them the the heart thing or the thumbs up or praise God. 528 00:40:13.670 --> 00:40:16.070 All right, then in the comments whatever, just because I know how discouraging 529 00:40:16.469 --> 00:40:22.300 this ministry can be. We need other people encouraging us as we're going throughout 530 00:40:22.340 --> 00:40:25.059 what God has called us to do. Yeah, and one of the self 531 00:40:25.300 --> 00:40:31.019 help things for depression that I've read is not that I am depressed or need 532 00:40:32.460 --> 00:40:36.690 I give you the wrong idea, but I do read a lot about how 533 00:40:37.170 --> 00:40:42.329 to help others and one of the best ways to help yourself out of discouragement 534 00:40:42.409 --> 00:40:46.289 depression is to go encourage others. So if you're the brunt of a lot 535 00:40:46.329 --> 00:40:52.000 of criticism, sometimes the way to deal with it, and I know I 536 00:40:52.280 --> 00:40:57.280 do this, is to go to your teammates and remind them how wonderful they 537 00:40:57.320 --> 00:41:00.440 are and how wonderful they are in the Lord and how faithful and obedient they 538 00:41:00.440 --> 00:41:07.150 are in the Lord, and that helps lift not only them but it also 539 00:41:07.309 --> 00:41:13.190 helps to lift you. So well, some of the other things are that 540 00:41:13.550 --> 00:41:15.789 I think we've said thousands of times. Pray, be in the word, 541 00:41:15.869 --> 00:41:20.820 be in church. Those things, of course, are given. Those will 542 00:41:21.019 --> 00:41:27.579 always help you to fight whatever battles that you have out there on the sidewalk. 543 00:41:30.179 --> 00:41:34.769 But another specific thing that I that I know that I do and and 544 00:41:35.050 --> 00:41:39.210 that I did share with that counsel that was particularly the struggling was I go 545 00:41:39.730 --> 00:41:46.050 to the sidewalk expecting to see God. Yeah, expecting to see his miracles 546 00:41:46.840 --> 00:41:52.840 and, even when it's not, something like a saved baby, trying to 547 00:41:52.039 --> 00:41:59.639 find out and to think about and to seek and search for. Where did 548 00:41:59.679 --> 00:42:04.510 God show himself today? Yeah, keeping that positive focus. Yeah, I 549 00:42:04.670 --> 00:42:08.150 think in the face of so much negativity. Yeah, I don't one of 550 00:42:08.190 --> 00:42:14.230 the things that you have here is prepare for the battle. Yeah, understanding, 551 00:42:14.309 --> 00:42:16.139 like we talked about earlier, this is a spiritual battle and there's going 552 00:42:16.139 --> 00:42:20.420 to be discouragement that comes from the enemy. Putting on the armor of God. 553 00:42:20.940 --> 00:42:23.179 We've talked about that. I did a podcast about that. But on 554 00:42:23.219 --> 00:42:28.019 that armor of God because the criticism, again, the main source of criticism, 555 00:42:28.059 --> 00:42:30.929 is the pro abortion people and as they fling those fiery darts, and 556 00:42:30.969 --> 00:42:35.650 the Bible says that shield of faith will quench those fiery darts, even as 557 00:42:35.690 --> 00:42:37.730 other believers people, they misunderstand what you're doing and why you're doing. What 558 00:42:37.769 --> 00:42:43.329 you're doing is they fling those fiery darts knowingly or unknowingly, that shield of 559 00:42:43.369 --> 00:42:45.480 faith, believing what God says. You're defined by him, you're defined by 560 00:42:45.559 --> 00:42:51.079 his word, extinguishes those things right away, right. So be intentional about 561 00:42:51.079 --> 00:42:53.840 putting on the armor of God. Yeah, yeah, and I do now. 562 00:42:54.079 --> 00:42:57.599 I do. I mean I always did, but I did it kind 563 00:42:57.639 --> 00:43:00.349 of just thinking through effician six, but now I do what what you do? 564 00:43:00.710 --> 00:43:06.710 I acted out on my putting on the helmet, putting on the Buckler 565 00:43:06.750 --> 00:43:09.269 of truth, putting on the you know, the breastplate of righteousness. Yeah, 566 00:43:09.309 --> 00:43:12.710 and I'd say it out loud and put it on the way that you 567 00:43:12.789 --> 00:43:16.179 kind of describe how you act it out, because I do find it reminds 568 00:43:16.260 --> 00:43:21.860 me as I go through those actions, it reminds me I'm protected. Yeah, 569 00:43:21.980 --> 00:43:24.260 I don't have to worry about what they're going to throw at me, 570 00:43:24.380 --> 00:43:30.650 because greater is he who is in me then he who is in the world. 571 00:43:30.849 --> 00:43:36.090 Yeah, yeah, Amen. Well, I mean, I think wrap 572 00:43:36.210 --> 00:43:38.170 this thing up, there's an article that will have out on the sidewalks for 573 00:43:38.289 --> 00:43:42.239 life website that you guys can check out. That's kind of the framework that 574 00:43:42.320 --> 00:43:45.239 we've gone by, like we often do. I do want to encourage you 575 00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:51.840 guys we're coming up on our hundredth podcast. Believe it's amazing. That's hard 576 00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:57.030 to learn, to fathom one hundred podcast. So our hundredth episode we want 577 00:43:57.070 --> 00:44:00.269 to try to make special and we're not going to yet reveal what that's going 578 00:44:00.309 --> 00:44:02.989 to be. How we're going to make it special. We kind of got 579 00:44:04.070 --> 00:44:07.469 some ideas and I think we're putting some of those ideas into into practice, 580 00:44:08.190 --> 00:44:10.900 but I do feel like it'll be an encouragement to you guys. So just 581 00:44:12.019 --> 00:44:15.699 be listening for our hundredth episode. Hopefully it will be an encouragement to you 582 00:44:15.940 --> 00:44:20.739 and be a blessing to you guys. Hopefully this podcast has been a blessing 583 00:44:20.780 --> 00:44:22.539 to you. There's certainly a lot that we could touch on and dealing with 584 00:44:22.659 --> 00:44:28.809 criticism and dealing with accusations and dealing with discouragement and all that, and we 585 00:44:28.889 --> 00:44:30.329 could go on endlessly, but we got to wrap this up at some point. 586 00:44:30.409 --> 00:44:32.449 So we are going to wrap it up, but we do encourage you 587 00:44:32.489 --> 00:44:36.170 guys to reach out to us. You can reach out to me at Daniel 588 00:44:36.329 --> 00:44:38.440 Love Life Dot Org. You can rek reach her, Vicky, at Love 589 00:44:38.519 --> 00:44:42.679 Life Dot Org. Give us some suggestions. Let us know what you think. 590 00:44:42.679 --> 00:44:46.559 About this podcast. Give us a review on itunes or apple podcasts. 591 00:44:46.719 --> 00:44:51.920 Yes, it is. Any other way that you receive these these episodes? 592 00:44:52.559 --> 00:44:55.389 Subscribe on Youtube and know a lot of people listen through YouTube. We have 593 00:44:55.550 --> 00:45:00.550 our our basically audio going out into sort of a video format on Youtube and 594 00:45:00.670 --> 00:45:06.630 people partake in that manner. So subscribe. Let folks know, share the 595 00:45:06.710 --> 00:45:09.420 podcast with people so that we have more folks listening, more folks getting encouraged, 596 00:45:10.059 --> 00:45:15.340 and I think with that wrapping this thing up. So until next time, 597 00:45:15.539 --> 00:45:25.250 God bless, God bless. Give me our love for love, give 598 00:45:25.369 --> 00:45:35.090 me our love for gratitude. I know it will cost me my life. 599 00:45:37.760 --> 00:45:42.159 Nothing's too precious in some you