Jan. 7, 2021

Balancing Family and Ministry

Balancing Family and Ministry

The calling to minister at local abortion centers is a crucial calling. However, our calling to minister to our families is even more important. Both of these callings require balance and there are some biblical and practical principles to help us...


The calling to minister at local abortion centers is a crucial calling. However, our calling to minister to our families is even more important. Both of these callings require balance and there are some biblical and practical principles to help us strike that balance. Join us as we share these principles and some experiences from our lives that will help encourage and equip you.

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.560 --> 00:00:06.400 I Am Yours, I am yours, I am yours and me Lord, 2 00:00:06.879 --> 00:00:11.470 I am yours, I am your. Welcome to the Gospel Center pro life 3 00:00:11.509 --> 00:00:14.869 podcast. In this episode we're going to talk about how to balance family and 4 00:00:15.029 --> 00:00:18.149 ministry. This is a very important subject, so please stay with us. 5 00:00:18.510 --> 00:00:28.219 Me Lord, Send Me, Lord. I felt show passish, touch your 6 00:00:28.780 --> 00:00:38.770 heart. Use Me, Lord. Welcome to the Gospel Center pro life podcast. 7 00:00:38.850 --> 00:00:43.530 Appreciate you guys tuning in and we will jump right into our subject. 8 00:00:43.929 --> 00:00:47.810 It's an important subject and hopefully, because this will be coming out, or 9 00:00:47.810 --> 00:00:52.479 actually recording in the old year, but this will be coming out in the 10 00:00:52.640 --> 00:00:56.600 new year. Let's see, Star Twenty one. So first recording for the 11 00:00:56.719 --> 00:01:00.560 new year, if it will be. Yes, so good to see you 12 00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:06.069 guys this year. Yeah, but I think it's an important topic that we 13 00:01:06.310 --> 00:01:11.189 have dealt with with our I'd say our sidewalk missionaries, also our local sidewalk 14 00:01:11.189 --> 00:01:15.069 volunteers. It's a constant thing that comes up, that with personally in my 15 00:01:15.230 --> 00:01:19.980 life. You've dealt with this personally in your life? Yep, in one 16 00:01:19.019 --> 00:01:23.219 of our sidewalk counselors here locally. Actually, kind of, I guess, 17 00:01:23.219 --> 00:01:26.659 spurred me on to talk to you about doing a podcast. You write an 18 00:01:26.700 --> 00:01:34.170 article that will go long with this podcast about balancing family and ministry, and 19 00:01:34.650 --> 00:01:41.489 so I thought some of the principles that I have employed as a minister and 20 00:01:42.530 --> 00:01:45.969 even a pastor in my past, had been a pastor for about nine years, 21 00:01:46.489 --> 00:01:49.920 and then some of the things, strategies and Biblical concepts that you've employed 22 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:53.879 and being out on the sidewalks would help you, guys that are listening. 23 00:01:53.840 --> 00:02:00.640 And so we want to jump into this subject, balancing family and ministry. 24 00:02:00.719 --> 00:02:04.269 Yeah, both are important. Both are critical parts of my life, for 25 00:02:04.430 --> 00:02:08.389 sure, any dedicated, committed Christians life. Yeah, so, and it's 26 00:02:08.430 --> 00:02:13.669 one of the most commonly voice struggles is how do I balance the demands of 27 00:02:13.830 --> 00:02:21.259 family and ministry, because they're both important, they're both their intensive. You 28 00:02:21.659 --> 00:02:25.060 need to devote a lot of time or you can lose one or the others. 29 00:02:25.259 --> 00:02:31.889 So, yeah, how do we balance and and prioritize? And it's 30 00:02:32.009 --> 00:02:38.409 it creates a tension. I think it's one of the most common tensions voiced 31 00:02:38.650 --> 00:02:43.490 by our counselors and that we get questions about how do you do it? 32 00:02:44.400 --> 00:02:47.560 So yeah, the I think, as in all things, I will say 33 00:02:47.759 --> 00:02:51.759 that, as we were even going through this article and just kind of honing 34 00:02:51.840 --> 00:02:54.520 in what are the points that we wanted to touch on, we came to 35 00:02:54.599 --> 00:03:00.030 realize that there's some tension here, even in our own lives, I mean 36 00:03:00.069 --> 00:03:02.550 the tension between you guys will see in some of the points that we share. 37 00:03:04.469 --> 00:03:08.150 Keeping God first, but also your first ministry being to your family. 38 00:03:08.229 --> 00:03:12.509 There's our first two points. So there's a tension there because, as will 39 00:03:13.060 --> 00:03:17.939 as we go along, you guys will see sometimes you can use family tension 40 00:03:19.020 --> 00:03:23.620 and struggles in your family to justify not obeying the Lord. Right, right. 41 00:03:23.699 --> 00:03:25.060 So how do you balance that? How do you how do you get 42 00:03:25.060 --> 00:03:28.810 through that struggle? So we're going to talk about how you do that. 43 00:03:29.090 --> 00:03:32.090 Hopefully we're going to give you, guess, some principles to to employ yourselves. 44 00:03:32.490 --> 00:03:37.490 Yeah, and probably leave you still with some biblical tension. Yeah, 45 00:03:38.009 --> 00:03:40.479 we're not going to be figuring it all out for you and checking all the 46 00:03:40.520 --> 00:03:44.479 boxes for you. You got to seek the Lord Yourself. You've got to 47 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:47.080 find out what the Lord has for you and for your family. So let's 48 00:03:47.120 --> 00:03:51.400 jump into it, and I think that helps, knowing that the struggle and 49 00:03:51.439 --> 00:03:54.120 the tension is universal and is real. Yeah, and and it's not going 50 00:03:54.120 --> 00:03:59.069 to be resolved by this podcast. I can be resolved by anything, because 51 00:03:59.830 --> 00:04:04.389 they there are competing interest and so that I think that these can guide, 52 00:04:04.789 --> 00:04:10.460 but they're not going to completely solved. Yeah, that are eliminate that tension. 53 00:04:10.539 --> 00:04:14.460 So the first one, our first priority is to God. Yeah. 54 00:04:14.699 --> 00:04:17.420 Yeah, and of course, I mean if you're a Christian, you realize 55 00:04:17.500 --> 00:04:21.459 this as a biblical concept, right. Yeah, we're called to love God 56 00:04:21.939 --> 00:04:27.610 above everything else. Yeah, what's the Great Command? Love the Lord, 57 00:04:27.689 --> 00:04:30.129 your God, with all your heart, art, mind, soul and strength. 58 00:04:30.410 --> 00:04:33.930 Yeah, so right away, Potensi love God first, and right away 59 00:04:33.970 --> 00:04:39.079 the tension is created. Okay, your focus, your priority, everything is 60 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:43.360 on God first. And yet you've got a baby at home. Yeah, 61 00:04:43.879 --> 00:04:46.879 you've got a wife at home or husband at home, been there, got 62 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:53.350 dogs that need feeding and and so so there's there is only so many hours 63 00:04:53.430 --> 00:04:58.110 in the day, so much energy and emotional strength that any single person has. 64 00:04:58.709 --> 00:05:04.189 How do you make sure that God is your priority without neglecting other things? 65 00:05:04.230 --> 00:05:08.980 So we have a good verse right. Yeah, it's probably a verseity 66 00:05:09.139 --> 00:05:12.660 that you, guys, as soon as I mentioned this topic, or at 67 00:05:12.860 --> 00:05:16.939 least this point here under this topic, that came to your mind is he 68 00:05:17.060 --> 00:05:20.730 who loves father and mother more than me is not worthy of me. He 69 00:05:20.850 --> 00:05:25.209 who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. He 70 00:05:25.490 --> 00:05:28.930 does not take up his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 71 00:05:29.490 --> 00:05:31.529 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life 72 00:05:31.889 --> 00:05:35.360 for my sake will find it. Yeah, and so we're called to lose 73 00:05:35.399 --> 00:05:40.439 our life for the sake of the Gospel. We're called to serve the Lord 74 00:05:40.560 --> 00:05:45.920 above all other things, above all other people, including our parents, including 75 00:05:45.959 --> 00:05:51.069 our children, including our wives. And so that's a biblical reality that we 76 00:05:51.149 --> 00:05:55.269 have to do with. God is first. God is supposed to be first. 77 00:05:55.350 --> 00:05:59.189 God is first, even above your wife, even a of your husband. 78 00:05:59.589 --> 00:06:03.740 Goddess first, right, but under God being first, I believe the 79 00:06:03.899 --> 00:06:11.699 next point follows that our first ministry is to our family, priority, first, 80 00:06:11.779 --> 00:06:15.899 priority, God. YEA, that our first ministry. So it is 81 00:06:15.060 --> 00:06:21.569 to because God is first, those things that are most important to God should 82 00:06:21.569 --> 00:06:26.449 be most important to us, right. Yeah, and I think this point 83 00:06:26.529 --> 00:06:30.410 is established in First Timothy, Chapter Five. Yeah, that's good one, 84 00:06:30.689 --> 00:06:35.639 and verse eight. M and it says if anyone does not provide for his 85 00:06:35.720 --> 00:06:41.199 own especially for those of his household. He has denied the faith and is 86 00:06:41.319 --> 00:06:46.389 worst than an unbeliever. Yeah, the context here is providing physical necessities and 87 00:06:46.550 --> 00:06:50.430 things and talking about those who are widowed and and all of that. So 88 00:06:50.470 --> 00:06:55.470 if you have widows that that need to be cared for, if you have 89 00:06:55.550 --> 00:06:59.509 a grandmother who's widowed and needs to be cared for, you shouldn't be casting 90 00:06:59.990 --> 00:07:04.060 the responsibility off on the church or anyone else. That's your responsibility. But 91 00:07:04.100 --> 00:07:08.980 I think this concept can carry through to just be on physical I mean, 92 00:07:09.019 --> 00:07:12.459 if you think of a man who doesn't provide food for his family, doesn't 93 00:07:12.459 --> 00:07:15.370 provide he goes off and, you know whatever, gambles or does drugs or 94 00:07:15.410 --> 00:07:18.490 whatever, you think that guy's just a scumbag. Right. He's not providing 95 00:07:18.529 --> 00:07:25.610 the basic necessities. But your children also need oversight, your cheating children also 96 00:07:25.689 --> 00:07:30.439 need discipline. Your children need be on food, they need their father to 97 00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:33.360 be near to them, to give them God, I'm they need love, 98 00:07:33.560 --> 00:07:36.839 quality time, quantity time. Yeah, kids need all of that, and 99 00:07:36.920 --> 00:07:41.959 so I think this, this concept here carries through with all of those different 100 00:07:42.439 --> 00:07:46.149 things that we're supposed to provide for our children, but also that we're supposed 101 00:07:46.149 --> 00:07:50.069 to provide for our wives. So we're supposed to provide protection for our wives, 102 00:07:50.110 --> 00:07:54.069 we're supposed to be there for our families. Yeah, and so I'll 103 00:07:54.069 --> 00:07:58.149 say, because God is first, the what God tells us to put first, 104 00:07:58.620 --> 00:08:01.899 we need to put first. Our First Ministry is to our family. 105 00:08:01.980 --> 00:08:05.579 One of the things the Bible says, Mark Eight, verse thirty six. 106 00:08:07.540 --> 00:08:09.699 What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his 107 00:08:09.819 --> 00:08:13.329 own soul? Right, that's that's yeah, Biblical reality. Right. I 108 00:08:13.410 --> 00:08:16.370 would say, though, what does it profit and minister if he or she 109 00:08:18.170 --> 00:08:22.129 gains the whole world but loses their own family? Right? Yeah, you 110 00:08:22.529 --> 00:08:26.329 hear about pastors. I've read about pastors who have poured themselves out. As 111 00:08:26.329 --> 00:08:28.839 a matter of fact, going through this subject and going through the points that 112 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:33.559 you laid out, I read several articles from different pastors that talked about their 113 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:37.279 experiences and neglecting their families and how God dealt with them or what they've seen 114 00:08:37.519 --> 00:08:41.789 other pastors lives, how they neglected their family to go win the world, 115 00:08:41.509 --> 00:08:46.669 and these are tragic stories where these pastors pour themselves out for ministry. They 116 00:08:46.750 --> 00:08:52.309 pour themselves out to minister to their congregations, or build their churches or or 117 00:08:52.389 --> 00:08:56.220 whatever. Yeah, and it goes into the corporate world to where people try 118 00:08:56.259 --> 00:09:00.019 to gain the whole world. They try, they maybe try to win everybody 119 00:09:00.139 --> 00:09:05.259 to Jesus. Are you try to whatever, win that corporate title or whatever 120 00:09:05.340 --> 00:09:07.860 it might be, and you lose your family? You fail. Yeah, 121 00:09:09.259 --> 00:09:11.610 but the balance of work and family is universal. In this case we're talking 122 00:09:11.610 --> 00:09:15.769 about the work being ministry, but it I think it's true of everyone on 123 00:09:15.889 --> 00:09:20.129 earth that that holds down a job and has a family at home that there's 124 00:09:20.169 --> 00:09:22.529 going to be that that struggle, yeah, between making time for your family 125 00:09:22.610 --> 00:09:28.679 and and time for the ministry. Yeah, so, and and you know, 126 00:09:28.759 --> 00:09:33.279 if you're not teaching your family about the word of God, then you 127 00:09:33.399 --> 00:09:39.149 know you've lost your very first ministry that God has commanded. I mean, 128 00:09:39.230 --> 00:09:43.269 think about it. you go out to in our ministry context, it's the 129 00:09:43.350 --> 00:09:46.509 sidewalk out an abortion center and you win souls for Jesus and you see people 130 00:09:48.029 --> 00:09:50.950 getting saved, you see baby saved, and then you come home and just 131 00:09:52.070 --> 00:09:56.019 completely neglect to teach your children the Bible. Yeah, completely neglect to spend 132 00:09:56.059 --> 00:09:58.620 time with them. And yet you're spending time out on the sidewalk. You'R 133 00:09:58.860 --> 00:10:03.779 more people that you don't even know. Right, yeah, Biblical truths that 134 00:10:03.059 --> 00:10:05.779 you've had sown in your heart, and yet you don't. So there's biblical 135 00:10:05.820 --> 00:10:09.850 trees in the hearts of your children. Are you really are you really doing 136 00:10:09.929 --> 00:10:13.610 what God has called you to do? So, yeah, if you have 137 00:10:13.730 --> 00:10:18.529 to neglect your family to minister to other people, then your balance is way 138 00:10:18.570 --> 00:10:22.559 off, right. Sure. Yeah. Yeah, and and one of the 139 00:10:22.679 --> 00:10:30.759 things I think it isn't important to say that is that you should not forego 140 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:37.470 ministry when they are imperfections in your family, because there is no perfect family 141 00:10:39.029 --> 00:10:43.710 and you are not going to perfectly strike this balance. No one will, 142 00:10:43.990 --> 00:10:48.190 outside of Heaven. None of us will perfectly strike that balance. And so 143 00:10:48.909 --> 00:10:54.419 that leads then kind of into our third point. Yeah, right, yeah, 144 00:10:54.860 --> 00:10:58.940 the third point is don't use family struggles as an excuse for an action 145 00:11:00.100 --> 00:11:03.059 in ministry. And we've seen that. Yeah, I've been tempted to be 146 00:11:03.139 --> 00:11:07.450 there myself. Yeah, what can happen? So our first ministry is to 147 00:11:07.529 --> 00:11:11.730 our family. If we have to neglect our family family to do ministry, 148 00:11:11.809 --> 00:11:18.009 Whatever that ministry might be, especially in ministry, as necessary as being out 149 00:11:18.009 --> 00:11:22.600 there as intense as been out, they're on the sidewalk and again, we're 150 00:11:22.600 --> 00:11:24.879 not doing what God has called us to do if we have to neglect our 151 00:11:24.919 --> 00:11:31.200 family for that. However, this is a very important ministry, right. 152 00:11:31.320 --> 00:11:33.950 This is a this is a necessary ministry and we've been called to it. 153 00:11:35.110 --> 00:11:37.870 We've been called to it and we're talking life and death right. So, 154 00:11:39.110 --> 00:11:43.029 just because there's some struggle with little johnny at home because he's not doing his 155 00:11:43.190 --> 00:11:46.259 homework or, you know, whatever it might be, or even misses you, 156 00:11:46.379 --> 00:11:50.139 or maybe missages you because you're not there for, you know, all 157 00:11:50.259 --> 00:11:54.700 the hours that Johnny really wants you there. Again, there's that tension. 158 00:11:54.899 --> 00:11:58.539 It is that there's that tension. I mean, I've had I'll just share 159 00:11:58.620 --> 00:12:03.529 personally that when my oldest daughter was really young, she did softball and she 160 00:12:03.649 --> 00:12:09.649 had softball and I think it was most Saturdays she would have softball games. 161 00:12:09.090 --> 00:12:13.970 At that point I was working a fulltime job doing hardwood floors ry, but 162 00:12:15.129 --> 00:12:18.639 also on Saturdays I would come out and do ministry on the sidewalks and at 163 00:12:18.679 --> 00:12:22.360 that time there was very few Christians out there on the sidewalk, very few 164 00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:26.440 people that were there, and there would be some days where there would be 165 00:12:26.840 --> 00:12:30.830 I don't know, Sixty, seventy people there for an abortion, to kill 166 00:12:30.870 --> 00:12:33.990 their babies, and you would have you we're almost the only person. There 167 00:12:33.029 --> 00:12:37.629 were times when it was just me and another guy. Yeah, there were 168 00:12:37.710 --> 00:12:41.230 times when there were more than a handful of people there and I praise God 169 00:12:41.269 --> 00:12:43.750 for those times, but there were times when it was just me and one 170 00:12:43.789 --> 00:12:46.940 other person. It's like there's these babies are going to die with out a 171 00:12:46.980 --> 00:12:50.299 voice, and there were times in conversation with my wife where I let her 172 00:12:50.299 --> 00:12:54.500 know I've got to be there. I just can't. I can't leave those 173 00:12:54.539 --> 00:12:58.539 babies, but that of without a voice, but I'm going to miss my 174 00:12:58.570 --> 00:13:01.370 daughter's softball game. Yeah, that was tough. That was a tough decision. 175 00:13:03.009 --> 00:13:05.370 Now, there were times when I was able to go and I went 176 00:13:05.529 --> 00:13:09.330 every chance I could get. If I had to leave maybe thirty minutes earlier 177 00:13:09.409 --> 00:13:11.850 than I would normally leave from the sidewalk here to go to a softball game, 178 00:13:11.850 --> 00:13:16.360 I would do it like I wasn't just negligent in that in that way, 179 00:13:16.519 --> 00:13:20.120 but somebody had to give these babies a voice and I made sure that 180 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:22.720 was very intentional about explaining to my daughter why I was doing what I was 181 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:26.360 doing, not trying to guilt trip her and making her feel bad, you 182 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:28.870 know, for from want me they or anything like that, but just explaining 183 00:13:28.950 --> 00:13:33.190 to her while I'm going out there on the sidewalk rather than coming to her 184 00:13:33.230 --> 00:13:35.309 game, and of course, soon as I got home I would ask her 185 00:13:35.549 --> 00:13:39.029 how, when you know, I mean hits, did you get things like 186 00:13:39.149 --> 00:13:41.740 that. I'll be as involved as possible, but I just share that as 187 00:13:41.740 --> 00:13:45.659 a personal experience. Maybe you could fault me for that. Maybe I should 188 00:13:45.659 --> 00:13:48.059 have went to every softball game and shouldn't have went to the sidewalk. I'm 189 00:13:48.259 --> 00:13:52.019 sure people would could fault me either way, but I did the best I 190 00:13:52.179 --> 00:13:56.250 could in conversation with my wife, talking it through with my daughter, to 191 00:13:56.049 --> 00:14:01.169 do what I could to minister and also minister, to my family. And 192 00:14:01.210 --> 00:14:05.210 I think that's a really key, really important point that you talked it over 193 00:14:05.330 --> 00:14:09.159 with everyone involved and so that there was a clear understanding of there's only one 194 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:13.759 of you and there are these very strong competing forces and you were called by 195 00:14:13.840 --> 00:14:20.559 God, got to be out there. So communicate with with everybody, yeah, 196 00:14:20.279 --> 00:14:24.990 people in Ministry and with your family about the that tension and how can 197 00:14:26.190 --> 00:14:28.710 how can you meet the needs. I know when I came on to to 198 00:14:28.870 --> 00:14:33.070 help out with with cities for life, one of the things from the Gecko 199 00:14:33.190 --> 00:14:37.190 that I said was I'm I'm going to be a new grand mom and I 200 00:14:37.389 --> 00:14:45.139 had aging parents and I knew that those family obligations were critical and important and 201 00:14:45.620 --> 00:14:50.820 I voiced the concern immediately and graciously was it. Was Given the time to 202 00:14:50.940 --> 00:14:54.009 go attend to those family needs when I had to, but I did try 203 00:14:54.090 --> 00:14:58.330 to limit it and probably limit it more than if I didn't have a ministry 204 00:14:58.370 --> 00:15:05.809 obligation. So there there is always a tradeoff in a payoff. But we 205 00:15:05.889 --> 00:15:07.320 are all kind of just struggling to do our best. But, and I 206 00:15:07.399 --> 00:15:11.399 think it's useful for us to remember that and to know everybody, everybody shares. 207 00:15:11.440 --> 00:15:16.879 Yeah, this this struggle. Absolutely, but but don't, don't use 208 00:15:16.159 --> 00:15:20.870 the family issue as an excuse. Yeah, and be and I think that 209 00:15:20.950 --> 00:15:28.990 that requires prayerful discernment, does wisdom from others being in the word yeah, 210 00:15:30.070 --> 00:15:33.309 and and knowing when you're using it as as just an excuse to avoid what 211 00:15:33.509 --> 00:15:37.779 is difficult. Yeah, there are certainly times when there's issues in your family, 212 00:15:37.860 --> 00:15:41.100 things that are going on, in times when you need to minister to 213 00:15:41.220 --> 00:15:43.220 your wife, your husband or kids. Yeah, that you can't be out 214 00:15:43.259 --> 00:15:50.009 on the sidewalk, you can't be involved in some capacity. And certainly as 215 00:15:50.049 --> 00:15:52.370 far as we're concerned with our local volunteers here, we understand that. We 216 00:15:52.529 --> 00:15:56.809 never want people to be guilted in to coming out there whatever. We understand 217 00:15:56.809 --> 00:16:00.210 that their first ministries to their family. Yeah, but again you have to 218 00:16:00.289 --> 00:16:03.720 gage it before the Lord whether or not it's becoming an excuse because, listen, 219 00:16:04.320 --> 00:16:08.600 if there's any like, if there's any ministry where you'd want an excuse 220 00:16:08.720 --> 00:16:11.559 and not be out there, to be able to give yourself a pass, 221 00:16:11.559 --> 00:16:15.559 yeah, it'd be this ministry because it can be really intense and be really 222 00:16:15.720 --> 00:16:22.190 heavy, expecially on those cold cold days or those hot hot days or, 223 00:16:22.990 --> 00:16:26.070 you know, with all the struggles that are out there. So it so 224 00:16:26.190 --> 00:16:30.549 be careful of that that you're not using your family as an excuse. But 225 00:16:30.389 --> 00:16:37.860 kind of another counterpoint to that is that, because you see maybe division and 226 00:16:38.299 --> 00:16:45.019 in a family or struggles in a family, it might not be due to 227 00:16:45.139 --> 00:16:49.490 there's a problem with an imbalance with you and ministry. Yeah, it could 228 00:16:49.490 --> 00:16:55.289 be due as something entirely different. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Well, 229 00:16:55.370 --> 00:16:59.450 I mean I've seen situations, and I know you have to with even local 230 00:16:59.490 --> 00:17:04.039 volunteers, where maybe we have a younger volunteer whose parents are not necessarily cool 231 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:07.240 with them being out on the sidewalk. Maybe their pro choice, their pro 232 00:17:07.279 --> 00:17:11.759 abortion people. Yeah, or maybe the flip side. I know we've had 233 00:17:11.920 --> 00:17:15.910 some folks that come out who have children who are older children, maybe in 234 00:17:15.910 --> 00:17:18.910 their twenties or whatever, and have gone the way of the leftists. Yeah, 235 00:17:19.269 --> 00:17:22.710 and they don't like their parents be out there. It's embarrassing for them 236 00:17:22.829 --> 00:17:26.950 for their parents to be out there whatever. Yeah, and so there's some 237 00:17:26.230 --> 00:17:30.900 some tension even with them being out on the sidewalk in their families. And 238 00:17:30.140 --> 00:17:34.059 Yeah, and Jesus talks about that. He says, you suppose this is 239 00:17:34.059 --> 00:17:38.099 Luke, chapter twelve, verse fifty one through fifty three. Do you suppose 240 00:17:38.140 --> 00:17:41.660 that I came to grant peace on earth? I tell you no, but 241 00:17:41.779 --> 00:17:48.930 rather division. From now on, family members in one household will be divided, 242 00:17:48.410 --> 00:17:53.250 three against two and two against three. There will be divided father against 243 00:17:53.289 --> 00:17:57.640 sons, son against father, mother against daughter, daughter against mother, Motherin 244 00:17:57.640 --> 00:18:00.160 law against daughter in law, daughter in law against mother in law. So 245 00:18:00.279 --> 00:18:04.279 there's going to be some division following Jesus is not always easy. As a 246 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:07.279 matter of fact, he said in that previous verse that we read that it's 247 00:18:07.400 --> 00:18:12.430 like taking up across and following him. Yeah, yeah, it's it's crucifixion. 248 00:18:12.509 --> 00:18:17.509 Sometimes it's painful. Yes, painful in your family. It's painful with 249 00:18:17.549 --> 00:18:22.430 the tension that it can cause and with the necessary struggles that you have to 250 00:18:22.549 --> 00:18:26.299 go through to obey the Lord. Yeah, and how do you and what's 251 00:18:26.339 --> 00:18:30.259 your guide there? Well, if God has called you, you certainly should 252 00:18:30.259 --> 00:18:34.980 never be disobeying God because a family member is unhappy, yeah, with what 253 00:18:36.140 --> 00:18:41.690 you're doing. And and so are you following God? Are you listening to 254 00:18:41.849 --> 00:18:45.369 God? Are Are you faithfully doing what he has called you to do? 255 00:18:47.009 --> 00:18:52.650 And if there is struggle and division and your family over that, then that 256 00:18:52.210 --> 00:18:56.960 is what you still need to do. On the other hand, Satan can 257 00:18:57.359 --> 00:19:04.519 be the cause of family struggle and and he, I think often does use 258 00:19:04.640 --> 00:19:11.549 family struggle to prevent effective people from being out doing the ministry. Yeah, 259 00:19:11.589 --> 00:19:14.630 that God has called them to do. Absolutely, the devil's going to try 260 00:19:14.630 --> 00:19:18.710 to get in and so discord and confusion and try to neutralize us as much 261 00:19:18.750 --> 00:19:23.740 as he can. The devil does not want people out on that sidewalk bringing 262 00:19:23.779 --> 00:19:27.420 a voice for those babies and bringing the Gospel to that place of darkness. 263 00:19:27.819 --> 00:19:30.140 And so he's going to try to use all kinds of things. And it 264 00:19:30.220 --> 00:19:34.099 can be division within your family, it can be family struggles, even husband 265 00:19:34.140 --> 00:19:40.930 and wife struggles. I mean being out in ministry like this is it's a 266 00:19:40.970 --> 00:19:44.369 conversation you need to have with your husband. I mean, hopefully. I 267 00:19:44.450 --> 00:19:48.490 don't know of any volunteers currently that we have who's many of them are ladies 268 00:19:48.529 --> 00:19:52.759 whose husbands are in disagreement with what they're doing. I don't think there's any 269 00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:56.559 and I don't know how any could. Yeah, I mean certainly may not 270 00:19:56.680 --> 00:20:03.160 be out there themselves, but to actively disagree with with their spouse, that 271 00:20:03.400 --> 00:20:07.630 would be a very hard path. That would be a tough thing to do 272 00:20:07.829 --> 00:20:10.990 with. And Yeah, and so if that's the situation with a person, 273 00:20:11.109 --> 00:20:14.630 I would say that mean that needs some serious prayer. You still have to 274 00:20:14.750 --> 00:20:17.309 obey the Lord. Let's say, you know, if you're you get a 275 00:20:17.349 --> 00:20:19.950 husband who's not walking with God, who doesn't understand why in the world you 276 00:20:19.990 --> 00:20:23.099 would be out on the sidewalk at an abortion center. I mean that's that's 277 00:20:23.099 --> 00:20:27.099 quite the struggle to have yeah. However, does that necessarily mean that you 278 00:20:27.140 --> 00:20:30.220 shouldn't be out there? I don't think so. No, not if God 279 00:20:30.259 --> 00:20:33.259 has called you to be out there here in obedience to God, I think 280 00:20:33.299 --> 00:20:37.849 that takes precedence over family. Yeah, hard as that is. Yeah, 281 00:20:38.009 --> 00:20:45.089 and and, and I guess being able to figure out is, is this 282 00:20:45.289 --> 00:20:49.680 what God is calling me to do? And if he is, am I 283 00:20:51.079 --> 00:20:52.839 is? Am I doing what I should be doing? Because the Bible is 284 00:20:52.920 --> 00:20:57.119 very clear that we are wives to submit to husband's yeah. Well, but 285 00:20:57.160 --> 00:21:00.720 if your husband is saying don't do this, yeah, don't, becomes that 286 00:21:02.240 --> 00:21:04.990 become well, don't do this, submit to me, yeah, and then 287 00:21:06.069 --> 00:21:11.349 that becomes again this tension of it feels like a conflict in in what God 288 00:21:11.509 --> 00:21:17.869 is is trying to say to you. Do I obey God? Do I 289 00:21:17.910 --> 00:21:22.619 submit to my husband when they are at odds? Yeah, and what do 290 00:21:22.700 --> 00:21:26.019 I do then? And I think that kind of leads to our next point. 291 00:21:26.819 --> 00:21:30.140 That and I know I have felt to the breaking point at times out 292 00:21:30.180 --> 00:21:33.529 here. I think you have. I think all of us have at once 293 00:21:33.690 --> 00:21:37.730 some points, because it's such a difficult ministry. But God will never ask 294 00:21:37.849 --> 00:21:42.049 of you more than you can give. Yeah, you know, and this 295 00:21:42.769 --> 00:21:47.519 kind of ties into something I always want to try to touch on as I'm 296 00:21:47.519 --> 00:21:52.480 dealing with new volunteers, bring a new volunteers out, is that if we're 297 00:21:52.519 --> 00:21:56.720 driven by guilt, oftentimes we will take ourselves beyond what God wants us to 298 00:21:56.759 --> 00:22:02.269 do. And so we really have to check our motivation for ministry because if 299 00:22:02.309 --> 00:22:07.750 guilt is our driver, will know real quickly because we'll stretch ourselves beyond what 300 00:22:07.829 --> 00:22:10.430 we can actually do it. Now, I know you've seen it when you 301 00:22:10.470 --> 00:22:14.430 have a new volunteer come out and they say this is a great ministry, 302 00:22:14.430 --> 00:22:15.180 I need to be involved in this, I'm going to be out here every 303 00:22:15.180 --> 00:22:18.380 day, and we always tell them, hey, put the brakes on for 304 00:22:18.420 --> 00:22:21.460 a second. Yeah, we don't want you out here every day. Right. 305 00:22:21.500 --> 00:22:23.099 We actually one day is good. What? When? When? Is 306 00:22:23.339 --> 00:22:29.500 Good? That's enough, because the spiritual warfare, the play on your mind 307 00:22:29.619 --> 00:22:33.849 and your heart, your emotions of very emotional ministry to watch moms go in 308 00:22:33.930 --> 00:22:36.490 there and kill their children. Know, that's the reality it's having right in 309 00:22:36.529 --> 00:22:40.490 front of your face. Yeah, anyway, the point is when somebody takes 310 00:22:40.569 --> 00:22:45.039 that I appreciate the zeal. Well, somebody takes that kind of mentality that 311 00:22:45.079 --> 00:22:48.400 I'm going to be out here every day. To me it's an indication they're 312 00:22:48.440 --> 00:22:52.119 probably driven by guilt rather than a love for the Lord and they will quickly 313 00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:56.240 burn out and they will go from being filled with zeal to being broken pretty 314 00:22:56.240 --> 00:23:00.630 quickly. I think that that often happens in they're the ones that melt away. 315 00:23:00.950 --> 00:23:06.430 So there's there's a wonderful verse in as Ay of forty two three that 316 00:23:06.509 --> 00:23:11.430 I know is a verse that that you have quoted often. Yeah, and 317 00:23:11.309 --> 00:23:15.500 you want me to read that one? Yeah, a bruised read he will 318 00:23:15.539 --> 00:23:18.579 not break. In a faintly burning wick he will not quench. He will 319 00:23:18.660 --> 00:23:22.940 faithfully bring forth justice. So a bruised read, he will not break. 320 00:23:22.980 --> 00:23:27.809 We can. We can be stretched. God will stretch us out on and 321 00:23:27.970 --> 00:23:30.609 I think that's an important point. We're not saying that. You know, 322 00:23:30.690 --> 00:23:34.730 there's this. It's a biblical mentality. The Lord never puts on you. 323 00:23:34.849 --> 00:23:37.490 You know, the Bible says God it will not allow you to be tempted 324 00:23:37.529 --> 00:23:41.680 beyond what you can bear. Right. That's a biblical reality. And some 325 00:23:41.759 --> 00:23:45.000 people will say God will never put on you more than you can handle. 326 00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:48.960 God will put on You more than you can handle in your own strength, 327 00:23:48.400 --> 00:23:52.599 but he won't put on You more than you can handle in the strength that 328 00:23:52.680 --> 00:23:55.519 he supplies. Right, yeah, yeah, one of the things I say 329 00:23:55.640 --> 00:23:59.789 that God is not an Egyptian task master telling us to make bricks without Straw. 330 00:23:59.789 --> 00:24:02.910 All right, you know the story in Moses time, the Egyptian task 331 00:24:02.990 --> 00:24:06.829 masters told the children of Israel and make bricks without Straw's impossible, like you 332 00:24:06.869 --> 00:24:10.700 can do that? Yeah, and so God's not asking you to do that. 333 00:24:10.859 --> 00:24:14.299 God's not asking you to come out on the sidewalk every day of the 334 00:24:14.420 --> 00:24:18.339 week because of some wonderful thing that you have in yourself. I mean, 335 00:24:18.380 --> 00:24:21.859 first of all, we have to put ourselves in our place. We're not 336 00:24:21.980 --> 00:24:25.289 that wonderful, right. We need a race of God. The case at 337 00:24:25.329 --> 00:24:27.089 Lea, it's outside is the Lord. We're not wonderful at all. Yeah. 338 00:24:29.369 --> 00:24:32.009 Now, God's grace is on you if you're a Christian and God's Word 339 00:24:32.130 --> 00:24:34.009 is in you, right, and you want to bring his word to that 340 00:24:34.170 --> 00:24:40.839 place of death and destruction. But the point here is that we oftentimes can 341 00:24:40.920 --> 00:24:45.400 put things on ourselves, or other people can put things on us that make 342 00:24:45.480 --> 00:24:48.559 us feel like we should go beyond what God's really called us to. So 343 00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:51.000 if you're out there on the sidewalk, you know, let's say, like 344 00:24:51.160 --> 00:24:53.470 many of our volunteers, you're a homeschool mom and you're trying to teach your 345 00:24:53.470 --> 00:24:57.750 kids and you want to teach them effectively and you want to teach them all 346 00:24:57.789 --> 00:25:00.990 the things that they need to know. And yet you're going to be out 347 00:25:00.990 --> 00:25:04.029 on the sidewalk because you're driven by guilt, five days a week. How 348 00:25:04.069 --> 00:25:07.339 are you going to do that? You know, you putting more on yourself 349 00:25:07.500 --> 00:25:11.140 than God's actually put on your first ministry to your family. Do that and 350 00:25:11.299 --> 00:25:14.299 then, like one of our volunteers, she brings her kids out on the 351 00:25:14.380 --> 00:25:17.299 sidewalk with it right. Yeah, and they serve together. She does that 352 00:25:17.619 --> 00:25:21.339 really faithfully. Well, so week it's something she can do. I think 353 00:25:21.420 --> 00:25:25.890 what she's doing is actually a good example of being stretched by God, because 354 00:25:26.009 --> 00:25:30.329 it is not easy being out there with three young children on a street where 355 00:25:30.450 --> 00:25:37.680 traffic is so so she's stretched, but she she keeps it to a reasonable 356 00:25:37.720 --> 00:25:40.960 amount of time so that she is not broken, it does not become too 357 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:44.799 much. She can still minister to her family. But I think we kind 358 00:25:44.839 --> 00:25:49.230 of blended into check check your motivation? Yeah, absolutely, because if guilt 359 00:25:49.390 --> 00:25:52.950 is what's motivating you, then you will be broken. Eventually, you will 360 00:25:52.950 --> 00:25:56.829 be broken. You will not want to be out there anymore because it does 361 00:25:56.910 --> 00:26:00.670 not sustain yeah. So what is our motivation? We our motivation first and 362 00:26:00.750 --> 00:26:03.500 foremost should be a love for God. Yeah, that's God to be our 363 00:26:03.500 --> 00:26:08.220 driving motivation and we hit that that point home with our sidewalk missionaries, we 364 00:26:08.259 --> 00:26:12.460 hit that point home with our sidewalk volunteers, we hit that point home with 365 00:26:12.579 --> 00:26:17.099 ourselves. Right, we've got to be driven by love for God, and 366 00:26:17.140 --> 00:26:19.690 that's why I think we did a podcast some months ago, maybe even the 367 00:26:19.730 --> 00:26:25.170 beginning of doing podcasts, where we talked about this dynamic, that we can't 368 00:26:25.170 --> 00:26:29.529 be driven by hatred for abortion, we can't be driven by hatred for plan 369 00:26:29.650 --> 00:26:33.759 parenthood, we can't be driven our motivation cannot be the horror of abortion. 370 00:26:33.200 --> 00:26:37.480 It has to be the glory of Jesus, has to be our love for 371 00:26:37.559 --> 00:26:41.400 him. Out of that flows our love for our neighbors who we can't even 372 00:26:41.440 --> 00:26:45.240 be driven by our love for our neighbor, for these babies and for these 373 00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:48.670 MOMS, we have to be driven first and foremost by love for God and 374 00:26:48.789 --> 00:26:52.349 it keeps things in their proper order. Yeah, and when you're saying you 375 00:26:52.430 --> 00:26:55.829 can't be driven them by guilt in ministry, I think that is true. 376 00:26:55.869 --> 00:26:59.390 Also, you can't be driven, for spending time with your family, by 377 00:26:59.430 --> 00:27:03.059 guilty either. And again that sets up tension, because I think guilt does 378 00:27:03.220 --> 00:27:08.460 come as we feel like I should be spending more time with with my answer 379 00:27:08.579 --> 00:27:14.059 or husbander's or wife or whatever. So, but but the same principle applies. 380 00:27:14.380 --> 00:27:18.369 Guilt is not what should be your motivator in your time with God or 381 00:27:18.450 --> 00:27:21.450 in your time with family or in your time with ministry. It should be 382 00:27:21.769 --> 00:27:26.009 an outflowing of love. I will say, because I'm not one to say 383 00:27:26.769 --> 00:27:30.559 I know modern Christians kind of say this sort of thing, that guilt is 384 00:27:30.599 --> 00:27:33.400 a bad thing, guilt is such a good thing and that the guilt should 385 00:27:33.400 --> 00:27:37.000 never be employed or whatever. I'm not want to agree with that. Yeah, 386 00:27:37.119 --> 00:27:41.400 I will say, and you can disagree me with me if you want 387 00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:45.509 to, but I think you'll agree that guilt can be a good initial motivate. 388 00:27:45.670 --> 00:27:47.670 Can get you out there, it can get you out on the Sune, 389 00:27:47.750 --> 00:27:51.309 get you beyond your comfort zone. Yeah, to start with, when 390 00:27:51.349 --> 00:27:55.430 I think you stain you. Yeah, it's maybe a good initial motivator, 391 00:27:55.470 --> 00:28:00.019 yeah, but it's a horrible sustainer. Guilt cannot sustain you. If you're 392 00:28:00.099 --> 00:28:03.339 sustained by guilt in any ministry that you're involved in, but especially this ministry, 393 00:28:03.819 --> 00:28:07.180 then you're going to crash and burn. Yeah, you're either going to 394 00:28:07.220 --> 00:28:11.019 go completely off the rails and go berserk or just going to be completely neutralized. 395 00:28:11.099 --> 00:28:14.369 Guilt cannot sustain you. So it might get you out there and listen 396 00:28:14.529 --> 00:28:18.730 the reality that we've murdered sixty five million of our own children in the womb 397 00:28:18.769 --> 00:28:22.410 in the United States of America and the Church of Jesus Christ had been largely 398 00:28:22.450 --> 00:28:27.359 checked out on this issue for the past forty what, almost five years? 399 00:28:27.440 --> 00:28:32.359 Forty five years or so. Yeah, that should make us feel guilty. 400 00:28:32.400 --> 00:28:36.960 Pastors should be guilty for not should feel guilty for not saying something about the 401 00:28:37.079 --> 00:28:41.710 issue of abortion. But that guilt should lead to action and that guilt should 402 00:28:41.710 --> 00:28:45.910 not be what we take as our sustain or it should be maybe an initial 403 00:28:45.950 --> 00:28:52.509 motivator, but our sustaining power, are sustaining focus should be a love for 404 00:28:52.589 --> 00:28:55.309 God. Yeah, and it's also to me, when I was saying guilty 405 00:28:55.430 --> 00:28:59.500 is good. I do believe that guilty is God's method of getting our attention 406 00:28:59.819 --> 00:29:03.619 and saying something's wrong here and you need to do something about it. And 407 00:29:03.700 --> 00:29:07.460 and so guilt can be very useful if you pay attention to those feelings of 408 00:29:07.539 --> 00:29:11.089 guilt and if there's something you can rectify, you better. Yeah, but 409 00:29:11.890 --> 00:29:18.089 but don't let it be what what keeps you continuing on in any ministry, 410 00:29:18.170 --> 00:29:22.009 for family or for God. So check your motivation. Check your motivation for 411 00:29:22.329 --> 00:29:26.240 for ministry. Yeah, this, this next point actually was a point that 412 00:29:26.640 --> 00:29:30.400 you had voiced, I guess, probably when I first asked you to come 413 00:29:30.519 --> 00:29:34.960 on with cities for life and kind of a full time capacity. Yeah, 414 00:29:36.119 --> 00:29:38.789 you talked about some boundaries, right, and setting boundaries, and one of 415 00:29:38.789 --> 00:29:41.710 the things you told me is, and tell me, correct me if I'm 416 00:29:41.750 --> 00:29:45.990 wrong with this, but you said I'm just a boundary upset with me and 417 00:29:45.069 --> 00:29:48.029 my husband and my family, is that if a mom needs a place to 418 00:29:48.069 --> 00:29:52.859 stay, we cannot have them living at our house. Yeah, we can't 419 00:29:52.900 --> 00:29:56.220 do that, because I know that I can't. I can't do it now. 420 00:29:56.259 --> 00:29:57.940 Other people may be able to. Yeah, but you a again, 421 00:29:57.980 --> 00:30:02.140 correct me if I'm wrong, if I'm speaking for you, but I can't 422 00:30:02.180 --> 00:30:04.779 do what I'm doing out here on the sidewalk and be able to minister to 423 00:30:04.859 --> 00:30:10.769 these women effectively in my home. Yeah, I need kind of myspaceet. 424 00:30:10.890 --> 00:30:15.609 I reeded, a place where I knew I could let it all go and 425 00:30:15.970 --> 00:30:21.289 and that without that I would literally lose my mind. I knew that. 426 00:30:21.680 --> 00:30:25.279 Yeah, that was never an issue. I said other boundaries to I said 427 00:30:25.319 --> 00:30:30.079 I would never do Saturdays. Yeah, I let that boundary go. But 428 00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:33.559 but other I mean there are physical boundaries, as you know. As I 429 00:30:33.640 --> 00:30:38.309 get older, there there are definitely things I can't do that I could do 430 00:30:38.509 --> 00:30:42.190 when I was younger, physical things, just like lifting the speaker. Yeah, 431 00:30:42.190 --> 00:30:47.710 I just can't do it. And that is part of our our ministry, 432 00:30:47.869 --> 00:30:49.740 and someone has to do it and if I don't, someone else does 433 00:30:49.940 --> 00:30:53.180 have to do it. Yeah, and that could cause guilt. But I 434 00:30:53.339 --> 00:30:56.980 thought that's why it was this was such important point to make. There is 435 00:30:57.220 --> 00:31:02.700 reality, yes, Andy, and you need to know your boundaries and your 436 00:31:02.819 --> 00:31:07.369 limitations and you need to be open about them and not be fearful that they 437 00:31:07.450 --> 00:31:11.569 will not be received. The the of course, the last place where you 438 00:31:11.609 --> 00:31:17.049 should be fearful that that your realistic boundaries would not be received in a it's 439 00:31:17.170 --> 00:31:21.920 in a Christian ministry. You would hope that people would be understanding and receptive 440 00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:26.279 to so. But I think it is very important as soon as you're becoming 441 00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:30.319 involved in ministry, set those boundaries, tell whoever you're being involved with, 442 00:31:30.480 --> 00:31:34.829 whoever you're over serious whatever, that this is what I can do and these 443 00:31:34.869 --> 00:31:38.750 are some things I just really cannot and I think that does play into what 444 00:31:38.829 --> 00:31:42.549 we talked about just a few minutes ago and the amount of days that you 445 00:31:42.589 --> 00:31:45.509 can actually come out, because I know that, if you know, if 446 00:31:45.549 --> 00:31:49.059 I had somebody, we've got a couple of volunteers that come out multiple days. 447 00:31:49.099 --> 00:31:52.779 Yeah, and I don't tell them not to. They seem to be 448 00:31:53.619 --> 00:31:56.740 doing pretty well coming out like they do, and I don't see them being 449 00:31:56.859 --> 00:32:01.410 spent physically, emotionally or mentally or whatever, and they seem to be doing 450 00:32:01.450 --> 00:32:05.089 well. So I'm not going to tell him to stop doing that. Right, 451 00:32:05.490 --> 00:32:07.210 but I know in ministry, when you got people that are willing, 452 00:32:07.329 --> 00:32:10.849 it's like, if you're willing, I'll well you share, put your feet 453 00:32:10.890 --> 00:32:15.250 out there on the sidewalk, and so you've got to even set those boundaries 454 00:32:15.289 --> 00:32:19.079 in your mind and you're coming out in volunteering or you're coming out into ministry 455 00:32:19.119 --> 00:32:21.880 and some kind of full time capacity, you've got set those boundaries in your 456 00:32:21.880 --> 00:32:24.640 mind, talk about it with your wife or your husband and then make sure 457 00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:29.359 that those are voiced right up front with the leadership of the ministry. Yeah, 458 00:32:29.480 --> 00:32:31.269 I can only do one day a week. I know that it might 459 00:32:31.309 --> 00:32:36.349 seem, I mean, especially if you're a retired person or whatever, it 460 00:32:36.750 --> 00:32:38.990 might seem to have all this like have all this extra time on my hands 461 00:32:39.029 --> 00:32:43.190 and maybe I should be out here more than I then then I am, 462 00:32:43.750 --> 00:32:45.819 but this is as far as I'm able to go right now, and so 463 00:32:46.019 --> 00:32:50.180 just setting that as an expectation right off, right off the bat, I 464 00:32:50.220 --> 00:32:52.779 think, is hell. Yeah, I think or two and and when I 465 00:32:52.859 --> 00:32:55.099 mentioned this Saturday thing, I actually mentioned that for a reason. Well, 466 00:32:55.700 --> 00:33:00.569 later on I discovered, you know, Saturdays are not as bad as I 467 00:33:00.769 --> 00:33:06.490 thought and I actually have come to again with some boundaries on how much time 468 00:33:06.490 --> 00:33:09.210 I'm out there on Saturdays. Now I do do Saturday's Saturday. So setting 469 00:33:09.250 --> 00:33:15.759 boundaries from the beginning doesn't mean that those boundaries might not shift or change sure 470 00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:19.559 down the road. And you know, give yourself license to do so, 471 00:33:19.759 --> 00:33:22.319 but it helps from the get go if there are actual limitations, that those 472 00:33:22.400 --> 00:33:25.880 have been said. One know, one of the things you talking about Saturdays, 473 00:33:27.150 --> 00:33:30.990 on Saturday mornings. One of the things that make Saturday's difficult is the 474 00:33:30.029 --> 00:33:34.309 fact that our teams get out there so early. It's so cold. Yeah, 475 00:33:34.589 --> 00:33:37.630 I get out there on Saturday mornings about forty five to try to get 476 00:33:37.670 --> 00:33:42.619 set up. The birds aren't even yeah right, the abortion clinic opens at 477 00:33:42.700 --> 00:33:45.940 seven on Saturdays. So it's cold. And for you that's just one of 478 00:33:45.980 --> 00:33:51.140 those physical limitations that you have. Cold weather doesn't work so well in your 479 00:33:51.619 --> 00:33:55.569 in your circumstance. Yeah, the we your body operates. I guess some 480 00:33:55.769 --> 00:34:00.329 excuse that you make there, I'm sure. Well, also, it's five 481 00:34:00.410 --> 00:34:05.289 hours. That that's the other thing is the the seven o'clock people. At 482 00:34:05.329 --> 00:34:08.250 least you and I are there for at least five hours, sometimes six. 483 00:34:08.369 --> 00:34:14.760 That's a long time to be in the cold and and but you know, 484 00:34:14.920 --> 00:34:17.519 sometimes it's okay, sometimes it's okay and I've learned that. Okay, this 485 00:34:17.599 --> 00:34:21.800 is a boundary I can bend a little, not not regularly, but I 486 00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:27.070 can bend it a little. So so learning to say no and being comfortable 487 00:34:27.110 --> 00:34:31.429 saying no and that that falls on leadership to yea that have have we made 488 00:34:31.590 --> 00:34:37.389 our volunteers feel that they can say, I just can't do that. And 489 00:34:38.539 --> 00:34:43.820 as as a volunteer, and now I'm in a leadership position, but I 490 00:34:44.500 --> 00:34:49.780 have been and still am a volunteer for for quite some time and I know 491 00:34:49.900 --> 00:34:54.210 I never, I was never put on a guilt trip or all I ever 492 00:34:54.369 --> 00:34:59.769 heard from people in charge, which was you, basically was okay, that's 493 00:34:59.769 --> 00:35:04.250 fine, thanks for letting me know. And so that made it easier to 494 00:35:04.289 --> 00:35:08.199 say no when I had to say no. So, but then the counterpoint 495 00:35:08.239 --> 00:35:13.639 to that, if God is urging you say yes. Yeah. Learned to 496 00:35:13.719 --> 00:35:16.480 say yes to and don't let fear, I think, is usually the main 497 00:35:16.599 --> 00:35:22.989 reason in our ministry when people don't say yes, is they're afraid of what 498 00:35:22.150 --> 00:35:28.230 that will entail. Sure. So, if God's telling you to, then 499 00:35:28.510 --> 00:35:32.829 learn to say yes. Yeah. So our next one. So the next 500 00:35:32.909 --> 00:35:39.420 point is to be intentional about reserving time for family. Yeah, and because 501 00:35:39.420 --> 00:35:45.099 we're talking about balancing family and ministry, and then again we're dealing with an 502 00:35:45.099 --> 00:35:51.050 intense ministry, there is the ability, I know, just for me coming 503 00:35:51.090 --> 00:35:55.090 home from ministring out on the sidewalk. On Saturdays, especially in Saturdays, 504 00:35:55.369 --> 00:35:59.530 are the days that most people spend time with their family in particular. You 505 00:35:59.610 --> 00:36:01.489 know, you're working during the week or whatever. It's easy for me just 506 00:36:01.610 --> 00:36:05.280 to come and lay on the couch and check out, and I actually do 507 00:36:05.400 --> 00:36:09.000 do that a lot. However, there are times when I just need to 508 00:36:09.079 --> 00:36:13.920 spend time with my family. There are times when one of my son's, 509 00:36:13.960 --> 00:36:17.119 my youngest son, actually wants to come up to me and play with Legos 510 00:36:17.199 --> 00:36:21.550 and I really don't want to, but I make myself do it. Your 511 00:36:21.789 --> 00:36:25.349 prime activity and I'm so worn out and engage in my mind and something other 512 00:36:25.429 --> 00:36:30.789 than just taking a nap or whatever, just mindless. Is Really, really 513 00:36:30.829 --> 00:36:34.860 hard, but I try to be intentional about doing that. Yeah, but 514 00:36:35.019 --> 00:36:37.820 not even that. I mean lengthy time with your family, taking a vacation, 515 00:36:37.860 --> 00:36:43.340 spending some time away from ministry can be very important. Jesus did that 516 00:36:43.659 --> 00:36:47.090 himself. Yeah, in Mark Chapter One, I think in Luke Chapter Five, 517 00:36:47.130 --> 00:36:51.730 it talks about the same thing. And this is Mark Chapter One. 518 00:36:51.809 --> 00:36:54.409 This is right after like a boatload of people were coming to Jesus want to 519 00:36:54.489 --> 00:36:59.650 be healed, demons cast out, all this. So he has ministry opportunities, 520 00:36:59.730 --> 00:37:02.880 right, he's got people knocking at the door to come and or for 521 00:37:04.519 --> 00:37:07.679 him to do ministry to them, to Minister to their needs. And he 522 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:10.079 always did. I mean he always did. He always had a ministry need. 523 00:37:10.599 --> 00:37:15.949 Yeah, so it says it in in the early morning, while it 524 00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:19.389 was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went away to 525 00:37:19.469 --> 00:37:22.150 a secluded place and was praying there. Now, you might ask, what 526 00:37:22.269 --> 00:37:25.710 does this have to do with family? Well, Jesus didn't have a wife 527 00:37:27.230 --> 00:37:30.260 and kids, but he did have his heavenly father. That's the relationship that 528 00:37:30.340 --> 00:37:35.739 he was cultivating, his closest relationship. Your closest relationships should be with your 529 00:37:35.780 --> 00:37:38.619 family. And so he goes alone, even in the midst of ministry needs. 530 00:37:39.460 --> 00:37:43.500 So again we're talking about balance. Even in the midst of ministry needs, 531 00:37:43.980 --> 00:37:46.329 Jesus slipped away, yeah, and spent time with his heavenly father. 532 00:37:46.369 --> 00:37:50.570 Yeah, and it seems like it was the regular pattern. Right, Jesus, 533 00:37:50.730 --> 00:37:57.090 and I think a very important point here is the word intentional and thinking 534 00:37:57.650 --> 00:38:00.960 being intentional. Will Look at look at in that verse. In the early 535 00:38:01.199 --> 00:38:06.159 morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up. You know, 536 00:38:06.320 --> 00:38:07.960 Jesus had to be tired, I assume. I don't know if God got 537 00:38:08.079 --> 00:38:12.559 tired, but I was good. I mean he was human God and he's 538 00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:15.989 got a human form. So you know he's been tired. He's been ministering 539 00:38:15.190 --> 00:38:20.590 to the multitude, and yet it was in the early morning, while it 540 00:38:20.710 --> 00:38:23.110 was still dark. When he gets up to pray to his heavenly father, 541 00:38:23.150 --> 00:38:30.659 he intentionally sacrifice sleep time, yea, in order to spend time with his 542 00:38:30.860 --> 00:38:34.500 father. So, in this case, to spend you could really look at 543 00:38:34.500 --> 00:38:37.099 this both ways, in order to spend time with his family and in order 544 00:38:37.139 --> 00:38:40.650 to spend time with his ministry, because they were really in Jesus's case. 545 00:38:40.929 --> 00:38:45.769 Yeah, kind of one in the same. But I know that for me 546 00:38:45.090 --> 00:38:52.170 to be able to do all I need to do to prepare spiritually and physically 547 00:38:52.250 --> 00:38:54.409 to be out on the SIDEBOOK, I have to get up while it's still 548 00:38:54.409 --> 00:38:59.079 dark. I get up at five, and I didn't used to, but 549 00:38:59.159 --> 00:39:01.519 I do now. I get up all the time out even now, even 550 00:39:01.519 --> 00:39:06.639 when I'm not going to be out here, and so I'm very intentional, 551 00:39:07.320 --> 00:39:10.710 not so that I've time for my family, but so that I've time for 552 00:39:10.949 --> 00:39:15.750 ministry that later on these things I'm doing in the morning I won't have to 553 00:39:15.869 --> 00:39:19.909 be doing later in the day, yeah, when I could be spending time 554 00:39:19.989 --> 00:39:24.500 with my family. So I think it's it is important to schedule time to 555 00:39:24.739 --> 00:39:29.460 really do management. Isn't bored. Yes, and if you are not intentional 556 00:39:29.860 --> 00:39:37.460 in your scheduling of time with family and with ministry, it will invariably be 557 00:39:37.780 --> 00:39:42.889 encroached to pop yeah, absolutely so. I love checklist. checklists are the 558 00:39:43.010 --> 00:39:46.730 way that I remain intentional. Yeah, and the checks of my time. 559 00:39:46.969 --> 00:39:51.010 Doesn't it help? It does help. Yeah, helps you prioritize things, 560 00:39:51.090 --> 00:39:52.320 it helps you to take care of those things that need to be taken care 561 00:39:52.360 --> 00:39:55.360 of and put off those things that don't. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, 562 00:39:55.400 --> 00:39:59.880 it tick lists or helpful, but the intentionality, like you're talking about with 563 00:40:00.079 --> 00:40:02.559 family, yeah, is important. It's not the motivation of the check mark 564 00:40:02.639 --> 00:40:07.550 in the box. It's the motivation of I have just made time, I 565 00:40:07.989 --> 00:40:13.150 have made intentional time, yeah, available for for what really matters. Yeah, 566 00:40:13.269 --> 00:40:17.670 absolutely so. The our next point is that ministry often can complement family. 567 00:40:17.710 --> 00:40:22.539 We've kind of talked about about mostly up into this point. That guish 568 00:40:22.619 --> 00:40:28.940 ministry takes away from family, but that certainly is not always the case and 569 00:40:29.420 --> 00:40:32.699 and in some cases there's fan whole families that do ministry together. Yeah, 570 00:40:32.940 --> 00:40:37.130 yeah, absolutely. I mean I believe that this ministry, the ministry on 571 00:40:37.210 --> 00:40:39.969 the sidewalk out an abortion center, as crazy it might sound, as it 572 00:40:40.010 --> 00:40:45.210 might sound as some of you guys, is actually an opportunity for family discipleship. 573 00:40:45.250 --> 00:40:49.809 Yeah, you know, we talk about with our kids that we should 574 00:40:49.969 --> 00:40:52.239 love our neighbor as ourselves. We should love God love our neighbor. We 575 00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:55.719 talked about the issue of abortion and how terrible it is that lives are being 576 00:40:55.800 --> 00:41:00.199 destroyed through abortion. And then our kids know that abortions are taken place. 577 00:41:00.519 --> 00:41:05.230 And yet, as Christians, if we're not doing anything about it, we're 578 00:41:05.309 --> 00:41:07.550 really given a mixed message to our kids. So if we bring our kids 579 00:41:07.590 --> 00:41:10.789 out to an abortion center, I know I met a couple of weeks ago, 580 00:41:10.869 --> 00:41:14.030 and I'm not sure if you were out there was on a Saturday, 581 00:41:14.230 --> 00:41:16.869 this wonderful family that came along. I think they had five kids or so, 582 00:41:17.389 --> 00:41:22.019 and they brought their kids out. They saw in social media what's happening 583 00:41:22.059 --> 00:41:25.300 out there, what our ministry is doing out there, even the prayer walks 584 00:41:25.340 --> 00:41:28.460 and all of that, and they wanted to bring their kids out and their 585 00:41:28.500 --> 00:41:34.210 daughter has actually a burden to even volunteer out there now. So families like 586 00:41:34.329 --> 00:41:39.250 that bless me because they're using that this ministry is an opportunity to disciple their 587 00:41:39.289 --> 00:41:43.289 kids. And my family we do the same thing. We bring our kids 588 00:41:43.289 --> 00:41:45.730 out on a regular basis. Recently we have not in the past couple of 589 00:41:45.769 --> 00:41:50.480 months. With covid and with our crazy pro abortion friends that we've can head 590 00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:52.280 out there. Lately we've not brought our kids out, but I plan to 591 00:41:52.320 --> 00:41:57.679 bring them back out. It's a regular part of ministry in our family. 592 00:41:58.239 --> 00:42:00.789 It's my wife actually ministers on the sidewalk as well. She's one of the 593 00:42:00.829 --> 00:42:06.030 nurses on the mobiultra sound unit. Yeah, but my kids have come out 594 00:42:06.110 --> 00:42:09.789 and held signs, even handed out literature. They've done other things in ministry. 595 00:42:09.789 --> 00:42:13.989 They've helped out even here in the office with certain things. Yeah, 596 00:42:14.070 --> 00:42:16.860 and they help put together some of our literature. So as a family we 597 00:42:16.980 --> 00:42:21.219 can disciple our kids. As parents, as MOMS and dad's, we can 598 00:42:21.260 --> 00:42:23.500 disciple our kids, but bring them that on the sidewalk are involving them in 599 00:42:23.579 --> 00:42:27.820 some kind of pro life ministry to help them grow in their walk with the 600 00:42:27.900 --> 00:42:30.329 Lord. Yeah, you're living the Gospel with them and and the wonderful thing 601 00:42:30.489 --> 00:42:36.010 is they that removes a little bit of that tension of family time versus ministry 602 00:42:36.090 --> 00:42:39.690 time, because it's both all and one. Absolutely so you and and it 603 00:42:39.809 --> 00:42:45.400 can. I think I have seen many large families like yours, the mets 604 00:42:45.440 --> 00:42:50.480 kers come to mind, that do minister as a family out at the abortion 605 00:42:50.639 --> 00:42:58.320 center and it seems to be a bonding element for those families. It's something 606 00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:02.789 that they all gather around and believe in and it unifies. It's a joint 607 00:43:02.829 --> 00:43:09.989 family purpose before God. So I think it's a really wonderful dynamic when that 608 00:43:10.070 --> 00:43:15.300 happens. It doesn't happen with all families. Sure I think you're really blessed 609 00:43:15.460 --> 00:43:20.739 that it's true of yours and I'm we don't want to make families where that's 610 00:43:20.780 --> 00:43:22.659 not the case feel bad. Yeah, I mean I think that's something that 611 00:43:22.900 --> 00:43:27.449 before the Lord, that a husband and wife need to decide. I know 612 00:43:27.570 --> 00:43:30.449 there are people who they don't want to bring their kids out and have them 613 00:43:30.449 --> 00:43:34.210 exposed to the craziness that happens on the sidewalk right. I don't get them 614 00:43:34.329 --> 00:43:37.050 for that. Yeah, I don't fault them for that. You know your 615 00:43:37.130 --> 00:43:39.449 kids better than I do. You know your family dynamic better than I do. 616 00:43:40.010 --> 00:43:44.480 I do think it's a good opportunity for family discipleship, but maybe some 617 00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:47.880 families just aren't there, like they just don't see that fitting into their their 618 00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:52.159 dynamic and and all of that. So, you know, bying, no 619 00:43:52.320 --> 00:43:57.949 condemnation as far as that's concerned, but I do do encourage people to of 620 00:43:58.070 --> 00:44:00.710 course, step beyond your comfort zone. We're not called to live in our 621 00:44:00.750 --> 00:44:04.389 comfort zone. We're called to live in obedience to the Lord. So if 622 00:44:04.389 --> 00:44:07.670 it's just a comfort zone thing, I would say that would be something I 623 00:44:07.750 --> 00:44:10.139 would check my heart about. Right, because this is a good opportunity for 624 00:44:10.860 --> 00:44:17.539 for family ministry and for discipleship. And I know many youngsters in a pro 625 00:44:17.739 --> 00:44:22.139 life family that all common minister together can't wait to be out here. Yeah, 626 00:44:22.380 --> 00:44:27.690 so they see the importance, they see things that they really are drawn 627 00:44:27.849 --> 00:44:32.849 to in ministry and I think it's such a wonderful way to have a child 628 00:44:32.969 --> 00:44:37.090 grow up in the Lord. Yeah, for for some families, like you 629 00:44:37.210 --> 00:44:40.079 said, not for all. Yeah. So there's a scripture and you guys 630 00:44:40.159 --> 00:44:45.079 listen probably know this scripture about Heart Deuteronomy, chapter six, versus six and 631 00:44:45.159 --> 00:44:49.599 seven, and this is the Lord's command to the children of Israel to teach 632 00:44:51.079 --> 00:44:54.630 the men in particular, to teach their children the ways of God and the 633 00:44:54.670 --> 00:44:59.710 Law of God, and says these words, which I shall command you today, 634 00:44:59.750 --> 00:45:01.190 or which I'm commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You 635 00:45:01.269 --> 00:45:06.150 shall teach them diligently to your sons and you shall talk of them when you 636 00:45:06.269 --> 00:45:08.179 sit in your house and when you walk by the way, when you lie 637 00:45:08.219 --> 00:45:12.860 down and when you rise up. So basically, wherever you're gone, you're 638 00:45:12.860 --> 00:45:15.539 supposed to be teaching the word of God. So, whether you take your 639 00:45:15.539 --> 00:45:19.820 kids away and you're intentional about having some time away with family, still need 640 00:45:19.860 --> 00:45:22.610 to be teaching your kids the word of God. Right you're sitting at the 641 00:45:22.849 --> 00:45:24.650 dinner table, still need to be teaching your kids the word of God. 642 00:45:24.730 --> 00:45:28.690 When you take him out to the abortion mill, you should be teaching them 643 00:45:28.730 --> 00:45:31.010 the word of God. And these are different yeah, these are different scenarios 644 00:45:31.050 --> 00:45:36.320 in which you can teach different facets of God's Word and God's truths. Amen. 645 00:45:36.719 --> 00:45:38.000 So the last one, ten, I don't know if you've been keeping 646 00:45:38.079 --> 00:45:42.840 count. Yes, it's number ten. Is like ten, good round number. 647 00:45:42.880 --> 00:45:47.920 Yeah, it is so. So don't take responsibility for what you cannot 648 00:45:49.119 --> 00:45:52.989 control, and that, I think, eliminates a lot of the stress of 649 00:45:53.150 --> 00:45:58.150 ministry and of family. There are things you just really have to let go 650 00:45:58.230 --> 00:46:02.030 of because she can't control them. There are sometimes so many hours you're going 651 00:46:02.070 --> 00:46:09.699 to be happying to put towards ministry and there are often limitations and how much 652 00:46:09.739 --> 00:46:13.980 time you can spend with your family. Yeah, so you control which can 653 00:46:14.980 --> 00:46:19.369 and the others you give to God. Yeah. Yeah, and I'll say 654 00:46:19.409 --> 00:46:22.730 this too, as far as in light of family struggles and all of that 655 00:46:22.849 --> 00:46:25.889 other stuff, because I know there are some fathers and some some mothers who 656 00:46:27.210 --> 00:46:30.010 have kids maybe that have gone astray. Yeah, maybe they're not walking with 657 00:46:30.090 --> 00:46:34.840 the Lord and you might feel like well, if I can't, like I 658 00:46:34.920 --> 00:46:37.239 said earlier, if you if you lose your kids, what does it? 659 00:46:37.519 --> 00:46:39.960 Does it matter if you gain the whole world and lose your family? Right, 660 00:46:40.039 --> 00:46:43.599 so, maybe you're in that state and that hit you a little hard 661 00:46:43.639 --> 00:46:45.039 and you're like, well, my kids aren't walking with the Lord and so 662 00:46:45.199 --> 00:46:49.829 therefore I'm I'm like worthless. No, I'm not saying that and I'm not 663 00:46:50.070 --> 00:46:53.789 trying to with that statement, trying to to let the enemy use God's word 664 00:46:53.869 --> 00:46:58.630 to neutralize you. Because you need to pour in your kids, you need 665 00:46:58.670 --> 00:47:01.539 to do everything you can to bring your kids, bring your family to the 666 00:47:01.699 --> 00:47:06.820 Lord, but you don't have control over their hearts. Like, I know 667 00:47:07.099 --> 00:47:09.940 good families. I know families who poured into their kids. They did everything 668 00:47:09.980 --> 00:47:14.940 they possibly could to pour in their kids and their kids went astray. MMM, 669 00:47:15.730 --> 00:47:17.610 and I'm not going to say just because your kids went astray, you 670 00:47:17.650 --> 00:47:21.489 can't be out on the sidewalk. To me, that's just not right. 671 00:47:21.530 --> 00:47:27.969 I don't think it's biblical either. So you don't take responsibility for things that 672 00:47:28.090 --> 00:47:30.840 you can't control. If you're a horrible parent, okay, that's one thing, 673 00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:34.719 but if you did everything you could within your ability to bring your kids 674 00:47:34.760 --> 00:47:37.760 to the Lord, that doesn't disqualify you for ministry. I mean, think 675 00:47:37.800 --> 00:47:42.360 about it. God himself the best father of all. I was just going 676 00:47:42.400 --> 00:47:45.989 to bring this up, the best father of all. Yeah, Lost Adam, 677 00:47:46.030 --> 00:47:50.909 right, the first man that he created. Yeah, went astray. 678 00:47:51.309 --> 00:47:53.829 Yeah, and didn't didn't walk with him, rebelled against him. The only 679 00:47:53.869 --> 00:47:59.019 command he gave him and he broke it. Adam and Eve both straight from 680 00:47:59.179 --> 00:48:01.579 from God and, believe, the devil over over the Lord. It's two 681 00:48:01.659 --> 00:48:06.260 first kids. Yeah, said they they walked away, yeah, from his 682 00:48:06.539 --> 00:48:10.820 clear command. So there's a dynamic and there's a real biblical importance for us 683 00:48:10.860 --> 00:48:15.050 to focus on our families and to teach our children the word of God and 684 00:48:15.170 --> 00:48:20.170 so in their lives the truths of God's word. But that doesn't mean we're 685 00:48:20.170 --> 00:48:22.329 responsible for their souls in the sense that we can change their hearts. You 686 00:48:22.409 --> 00:48:27.159 can't make your kids give their hearts to Jesus. You can't make them continue 687 00:48:27.199 --> 00:48:30.280 to walk with God. As much as you want to, you can sow 688 00:48:30.320 --> 00:48:34.360 into them the principles of God's Word and ultimately it's between them of the Lord, 689 00:48:34.440 --> 00:48:36.639 whether or not they walk with God. Yeah, and the way that 690 00:48:36.800 --> 00:48:39.519 honors him. God could have forced Adam and Eve to follow him, but 691 00:48:39.559 --> 00:48:43.789 he didn't. He give them free will. He gave them the opportunity to 692 00:48:43.949 --> 00:48:50.510 rebel and to choose not him and and they did. So that that's true 693 00:48:50.550 --> 00:48:54.030 for all of us as as parents. We do our best and our children 694 00:48:54.190 --> 00:48:59.420 our free agents. There they have a free will and they can choose to 695 00:48:59.579 --> 00:49:02.579 follow or not to follow. Yeah, so we can't control that we can't 696 00:49:02.619 --> 00:49:07.980 control what what they will ultimately choose, but what we can control is is 697 00:49:08.579 --> 00:49:14.610 that we have done all that we can, under God, before God, 698 00:49:15.650 --> 00:49:19.170 that he has commanded us to do, with Damn and with ministry. Yeah, 699 00:49:19.210 --> 00:49:22.969 and then leave the results to God. Yeah, absolutely well with that. 700 00:49:23.400 --> 00:49:27.440 We'll wrap this thing up. Sound good? Yeah, all right. 701 00:49:27.519 --> 00:49:30.599 Well, guys, we appreciate you tuning in and we appreciate if you, 702 00:49:30.679 --> 00:49:35.920 guys, would share this podcast with your friends. Let folks know what you 703 00:49:36.079 --> 00:49:39.829 heard, share some feedback with us. Maybe there's subjects that we haven't covered 704 00:49:39.869 --> 00:49:43.909 yet that you would like for us to cover, maybe subjects that we've all 705 00:49:44.070 --> 00:49:47.909 already covered but we didn't cover thoroughly enough for things this, questions that you 706 00:49:47.949 --> 00:49:52.110 have about podcast that we've done in the past, we'd love to hear from 707 00:49:52.190 --> 00:49:54.019 you. You can reach out to me, Daniel at Love Life Dot Org. 708 00:49:54.539 --> 00:49:58.460 You can reach her at Vicky at Love Life Dot Org. We'd love 709 00:49:58.539 --> 00:50:05.980 to hear from you, but until next time, God bless give me our 710 00:50:06.300 --> 00:50:17.489 love for love, give me our love for gratitude. I know it will 711 00:50:17.650 --> 00:50:27.119 cost me my life. Nothing's too precious and some you